Confession of a member of CF *mod hat*

[BelindaP]

Come hang with us in the recover, mental health and women's forums. I think you'll find a lot of good fellowship there.

 

[Rochir]

I totally get your point, but I don't think she knows you well enough to get that you are using sardonic humor.

BritneySpears, he really is being funny!

I'm not being funny - I'M honest!

But yeah, welcome BS!

 

[Ruby Moon]

 

[BelindaP]

Some of the things Jesus said about the Pharisees were funny, too! Primarily because they were so honest!

Keep up the good work of keeping us honest.

 

[Ruby Moon]

I don't understand what he means anymore, I guess my mistake is I want everyone to like me and forgive me which won't happen. I need to stop being so selfish. I guess I gotta accept not everyone is going to like me or believe me. Maybe, I need to stop worrying about all my faults.

 

[Rochir]

I would guess that he is one of the least-judgmental folks around here. If you ever need somebody to get your back in a debate, just PM him. I really enjoy reading his posts.

Thank you!

 

[BelindaP]

Again, the sardonic humor--some would call it sarcastic, but I don't think it is.

When you read his posts in debates, you will understand. He is very plain about what he thinks (the truth), but also subletly humorous. He was just protesting (humorously) to me that he wasn't trying to be funny, just to tell the truth.

I guarantee you that he finds many Christians on this forum to be unkind, just as you have experienced. In his original post, that was what he was trying to convey. Hope the explanation helps.

 

[LibertyChic]

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Silly me...I didn't get it at first. I think I do now.

 

[Rochir]

I don't understand what he means anymore,

Hey, it's not really important what people on CF think about you. Nor even what peope in RL do. What counts is that He loves you and is with you, whether you know it or not. And, unlike many here, He does not demand that you conform to Him do that he will love you. he already does.

So, please, don't let peopel here get you down. if they do, then - honestly - maybe a rough message board community like this one isn't for you!

 

[scraparcs]

I just pray people will understand instead of gossiping about me or calling me fake. I also pray this forum becomes a christian ministry instead of a forum where you get hurt really bad and are judge, or told you're not married by their standards.

So do I.

We may try to minister to people, but if we're hurting and judging others instead of helping, that's not a great job.

Now, let me turn the tables on you -- how could we improve? What could CF do better?

 

[Ruby Moon]

I do not know, I don't know what to say, I'm sorry.

 

[scraparcs]

No, no need for apology, I just wonder what people might suggest we do instead. Maybe someone has a really good idea out there and I'm hoping they'll speak up.

 

[Auntie]

No, no need for apology, I just wonder what people might suggest we do instead. Maybe someone has a really good idea out there and I'm hoping they'll speak up.

Maybe just being nice to people? Is that too big of a deal?

 

[Ruby Moon]

Maybe just being nice to people? Is that too big of a deal?

Alot of mods are CF are very nice to people, some might not be. I try to remember mods are humans like us and aren't perfect. I think when mods and members can understand eachother things will be better. We don't know how any of these people's real life is like. everyone is different, so I try to treat everyone with kindness.

hope i made some sense.

 

[E-beth]

Britney--

God bless you!!! Thanks for posting this here. I don't know what all happened before, as I avoid debatey forums like the plague, but I don't have to know more than you have said here to know that you have a tender heart.

Never let anyone make you feel less than the beautiful creation that you are. If anyone rubs your nose in your sin, just remember that everyone here is just a nasty, dirty, no-good sinner. But some of us have accepted forgiveness of that sin and try to move past it.

The best guy who can ever know is Jesus Christ. He loves you, warts and all, as my Grampa used to say.

Thanks also for helping me remember that I was also overwhelmed and unsure when I first posted at CF. Back then it was less than half of what it is now, but it still scared me. So please let me know if you ever need a helping hand.

 

[meh]

I don't understand what he means anymore, I guess my mistake is I want everyone to like me and forgive me which won't happen. I need to stop being so selfish. I guess I gotta accept not everyone is going to like me or believe me. Maybe, I need to stop worrying about all my faults.

It is not selfish to want to be liked or forgiven. It isn't selfish to want friends or attention. We all need friends and attention. Sometimes when we are brave and take a chance and reach out to people in friendship, we will be rejected. It happens to everyone and it is sad. Sometimes it makes us so sad we quit trying. But don't. Keep reaching your hand out to people, and some will grab on. Their love and friendship will help ease the pain from the others who say no.

I think it's very brave to ask for forgiveness. If you ever need anything, please PM me.

 

[Ruby Moon]

thank you all for understanding, I know now I'll stay away from anything debate, a person like me shouldn't debate because it just upsets me. That what started alot of my pain to start with, well no more debate for me. I will pray I don't even get into the tempation of debating because it just brings me down.

to all

 

[Freedom&Light]

You would be very welcome in Whosoever Will, May Come, which is a great place to discuss these things. It's a great place to learn, get your ideas on the table, and not be assaulted by those who are a little more zealous in their evangelism.

 

[sparklecat]

Maybe just being nice to people? Is that too big of a deal?

Only really works for the individual, though. I don't think CF wants to moderate for niceness.

 

[CFpetRESCUER3]

praying 4 u