Well, both the Calvinist's interpretation and the interpretation of the Eternal Security Proponent who is a non-Calvinist falsely misunderstand
Romans 3 because they are not looking at the Old Testament reference properly to understand what is actually being said.
Psalms 14:1 is the type of person who is being spoken of here. It speaks of the fool who says there is no God. This is the colorful language of how the Gentiles as a whole were at one time referred to as. At one time, the Gentiles did not seek after God, etc. However, now that has all changed. Salvation has been received by the Gentiles. One does not need to become a Jew. Both Jews and Gentiles can come to God equally by having the proper faith in Jesus Christ.
As for Eternal Security Proponent who is a non-Calvinist, they interpret Romans 3:10 and Romans 3:23 as saying that all people are sinners (including saints who are supposed to be faithful to their Lord). However, this is a wrong misunderstanding on this verse, though.
For if they believe
Romans 3:10 and
Romans 3:23 both teach that this is talking to the faithful saint: Then they must also believe that the faithful saint has no understanding and does not seek after God, too. For
Romans 3:11 says,
"There is none that understands, there is none that seeks after God."
(
Romans 3:11).
In other words,
Romans 3:10 is a reference to
Psalms 14:1 to the fool who says there is no God (i.e. the Gentiles of the Old Covenant).
Nowhere does
Romans 3 suggest that this is referring to the faithful saint in Jesus Christ.
For without holiness, no man shall see the Lord (
Hebrews 12:14).
The Bible says, "Little children, let no one deceive you. Whoever practices righteousness is righteous, as he is righteous." (
1 John 3:7).
The Bible says, "He that commits sin is of the devil; " (
1 John 3:8).
The Bible says, "For everyone that does evil hates the light," (
John 3:20).
As for Calvinist's interpretation of Romans 3:10-11, and Romans 3:23:
Well, they see these verses as teaching that an unbeliever does not have the capacity to come to God on his own power without a regeneration (Which is what I used to believe and what you are trying to push upon me now).
But Scripture has to be read as a whole.
As I stated before, Romans 3:11 is colorful language used to refer to the Gentiles as a whole in Psalms 14. For the Psalm spoke generally of the Gentiles as a fool who says there is no God. In other words, this is the type of person who would be called an "atheist" today. However, this does not mean that all Gentiles in Old Testament history were atheists, though. For we know that the Ninevites had repented of their sins at the preaching of Jonah. We know Rahab and her household had joined the Israelites.
Anyways, your theory for the motivation of why man does not choose God is not Biblical. You are saying that man has no capacity to accept God without a regeneration from the Lord. But what about Adam? What about Lucifer? Did not both Adam and Lucifer act contrary to their good natures and do something sinful and bad? Was Total Depravity applied to them, as well? Surely not. Hence, the huge gaping flaw in your belief system here, my friend. For...
#1. You are not explaining Matthew 23:37. Why? I believe you cannot honestly do so.
#2. God tells Cain in Genesis 4:7 that he has the capacity to do either good or to sin. In other words, God was telling Cain that he had a choice.
#3. In Deuteronomy 30:19, the Israelites were told that life and death were set before them and then they were told to choose life. This would not be possible if what you are teaching here was true.
As for your question as to why men do good or evil:
You believe men do good because God makes them that way and that men do bad because of Adam's one act of rebellion against God.
While it is true, that Adam's one act of rebellion has effected mankind (on some level) and that men need a spiritual regeneration (or re-birth) so as to be restored back to the good nature that Adam had (who also had a free will choice to choose between good and evil), this does not mean that all unbelievers in existence at this present moment in time right now do not have a free will choice to choose God on their own power or ability. For unbelievers make good and bad choices every day. Granted, the good they choose is not out of any kind of good flowing thru them from the Lord (Which is true good or righteousness), but that does not mean they cannot act on their own ability to repent and accept the Lord of their own choosing. The Fall merely has made mankind inclined to sin; And on their own, they cannot obey God's ways. They need a spiritual regeneration by accepting Christ of their own free will choice.
Okay, so what is my reason for as to why some men accept Christ and why some men reject Christ? Well, first, I believe God created in every person the equal capacity to choose Christ or to reject Him in this life. Why? Because why would God reward some and punish others? Again, we have to look at this as if we were detectives. If what you are saying is true, and God just made some to be saved and others to not be saved, then the Bible would not speak in such a way that the righteous are being rewarded and that the wicked are being punished. It would simply speak in a cold methodical way of how the righteous and the wicked have different destinies. But the Bible does not use such cold and heartless words to describe the fate of the righteous and the wicked.
So then, what is the reason then? Why do people choose to accept and or reject Christ? What is the motivation or root reason? Because that is simply their desire within the frame work of their free will choice. God knew there would be those who would choose the wrong thing (even when they had the capacity to choose the right way). Was this a design flaw within the creation? Surely not. God merely made it possible for man to equally have the capacity to choose Him or to not choose Him.
"So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God." --- (Romans 14:12).
This verse above here does not make any sense in light of Calvinism. Hypothetically speaking: If a person was Totally Depraved at the Judgment (Whereby they are to give an account of themselves to God), they would just tell God that they acted that way because they could not help it. For they will tell God that they are Totally Depraved and that they did not receive a spiritual regeneration from Him (i.e. the Lord). So they would in essence be trying to blame God for their own bad condition (Which is wrong).
Anyways, I will be praying for you, my friend.
May God's love and peace be upon you this fine day.
Sincerely,
Jason.
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