I have Asperger's and I'm gonna vent. No I am not having a pity party or feeling sorry for myself I am venting because just like everyone else things bother me. Things upset me. I don't express it the way others do in fact my face is expressionless. My voice is monotone. But just because I don't express it doesn't mean I'm a total robot. Yes I'm very unemotional when it comes to most things. I will now share how my Asperger's affects me and vent...
I feel no emotions for music at all. I'm unable to do that. Music does not make me happy or sad or anything else. I do get a high from music. The high I get feels like a sugar rush or a caffeine rush so when there is music I dance I gotta move. Hard to keep still when having a sugar or caffeine rush. I dance during worship at Church I'm the only one who dances but the Pastor said it's ok so I dance. I do wish someone else would join me dancing I would like that but no one ever does. I never go to public places where there is dancing cause I know I would end up a wallflower trying to look comfortable sitting alone next to a potted plant. I've been to places where there is dancing and that's exactly what's happened. I just sit and watch other people dance and that's no fun at all.
I feel no emotions at all for nature. I see other people get such a thrill from looking at the stars or a sunset when I look I feel nothing at all. I want to share that and feel what they feel but I can't. Sometimes I feel like I'm less of a Christian cause I know GOD created all the outdoors for His glory and yet I feel no feelings for His creation. I hear people express their feelings about creation with such a passion and yet the best I can do is say "it's nice." Even that is stretching it cause I honestly have no feelings at all for nature.
My emotions that I do have turn off against my will and I can't get them back on. They turn on and off but I dunno who is flipping the switch and it's not me. It happened at a friends wedding I was excited (yes I felt excitement) she always wanted to be married. I watched the wedding and it happened I was stone I literally felt nothing I turned and looked at those around me and everyone but me is emotional only reason I knew they were emotional is cause they wiped tears from their eyes. I wanted to join in and feel something but I couldn't I literally couldn't feel anything during the wedding ceremony. It wasn't like I was overstimulated nope I know when that happens and I simply leave when that happens and that wasn't it. No one had said or done anything wrong to me and I wasn't purposely working on feeling nothing in fact I was doing the exact opposite of that. Yet I felt nothing the whole time and there was nothing I could do about it. It's happened numerous times in public and at home. All I can do when they turn off is just wait for my emotions to turn on again. People pointing it out to me doesn't help either cause I'll remember what they said when my emotions are back on and feel horribly guilty for being unemotional. I don't know what triggers my emotions to turn on and off against my will all I know is it happens.
I'm unable to read body language or facial expressions at all. I can't even read tone of voice because I'm tone deaf. So even among my friends (none of which are autistic except for one lady who is much older then me I rarely get to see) I feel like I'm on the outside looking in left out and alone cause I can't read them. I know my friends love me they tell me they love me and they give me lots of hugs which I like hugging is one of my favorite things to do. Still I can't connect with them cause I don't understand them and they don't understand me. Also all my friends except one are aged 50 and over cause I get along better with people older then me I dunno why I just do. What bothers me is they parent me and I already have parents but I wonder if they feel they have to cause I have special needs. They don't do that to others my age just me and I want them to stop babying me but I don't know how to communicate that to them. Could someone please tell me how I can say that to my friends in a Christ like way? I would like friends my age though but I dunno how to be friends with people my age I don't understand them. With people age 50 and over I don't need to understand them they will talk endlessly about their mortgages, their spouses, their kids and many things I don't understand and all I have to do is just nod along. I would like to have more of a conversation with people but I dunno how. I have sever social anxiety and I have to think what do I say and what do I do. I always worry if I'm gonna say or do something wrong.
I always have racing thoughts that literally never stop. I'm always thinking about a million different things at once and I can't stop it or slow it down. It's overwhelming. I notice everything literally I see every single detail about everything I'm just unable to process it as fast as I am thinking it. I also think in pictures like Temple Grandin does.
I also have seasonal depression. Every time the seasons change from spring to summer, from summer to fall, from fall to winter and from winter to spring I get the blues or as Sherlock Holmes calls it a black mood. I'm unable to control it and telling me to cheer up doesn't help. I don't wanna be told to think positive or anything near that. When I share my blues aka depression I just want to be listened to and prayed for that's it. When I go through it I no longer have any interest in things I normally like, I feel sad all the time, sometimes cry for no reason, I lose my appetite, I can't sleep, I have no energy, I don't wanna talk to anyone and I don't want anyone to talk to me. Sometimes I'll also get stomach aches, back aches and neck aches during that time. I'm also very vulnerable to nightmares during that time so if I do sleep I'll have a bad dream. During that time I also feel like I'm in a daze and not fully aware of everything around me. When I finally come out of it I feel like I have woken up from a very deep sleep. Sometimes the black mood only lasts a day sometimes it'll last for weeks and even up to a full month. I have no control over when it starts or when it stops.
I am lonely. I want to have friends with autism who are my age but I dunno where to find them. I'm 27 be 28 this September 1st. But I think my brain might be younger then the rest of me cause I use the word "like" a lot like a teenager does, and I wanna do sleepovers (I only went to two and it was just me and another girl and all she did was stare at her phone the whole time that was boring), I still like to color and build forts and I still like arcades and theme parks. I wanna do a sleepover like the kind Betty and Veronica have in Archie comics where there's lots of girls and they do each others nail polish and talk about makeup and clothes and watch a romantic comedy what guys would call a chick flick or a Disney/Pixar movie and other girly stuff like that.
I am also lonely cause I don't have a boyfriend. I haven't had a date in five years. I never been kissed. When guys have danced with me it's cause they were forced to. I want to have a boyfriend. I want romance like going for walks holding hands, sharing secrets with each other we have never told anyone else, dancing when there is no music (no I don't mean the mattress cha cha) I mean normal slow dancing but have no music playing, him giving me flowers when there is no reason like no holiday or anything, him writing me and sending me a letter even when I'll see him the next day and stuff like that. I've never had any of that and I want to experience all of that at least once.
I don't feel pain when I am supposed to. When I fall I have to find someone to help find scrapes on me cause I won't feel pain. I have bruises from falling and they never hurt.
I also have dyspraxia. I think this is why I trip and fall so much. I have to walk downstairs sideways holding onto the rail cause my balance is really bad. I feel more balanced when I wear high heals though. I'm also told I have a very stiff gait.
I also not only dance but I rock back and forth when I listen to music. I rock back and forth a lot I like doing it.
When I read I like to sit upside down like put my head where the seat is and put my feet the back of the chair. I also like wearing mismatched socks.
I'm unable to drive I have no peripheral vision at all and my reflexes are incredibly slow.
I am frustrated because I'm getting no help or services at all from the government. Battled 6 years for services even with a lawyer keep getting turned down cause they say I'm not sever enough. I have no squeeze machine or weighted vest even though I would like to have those. I get no therapy or any extra help or any money for my autism at all. I heard my Mom begging Inland Regional to give me services she told them should something happen to her like her dying before me I am homeless. This thought scares me.
I dunno what is gonna happen to me I never got my GED wasn't able to and now I can't afford to try again. I am trained for nothing I have no experience in anything. I'm an Avon e-representative but I'm failing miserably at it. They tell me to have passion for the products but I can't do that I don't feel anything at all for any product. I'm not allowed to go door to door in my community it's a gated community (believe me it's not all it's cracked up to be.) I would get a big fine if I went door to door and there's no flyers allowed either. I'm in Canyon Lake California go ahead and google it and you'll see it's a small place with no services at all for me. I want to move to somewhere else where there is help and services for me but I'm unable to do that. I'm also totally broke I have no money of my own. I'm also not an American citizen yet I would like to be and my green card expires next year but that takes money I don't have and I dunno what to do or how to do it.
I also don't know how to tell time or count money. I keep working on it but I'm finding it very difficult.
I tried once to tell a Christian sister my vent and she stopped me and said that I gotta figure it out on my own and just get out there and overcome and that no one was gonna do it but me. I felt so alone when she said that. I thought it's ok for everyone else to ask for help no one is an island why is it bad for me to ask for help?? When people tell me to overcome I hear "just stop being you. change into someone else so that you can be like everyone else because right now you don't fit in." It always hurts my feelings. The world at large rejects me cause I'm different I'm called weird and a freak and odd and retarded and short bus. I'm the elephant in the room. I would like to just make things happen but I can't I want to figure it out on my own but I can't. No one seems to get the fact that I have limitations just like everyone else and they all want me to just do stuff that I can't do. As if I have some hidden cure for autism.
One thing that makes me very angry is the Christian teaching that if you believe in Jesus you'll be healed of everything and if you have autism or in a wheelchair or even have a cold your under some curse or don't have enough faith. Nothing gets me angrier then that. I've been rejected enough by the world I don't need the Church rejecting me as well. I need acceptance for who I am. I need to hear that who I am is ok and that I can be myself and there's nothing wrong with that. I need to hear that I don't need to change or put on an act just to be accepted. Thankfully my home Church doesn't believe in or spread that lie so I'm accepted there.
So that's my vent for now...
I feel no emotions for music at all. I'm unable to do that. Music does not make me happy or sad or anything else. I do get a high from music. The high I get feels like a sugar rush or a caffeine rush so when there is music I dance I gotta move. Hard to keep still when having a sugar or caffeine rush. I dance during worship at Church I'm the only one who dances but the Pastor said it's ok so I dance. I do wish someone else would join me dancing I would like that but no one ever does. I never go to public places where there is dancing cause I know I would end up a wallflower trying to look comfortable sitting alone next to a potted plant. I've been to places where there is dancing and that's exactly what's happened. I just sit and watch other people dance and that's no fun at all.
I feel no emotions at all for nature. I see other people get such a thrill from looking at the stars or a sunset when I look I feel nothing at all. I want to share that and feel what they feel but I can't. Sometimes I feel like I'm less of a Christian cause I know GOD created all the outdoors for His glory and yet I feel no feelings for His creation. I hear people express their feelings about creation with such a passion and yet the best I can do is say "it's nice." Even that is stretching it cause I honestly have no feelings at all for nature.
My emotions that I do have turn off against my will and I can't get them back on. They turn on and off but I dunno who is flipping the switch and it's not me. It happened at a friends wedding I was excited (yes I felt excitement) she always wanted to be married. I watched the wedding and it happened I was stone I literally felt nothing I turned and looked at those around me and everyone but me is emotional only reason I knew they were emotional is cause they wiped tears from their eyes. I wanted to join in and feel something but I couldn't I literally couldn't feel anything during the wedding ceremony. It wasn't like I was overstimulated nope I know when that happens and I simply leave when that happens and that wasn't it. No one had said or done anything wrong to me and I wasn't purposely working on feeling nothing in fact I was doing the exact opposite of that. Yet I felt nothing the whole time and there was nothing I could do about it. It's happened numerous times in public and at home. All I can do when they turn off is just wait for my emotions to turn on again. People pointing it out to me doesn't help either cause I'll remember what they said when my emotions are back on and feel horribly guilty for being unemotional. I don't know what triggers my emotions to turn on and off against my will all I know is it happens.
I'm unable to read body language or facial expressions at all. I can't even read tone of voice because I'm tone deaf. So even among my friends (none of which are autistic except for one lady who is much older then me I rarely get to see) I feel like I'm on the outside looking in left out and alone cause I can't read them. I know my friends love me they tell me they love me and they give me lots of hugs which I like hugging is one of my favorite things to do. Still I can't connect with them cause I don't understand them and they don't understand me. Also all my friends except one are aged 50 and over cause I get along better with people older then me I dunno why I just do. What bothers me is they parent me and I already have parents but I wonder if they feel they have to cause I have special needs. They don't do that to others my age just me and I want them to stop babying me but I don't know how to communicate that to them. Could someone please tell me how I can say that to my friends in a Christ like way? I would like friends my age though but I dunno how to be friends with people my age I don't understand them. With people age 50 and over I don't need to understand them they will talk endlessly about their mortgages, their spouses, their kids and many things I don't understand and all I have to do is just nod along. I would like to have more of a conversation with people but I dunno how. I have sever social anxiety and I have to think what do I say and what do I do. I always worry if I'm gonna say or do something wrong.
I always have racing thoughts that literally never stop. I'm always thinking about a million different things at once and I can't stop it or slow it down. It's overwhelming. I notice everything literally I see every single detail about everything I'm just unable to process it as fast as I am thinking it. I also think in pictures like Temple Grandin does.
I also have seasonal depression. Every time the seasons change from spring to summer, from summer to fall, from fall to winter and from winter to spring I get the blues or as Sherlock Holmes calls it a black mood. I'm unable to control it and telling me to cheer up doesn't help. I don't wanna be told to think positive or anything near that. When I share my blues aka depression I just want to be listened to and prayed for that's it. When I go through it I no longer have any interest in things I normally like, I feel sad all the time, sometimes cry for no reason, I lose my appetite, I can't sleep, I have no energy, I don't wanna talk to anyone and I don't want anyone to talk to me. Sometimes I'll also get stomach aches, back aches and neck aches during that time. I'm also very vulnerable to nightmares during that time so if I do sleep I'll have a bad dream. During that time I also feel like I'm in a daze and not fully aware of everything around me. When I finally come out of it I feel like I have woken up from a very deep sleep. Sometimes the black mood only lasts a day sometimes it'll last for weeks and even up to a full month. I have no control over when it starts or when it stops.
I am lonely. I want to have friends with autism who are my age but I dunno where to find them. I'm 27 be 28 this September 1st. But I think my brain might be younger then the rest of me cause I use the word "like" a lot like a teenager does, and I wanna do sleepovers (I only went to two and it was just me and another girl and all she did was stare at her phone the whole time that was boring), I still like to color and build forts and I still like arcades and theme parks. I wanna do a sleepover like the kind Betty and Veronica have in Archie comics where there's lots of girls and they do each others nail polish and talk about makeup and clothes and watch a romantic comedy what guys would call a chick flick or a Disney/Pixar movie and other girly stuff like that.
I am also lonely cause I don't have a boyfriend. I haven't had a date in five years. I never been kissed. When guys have danced with me it's cause they were forced to. I want to have a boyfriend. I want romance like going for walks holding hands, sharing secrets with each other we have never told anyone else, dancing when there is no music (no I don't mean the mattress cha cha) I mean normal slow dancing but have no music playing, him giving me flowers when there is no reason like no holiday or anything, him writing me and sending me a letter even when I'll see him the next day and stuff like that. I've never had any of that and I want to experience all of that at least once.
I don't feel pain when I am supposed to. When I fall I have to find someone to help find scrapes on me cause I won't feel pain. I have bruises from falling and they never hurt.
I also have dyspraxia. I think this is why I trip and fall so much. I have to walk downstairs sideways holding onto the rail cause my balance is really bad. I feel more balanced when I wear high heals though. I'm also told I have a very stiff gait.
I also not only dance but I rock back and forth when I listen to music. I rock back and forth a lot I like doing it.
When I read I like to sit upside down like put my head where the seat is and put my feet the back of the chair. I also like wearing mismatched socks.
I'm unable to drive I have no peripheral vision at all and my reflexes are incredibly slow.
I am frustrated because I'm getting no help or services at all from the government. Battled 6 years for services even with a lawyer keep getting turned down cause they say I'm not sever enough. I have no squeeze machine or weighted vest even though I would like to have those. I get no therapy or any extra help or any money for my autism at all. I heard my Mom begging Inland Regional to give me services she told them should something happen to her like her dying before me I am homeless. This thought scares me.
I dunno what is gonna happen to me I never got my GED wasn't able to and now I can't afford to try again. I am trained for nothing I have no experience in anything. I'm an Avon e-representative but I'm failing miserably at it. They tell me to have passion for the products but I can't do that I don't feel anything at all for any product. I'm not allowed to go door to door in my community it's a gated community (believe me it's not all it's cracked up to be.) I would get a big fine if I went door to door and there's no flyers allowed either. I'm in Canyon Lake California go ahead and google it and you'll see it's a small place with no services at all for me. I want to move to somewhere else where there is help and services for me but I'm unable to do that. I'm also totally broke I have no money of my own. I'm also not an American citizen yet I would like to be and my green card expires next year but that takes money I don't have and I dunno what to do or how to do it.
I also don't know how to tell time or count money. I keep working on it but I'm finding it very difficult.
I tried once to tell a Christian sister my vent and she stopped me and said that I gotta figure it out on my own and just get out there and overcome and that no one was gonna do it but me. I felt so alone when she said that. I thought it's ok for everyone else to ask for help no one is an island why is it bad for me to ask for help?? When people tell me to overcome I hear "just stop being you. change into someone else so that you can be like everyone else because right now you don't fit in." It always hurts my feelings. The world at large rejects me cause I'm different I'm called weird and a freak and odd and retarded and short bus. I'm the elephant in the room. I would like to just make things happen but I can't I want to figure it out on my own but I can't. No one seems to get the fact that I have limitations just like everyone else and they all want me to just do stuff that I can't do. As if I have some hidden cure for autism.
One thing that makes me very angry is the Christian teaching that if you believe in Jesus you'll be healed of everything and if you have autism or in a wheelchair or even have a cold your under some curse or don't have enough faith. Nothing gets me angrier then that. I've been rejected enough by the world I don't need the Church rejecting me as well. I need acceptance for who I am. I need to hear that who I am is ok and that I can be myself and there's nothing wrong with that. I need to hear that I don't need to change or put on an act just to be accepted. Thankfully my home Church doesn't believe in or spread that lie so I'm accepted there.
So that's my vent for now...