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In order to try to bridge the gap slightly, I thought a thread concerning my Aspergers in relation to Christianity (since I probably touched a nerve in regards to a discussion regarding Aspies and tendency towards being Christian, etc) would be a way to bury the hatchet
I've been an apostate for quite a while (well over 10 years, since I was formally not Christian around 13 or so, though I stuck it out until I was 18, at which point my parents had an implied truce). It's rarely been an issue, except when I try to discuss it online, which has isolated me especially from family on my mother's side, having to unfriend them because they thought I was "corrupting" their oldest son.
But there's always been a feeling of separation in terms of being only somewhat able to relate in regards to Christian imagery, etc. The values can be admirable, though there's also a tendency to be excessively altruistic and other things I'm not entirely able to see as valuable or fulfilling. It's not as if I don't have some general familial connection, though I had little concern about missing a family reunion because of a convention I had responsibilities at. Part of that was because I don't feel a particular sentiment towards distant family, but also because I see people at fan conventions as more a family than the one I was born with for the most part.
The last few times have been particularly troubling, especially with my mother, a woman of Christian faith herself, finding one of my cousins almost obnoxious in implicitly targeting me, knowing I was everything he was painting as some evil threat to Christianity in America. We've since stopped the church services after the reunions, from what I'm aware.
It's not as if I don't have a general knowledge and curiosity about Christianity in a literary and cultural sense of something that people find important personally. I'm a religion major, which I imagine could be a bit unusual in many Aspies' minds, if we're going with the idea that many lean more towards hard sciences, etc, as opposed to social sciences or the humanities. Always came up with people that they thought I'd be going into divinity school/seminary because of my major, but that's another issue entirely of religious studies versus theology and how they nonetheless overlap in academia to an extent.
So, considering there do seem to be other with HFA that are seemingly more the social Aspie that's just awkward instead of myself, who isn't nearly as social and doesn't care as much for human contact as other Aspies may, do you have any advice or general thoughts about this, especially if we're trying to meet somewhere in the middle?
I've been an apostate for quite a while (well over 10 years, since I was formally not Christian around 13 or so, though I stuck it out until I was 18, at which point my parents had an implied truce). It's rarely been an issue, except when I try to discuss it online, which has isolated me especially from family on my mother's side, having to unfriend them because they thought I was "corrupting" their oldest son.
But there's always been a feeling of separation in terms of being only somewhat able to relate in regards to Christian imagery, etc. The values can be admirable, though there's also a tendency to be excessively altruistic and other things I'm not entirely able to see as valuable or fulfilling. It's not as if I don't have some general familial connection, though I had little concern about missing a family reunion because of a convention I had responsibilities at. Part of that was because I don't feel a particular sentiment towards distant family, but also because I see people at fan conventions as more a family than the one I was born with for the most part.
The last few times have been particularly troubling, especially with my mother, a woman of Christian faith herself, finding one of my cousins almost obnoxious in implicitly targeting me, knowing I was everything he was painting as some evil threat to Christianity in America. We've since stopped the church services after the reunions, from what I'm aware.
It's not as if I don't have a general knowledge and curiosity about Christianity in a literary and cultural sense of something that people find important personally. I'm a religion major, which I imagine could be a bit unusual in many Aspies' minds, if we're going with the idea that many lean more towards hard sciences, etc, as opposed to social sciences or the humanities. Always came up with people that they thought I'd be going into divinity school/seminary because of my major, but that's another issue entirely of religious studies versus theology and how they nonetheless overlap in academia to an extent.
So, considering there do seem to be other with HFA that are seemingly more the social Aspie that's just awkward instead of myself, who isn't nearly as social and doesn't care as much for human contact as other Aspies may, do you have any advice or general thoughts about this, especially if we're trying to meet somewhere in the middle?