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Asexuality

Discussion in 'Questions by Non-Christians (Archived)' started by Jakkaru, Feb 15, 2007.

  1. Jakkaru

    Jakkaru New Member

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    Pretty simple question here. Is Asexuality against bible teachings or sinful? I know it is considered a sin to be homosexual but I was wondering if asexuality is also considered sinful since I (yes I am asexual) have no sexual attraction either way.
     
  2. InnocentOdion

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    Erm. I don't think so. And I don't see it as a sin. With asexuality, doesn't it mean you could become celibate?
     
  3. heron

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    I think of that as a personality trait, or a lack of feeling/libido, or a prioritization. Not consciously moving out in acts that involve other people, and not obsessed as others might be in satisfying desires. Restraint comes easier.

    Have you ever looked at Myers-Briggs Type Indicator? I have seen writings on this that ascribe certain personality types (esp. INTJ) to be less interested in sex in general, and more focused on what they consider higher aims, or developing their own ideas. (I don't think that statement was part of the original handbook.)

    This type tends to be more aloof and analytical, more interested in understanding than in financial or tangible gain. That tendency would remove all the clutter of cinching a good catch, proving one's worth through prowess, and allowing sudden desires to control actions.
     
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    Confess Doing great with kids 8!

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  5. Jakkaru

    Jakkaru New Member

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    I suppose I could. I just don't have attraction but it doesn't mean I want to be alone. I can't go on looks but I can fall for someones perosnality but it's really hard. I just wanted to know if an apathy towards sexual attraction aka asexuality was a sin. I still want to settle down with a nice man or woman someday. ^^
     
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    Personally, I think it's a blessing of God.
     
  7. karen freeinchristman

    karen freeinchristman More of You and less of me, Lord! Supporter

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    :preach: I do not think that asexuality is a sin.
     
  8. Seekermeister

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    Perhaps you could find the answer in the Bible using the word celibacy, instead of asexuality. Celibacy is fine, as long as it's not the result of an aversion to people. The only time that the Scriptures require a sexual relationship is for deacons and bishops of the church. This is because it is necessary for a person to demonstrate their ability to manage their own family, before being put in charge of a larger family...a Church.
     
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    May God go with you as you grow, and learn more about yourself. :)
     
  10. heron

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    Make sure you don't let anyone tell you there's something wrong with you, just for the way you naturally feel. There are factors like pheromones and pheromone receptors that are totally out of our control.

    Definitely not a sin.

    Think about monks, priests, eunuchs, (Paul mentioned above), Jesus, and even holy men of other religions. Celibacy is considered an effort of restraint that frees us to pursue holiness and goals more freely, without the pull of another person.

    Some people choose not to date until they find someone clearly worth it. Your ambivalence/indifference prevents you from making huge mistakes too early in life.

    If anyone makes fun of you for not dating, hold the stance that your way is as valid as theirs. You'll make a fine spouse some day.
     
  11. Jakkaru

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    Hmm, well I guess I HAVE sinned though, I still date but only to appear normal among other things. Asexuality can be quite unnerving at times especially in conjunction with my bi-polar and schizoid syndromes. (My doctor thinks my asexuality is not my own choice but a symptom of my schizoid) so it can be quite annoying. ^^
     
  12. Key

    Key The Opener of Locks

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    It might not be Asexuality, but as you put it, apathy to the point.

    But it is in no way, shape, or form, any type or kind of sin.

    and, I have dated woman that I have not been attracted to... so that is not a sin either.

    God Bless

    Key
     
  13. Dynaric

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    It takes a lot of courage to ask a queston like this and I applaude you for searching for the right answers for your life. I don't think not having a sexual interest is a sin. However reading the post I have quoted above states that a man or a woman would be ok to settle down with? If this is the case, your non-interest could easily be moved into homo-sexuality and that is sin.

    I really did not have an urge or desire for sexual thoughts or matters until I was about 18, shortly after that I met the woman who is now my wife of almost 15 years. The fact that I did not date and was not sleeping with everything that moved caused a lot of ridicule and accusations that I must be gay, even from my own father. Just because you are not interested today is not a reason to think that God doesn't have something for you in the months or years ahead. You say you are attracted to personalities not the sex of the persons, guys who have good personalities can be great friends, as can ladies, a marriage is between one man and one woman and I will say that my wifes personality was and is the thing that most attracts me to my bride even today. If God has a lady for you great! if not follow the apostle Paul's advice and use that to work for the Lord,


    Search the scriptures ask God to show you His will for your life and know that He loves you totally and completely!

    Dynaric
     
  14. Elenakiara

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    Heh, I just made a thread about this yesterday in the Christian Teens forum a few days ago. ^_^
    Except the replies in this thread were much better than in that one, where I felt less... normal than I should feel. ^^'
    So, I guess I'm a bit biased about this subject by now and state that I don't see it as a sin at all but something that frees you from many of the temptations that people suffer with these days. :)
     
  15. heron

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    Your doctor might be letting you in on the typical symptoms, and also the side effects of medications. In any case, I still think you don't need to consider it abnormal.

    Dating people you're not passionate about might be the ideal way for any of us to prepare for a longer relationship! Then you are not swayed by that locked-in feeling, the sense that your love will conquer all. You can be a decent human being and a friend. (-:

    Marriage is a lot more about practical daily life and a partnership, than living out passions decade after decade. Partners lean on each other and pick up the slack when one is down. They are a stabilizing influence at their best, but can destabilize faster than you can snap your fingers.
     
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    specifically not a sin. A blessing.
     
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    Asexuality certainly isn't a sin. The only way that it could conceivably become a sin would be if you were to marry a person with a higher sex drive and not fulfill your husbandly duty. However, if you choose well, that shouldn't be a problem either. Just make sure that there is full disclosure before the marriage so that anybody you marry is cool with it. In fact, there are plenty of women who would consider your asexuality to be a blessing in the marriage rather than a negative.

    Before you completely accept that you are asexual, though, have you had a full physical? Having no sex drive could be a sign of a hormonal imbalance. It probably isn't, but it's always worth having it looked at.
     
  18. Catherineanne

    Catherineanne Writer of pictures.

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    No. In Christian terms living with no interest in a genital expression of your sexuality is called celibacy. If it continues for a whole lifetime it is lifelong celibacy. However, for someone of 16 to say that they are asexual is not an indication that they will always be. People mature in different aspects of their life at different times, and 16 is still in many ways very young, so I would not accept any labels at all as yet, if I were you.

    Catholic priests, as well as any Christian monk or nun, are called to live a celibate life.

    For many of the church fathers, the celibate life was superior to any alternative, because it allowed the person to connect in a much more intense way with the Deity, rather than being distracted by thoughts of spouse and children. And having a celibate priesthood was a real advantage for the church, because there was, in theory if not in practice, nowhere for church money to be left, except to the church.

    In modern times, this kind of thinking is rapidly becoming outdated, and few of us now think that a celibate life is superior to a married life, or that marriage necessarily entails sin, as was once thought.

    But even so, celibacy is not sinful in any way, or in any denomination. :wave:
     
  19. Catherineanne

    Catherineanne Writer of pictures.

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    This is not true. Paul (I think it is) says that a bishop must be the husband of one wife, which is about not having more than one wife, not about having to be married.

    In the RCC and Orthodox church, bishops are unmarried.

    And they are no less bishops. :wave: