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So first off, when I look at this, it sounds like a poor, poor word choice by an administrator. Obviously, common sense dictates that it is not "illegal" to take a kid out early. Perhaps they meant "unexcused absence", but all of this seems like fodder for some other underlying issues.That is a two way street. When I go to pick my child up an hour early for a family need and I am told by staff it will count as an "illegal" absence, that adversarial relationship is being fostered by the school system. Choosing such language to use in relation to parents is a deliberate attempt to create the illusion the school system has the ultimate power over the children, as opposed to the parents.
Using phrases like "deliberate attempt" speaks MUCH more about you than the people you accuse (at least in this situation). As said, someone misspoke and you've chose to see that as a representation of an ENTIRE system. Schools recognize that the ultimate power over children is held by parents, but that doesn't mean that it's appropriate to cave to every single whim and fancy that a parent comes at. The "customer is always right" attitude is foolish and folly. You don't need a licence to parent; you don't even have to be sane. So you'll have to excuse teachers for now cowtowing to every whim of every parent. And if a parent presents as high maintenance and adversarial and this is rarely don't respectfully in my and my friends' experience, (which, there is NO DOUBT AT ALL, you do) don't expect to get treated with respect back.
I thank you for proving my point. Continue with that attitude, and especially subconsciously doing so around your children and you will see the OUTCOMES of your education system erode very quickly.If parents will not fight back against an overreaching school system imposing its will, no one will.
Relative to the GENERAL public, educators ARE superior in educational pedagogy and all aspects thereof, as well as child development. So, in aspects of education and development they ARE better informed and their judgement, frequently IS more sound. You don't have to like it but that is true.Far too many parents operate under the illusion that teachers, by virtue of the fact they are teachers, are somehow superior in both intellect and judgement.
In my opinion, parents with your attitude have misplaced pride. They believe that they understand their child BEST and what is best for their development. This is not always true. Those kinds of parents want them to share the EXACT same values as themselves. There's nothing wrong with that but let's acknowledge that as a natural tendency of parents. It can be a good thing even. But wanting your child to share your value system does NOT ALWAYS equate for what is "best" for your child.
If you think of teachers as, you know, people, you would see that there is a wide variety of personalities. Some of them ARE stupid, some of them ARE cocky; some of them ARE self righteous. I take exception with your assertion that "a sizable percentage" of them. IF you have found that every teacher your child had was rude, pompous, curt, whatever, I'd bet 100$ it's because of how you treated them and they were simply mirroring your behaviour back at you. Besides, you have no basis for that claim. Why do you feel righteous in making such a negative claim about SO MANY people who are, regardless of their capacity, doing their best in an honourable pursuit?This is absolute nonsense. A sizable percentage of public school teachers are among the dumbest creatures walking the planet, their IQ totally eclipsed by their ego. Your children need to know you will stand up for them, particularly where the public school system is concerned.
Parents with that attitude are insufferable to teachers. NOT because they advocate for their kids. Teachers actually LIKE that. What they don't like is that many of those parents don't know when or how to advocate and for what. So instead, they just complain and whine and think they are advocating.
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