I can only speak for myself. I also speak for almost 28 years of marriage, too. We've had some ROUGH spots... but we're still together, and we're looking forward to AT LEAST another 28 years.
All marriages have their ups and downs. There are times when everything looks perfect, you cannot imagine any rocky parts. You look at those around you, and say, "Thank God, we're not them!" Then catastrophe hits. Sometimes you look at that person next to you in bed, and you wonder, "WHO is that?"
We had one horrible, HORRIBLE time in our marriage. There were inner stresses, outer stresses, money, kids, you name it. My husband was in school, he HATED it, but he saw it as the family's future. Unfortunately, to him, it was "school at all costs." His school friends became his closest allies, and I was branded "the enemy." He made promises he couldn't keep, he refused the emotional support I needed, and he put his friends' needs over ours. It was the worst betrayal. I believe there was an opportunity for him to be unfaithful at that time, too.
We made it, thank God. The world came crashing in on him, and when he looked up, all his "friends" were gone, and I was the only one left standing by him. He opened his eyes, and we started the long, long road back to what we once had. DID he cheat? I don't know, I honestly don't know. And I don't WANT to know. That time is passed. We're traveling down a completely different road together now, one that would never have been possible if things had gone as we had planned.
(that's another one of Life's Lessons we learned early on in our marriage... "Things always work out, for the best, even...and in ways you never dream.")
I love my husband dearly. I know he loves me. And we both know that nobody on Earth understands or knows the other one better than our partner.
My memories of that bad time in our marriage are horrible enough. I certainly don't need to flesh them out with images of him cheating on me.
Again....my opinion.
Peace be with you,
~VOW