Avniel
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I agree that's an accurate term in answer to my question (or coercion--depending on the circumstance)...but I think Avniel may have been making a bit of a different point (after I thought about what he'd written). I *think* he's suggesting that women are basically expecting men to "jump through hoops" for sex.....and he (Avniel) considers that "emasculating" and men ought to not go along with that (instead---"just be yourself and if she doesn't like that...oh well"). I'm not sure that's the recipe for a successful marriage....
No I do not mean manipulated for sex I mean begging for sex like a little puppy that see's a new neighbor you've invited over. If a man is begging his wife for sex every night he's a super punk and needs to do something to change his outlook on himself. Now before everyone says I am trying to encourage rape by calling him a super punk, he's a super punk because he doesn't see enough in himself not to beg for sex.By "emasculated"....do you mean that men are being manipulated for sex? What's the phrase when women are manipulated for sex, I wonder?
The reality is constantly being turned down and begging for sex is not conducive for a successful marriage. This way at least the man has his self respect. I think that women enjoy the power that controlling sex gives them, once you love yourself enough to not beg someone for sex it removes the bitterness and it changes the dynamics.
I believe men are taught that sex has to be so important to them. While it is important, as men in a society that women will use sex as a tool I say if you're unhappy with how you get turned down........................stop asking all together, stop wanting to have sex with her, change your thought process, work out, take cold showers, but dont beg a woman that doesn't want to sleep with you.
Men in america will do anything for a woman, they will change their entire personality for their wives only to be rejected time and time again. I think marriage is a disadvantage for men in america.....just be yourself, she doesn't want you hey that's life take a cold shower and move to the next hurdle in life it will be much smoother.
That's the opposite of coercion I think.............totally the opposite. There is no tricks, there is no hidden agenda, there is no power struggle........it's about people respecting themselves and loving themselves enough not to beg.
Men that beg for sex dont have sex.
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