The man made a mistake four years ago. What did he ever do to deserve such a profound lack of compassion and forgiveness? If his wife and children have forgiven him and he's made his peace with the Lord what business is it of anyone else's?
My freshman year of college, the RA on my floor happened to be a guy from Colorado Springs who grew up in Haggard's former megachurch.
He also happened to be majoring in Bible/Theology with the intention (which, four years later, he is fulfilling) of becoming a pastor.
He knew he wanted to be a pastor since he was in high school. From that time until a little over halfway through college, Haggard was the main man he looked to as a mentor and as an example. After college, he was planning on (and looking forward to) getting experience as an associate pastor alongside him.
I'm sure you can imagine what it felt like for him to find out about what happened. And when the college chaplain addressed the issue during chapel in front of the entire student body, he felt like he was in a waking nightmare. There was absolutely no malice or lack of compassion in the way it was addressed, but he still wanted to sink into his seat and disappear. Outside of his immediate family, that's the person he trusted and looked up to more than anyone. Then all of a sudden, his shocking behavior is a problem that needs to be addressed in front of his school halfway across the country. How do you come back from that? I have no idea how he was able to leave chapel that morning and function normally for the rest of the day.
For my friend, this was an enormous breach of trust and certainly the biggest disappointment of his life. That's what happens when you occupy such a position, though- there's opportunity to do a tremendous amount of good (ie., help train young men like my former RA for the ministry). But there's a considerable amount of risk, as well.
When that position of trust and authority is abused, betrayed, and vacated- especially in such a shocking, embarrassing, and visible manner- the consequences are far-reaching and, trust me, unbelievably difficult for those who are affected by it.
I don't think you'll find too many people who would oppose forgiveness and/or compassion. But if you knew my friend and had seen what he went through, you'd probably be more inclined to look after his best interest and that of other young people who very well might have to go through the same thing in the next 10 years or so.
My friend was lucky, in a way. He seriously considered changing majors and giving up his dream of entering the ministry. He had some really great people right there with him, though, and they came alongside to help him through it.
Most people aren't so lucky. I certainly want to show compassion to Ted Haggard, and I know how important it is to forgive him, even if it is one of the hardest things you've ever had to do. I've seen how hard it can be.
Nevertheless, I don't want to see it happen again. And when Haggard assumes the position and responsibility that he once held, I don't think good things are going to come of it in the end.