Is your spouse a want or a need?

My wife is neither as she is a part of me and I a part of her, we are one through God.

Great answer!

In the singles forum, majority says that a spouse is a want, over it majority says that that a spouse is a need. Why do you think this is?

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Have Tribulation, But Be Of Good Cheer; I Have Overcome
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Before you are married the correct and healthy attitude is that a spouse is a want, not a need. Those who get married because they "need," either that person or to be married, inevitably either fail in the marriage or create a misery - no one can fill the bill on that level and one is immature and likely has significant "issues" to come at marriage and spousal realtionships from that direction.

However, once married you grow into one flesh - I need my heart - it is not a want!! LOL However, a spouse is more like a right arm - still very much needed - but one CAN find ways to deal without it if mandatory - but we still have the phantom pain and our mind/soul still has the memory as if it is still there often - just as when we loose a spouse, for what ever reason.

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When I married my husband he was a gift from God. He has blessed my life in so many ways. He helped me find my true self, for that he is a need, I needed him for that purose. I never in my life thought that I would ever get married, so he was in no way a want, but now that we are joined together, I want him to be with me, to stay by my side until we are called home to heaven. So I would have to say that my husband is a gift, a blessing, a need and a want. There is now way to put him in just one word.

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mrstace wrote:
Because they are guessing and we know?
tulc(just a thought)

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So much has been said and sung of beautiful young girls,
why don't somebody wake up to the beauty of old women?
-Harriet Beecher Stowe

To hold the same views at forty as we held at twenty is to have been stupefied for a score of years and to take rank, not as a prophet, but as an unteachable brat, well birched and none the wiser.
- Robert Louis Stevenson

The main doctrine of a fanatic's creed is that his enemies are enemies of God.
-Andrew White

We've all been conditioned to think of love as the heart-pounding,
breathless passion of the young -- not the complex feelings shared by two
time-ravaged people who spend afternoons holding hands, as a defense against
loneliness, disease and death.
-Kate Zernike

It is OK to want to get married, but when you obsess about it and it becomes a "need" a force driving you, that is when you do stupid things like marry someone who is totally wrong, and maybe even abusive.