Do you find it discouraging?

I've been reading through some posts. I see several people who make statements that they have been praying for God to send them someone special. Many for quite sometime. This is obviously a need in their lives. I mean the Bible itself states that it is not good for man to be alone. Yet, these prayers go ananswered. I myself, find this to be rather discouraging. The Bible also states that God will supply our needs, yet for some many this request goes unfufilled. I really do not understand why. What are your thoughts?

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"These Things I Have Spoken Unto You
That In Me Ye Might Have Peace. In the World Ye Shall
Have Tribulation, But Be Of Good Cheer; I Have Overcome
The World" -- John 16:33

I feel discouraged at times. I feel that God presents an opporunity and it doesn't pan out or nothing presents itself at all. Like tonight I accompanied my father for a job interview for our company and the guy we interviewed is 21, attractive, very strong Christian and he's had the same girlfriend since he was 18. I keep wondering where I'm going wong. I mean, I am trusting in the Lord but sometimes it gets lonely with no one to share your life with.

I was discouraged until I recognized my weaknesses.

I know my weaknesses and that is why I am praying that God will give me the wisdom to guard my heart against the wrong guys. My weakness is to fall too soon and too hard. God wants nothing but the best for me so I have to prayfully keep myself from "settling".

I think that God will open oppertunities for us to find that special person. We still have to do the work, invest some time in the relationships to really know if God has intended us to be with that person. I have lately been able to discover very quickly if I think a girl is the one or not, can spend 10- 15 minutes talking and figure it out. If she is... Great, if not... then continue to persue only a friendship.

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I don't believe these prayers go unanswered, but I do believe God waits until the appropriate time. With everything else, He has a reason why things happen when they happen. For example, it is simply possible that you've already met the person you are to marrry. However, while YOU may be ready, they may not be yet at the point where they can handle that kind of commitment. So it may not be a matter of your situation, it may be a matter of their situation. I know two people who started dating when they were teenagers. They stopped dating each other, dated other people, went through the period of bitterness and dislike and somewhere along the way got back together after seven years of this and got married.
Regardless, this period of "waiting" doesn't have to be all bad. I used to get caught in this special person until I personally started thinking about marriage and all that entails. I realized for me, I have alot to do before I give someone else that kind of commitment. I'm the traveling kind and move at the drop of the hat-guess, I'm not yet ready to be "tamed".

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I am thinking more in terms of people in their 30's and even 40s who have never been married. They are obviously wanting someone, and you can tell it is a strong desire. I find it hard to believe they have the 'gift of singleness" since they do have a desire to be with someone. I also find it hard to believe that God will give someone a desire like this that he does not intend to fufill. It is just hard for me to understand, why God allows some to suffer in their loneliness for such a long time. When they are seeking God with everthing they have got.

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"These Things I Have Spoken Unto You
That In Me Ye Might Have Peace. In the World Ye Shall
Have Tribulation, But Be Of Good Cheer; I Have Overcome
The World" -- John 16:33

msjones,

For a gal your age you sure have got a lot of wisdom. I learned this one the hard way... more than once. Don't EVER EVER EVER give your heart to someone who does not derserve it, will not take care of it, or does want it. Why? because once you trust them they will throw it on the ground, and jump and down on it. Trust me.. it hurts for a long time. Be careul.. GUARD YOUR HEART!!!

Ok, now back to the orginal topic.

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"These Things I Have Spoken Unto You
That In Me Ye Might Have Peace. In the World Ye Shall
Have Tribulation, But Be Of Good Cheer; I Have Overcome
The World" -- John 16:33

I wonder… of those who are eagerly waiting for their ‘lover’ to arrive, how many of them are seeking the lord first and foremost, (even more so than their mate), and are truly 'in tune' to his will and thus able to be blessed by him in this and other regards? I can't help but notice most of those around me who seem to be desperately seeking a partner spend WAY too much time trying to devise a solution to appease their loneliness and not enough time elsewhere growing their relationship with the lord or putting their efforts towards some other need/goal that’s more immediate and beneficial to them and to others. I’m sure I’ll be the unpopular one for asking this, but, if you are one of those who are desperately seeking a partner, ask yourself, have you REALLY put God first in your life before all else? If yes, does that mean you would be content if God decides it’s best for you to be single for the remainder of your life? Would you still love him and desire to grow in him if he decided that for you? Seek him first and all other things will come in time; his time. There are moments where I wonder if people just want God to give them a mate but have yet to give themselves fully to the lord, or, maybe they are seeking God but for the wrong reasons/motivations and thus miss out on the most important and fulfilling relationship of all. It’s just a thought…



As for the older crowd, yeah... it's sad to see them being alone especially since the older singles I know seek God above all else and are very content and happy with what they have yet I know they still feel that sharp sting of loneliness and it makes me wonder why God doesn't provide for them. I guess he knows best and we should trust in that, but, of all the people I see who are truly needing and deserving, why do they have to be single?!?! *sigh*



As for me, I have found myself blessed in a pleasant situation but it’s not a guarantee. If it is meant to work out then it will, if not… Well, I decided I'll just be single for the rest of my life unless and until some woman walks up to me and smacks me in the face and says, "Hey, God said you were looking for me. Well, here I am." (or anything along those lines). At that point I'll be good to go. In the mean time I choose to focus on building my relationship with God and to seek out the many wonderful things there is for me to do and experience right now that will help me become a more valuable and rewarding husband for my future wife, (if I am to have one). We’ll see…

I am 43 and never-married, and would like to marry the right person someday, but still at 43, am not desperate enough to rush in to a huge mistake. I am so used to being single, that I don't really think about it that much. I would think after being single for so long, being married would take a lot getting used to, such as having to compromise on everyday things you take for granted.