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Religious vs. non-religious kids

My question is pertaining to young adults age 18 to 25. I want to know as a parent how you would explain the fact that ( as I see it and have witnessed) there are so many young people who have problems today. I have known many parents who are Christian and have raised their kids with such values yet these kids end up at the age of 18 or 19 or 20 with major problems. The problems range from pregnancy out of marrige or unplanned to drug abuse to rebelious behavior . If raising a child with good morals and values which are Christain is better than raising them without such a strong religious upbringing , than why do so many of these kids end up becoming drug addicts and parents and act out in many other rebellious ways as soon as they are over 18. Many even under 18 and still at home also exibit these behaviors and rebel against thier faith and the values that these parents have tried to instill in them. So why is raising a child with this belief system better? Please show me the proof.
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The answer: Jesus.
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But the answer truly IS Jesus. A child raised to understand and appreciate a relationship with the actual person of Jesus is far more likely to turn out "better" than one just subjected to some religious rules.
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Sometimes good parents have bad kids. Sometimes bad parent have good kids. Sometimes bad parents have bad kids and sometimes good parents have good kids.

That applies to both Christian and non-Christian parents.
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My question is pertaining to young adults age 18 to 25. I want to know as a parent how you would explain the fact that ( as I see it and have witnessed) there are so many young people who have problems today. I have known many parents who are Christian and have raised their kids with such values yet these kids end up at the age of 18 or 19 or 20 with major problems. The problems range from pregnancy out of marrige or unplanned to drug abuse to rebelious behavior . If raising a child with good morals and values which are Christain is better than raising them without such a strong religious upbringing , than why do so many of these kids end up becoming drug addicts and parents and act out in many other rebellious ways as soon as they are over 18. Many even under 18 and still at home also exibit these behaviors and rebel against thier faith and the values that these parents have tried to instill in them. So why is raising a child with this belief system better? Please show me the proof.
The problem is that Christian parents tend to compartmentalize their faith and believe they can be Christians on Sunday, but live like the world Monday through Saturday.

For instance, how many Christians do we see turning their children over to a wordly, humanistic, government school system for their education? They turn their children over to pagans for eight hours a day, five days a week, nine months a year, and then act surprised when their children become pagans.

Dating is another example. Most Christian parents let their children date, unchaperoned, and unprepared. Most Christian parents wait until their children are twelve and thirteen, sit them down, and have "the talk" with them and then act like they've done their duty.

The truth is, raising a child who understands the importance of Biblical manhood, womanhood, and intimacy is a full time job that starts when they're born. Godly marriage must be modeled for children. Children must be taught that marriage has a role in God's Kingdom to model the relationship between Christ and His Bride, the Church, and not just an excuse to sell cards on Valentine's Day.

And any concept of Biblical manhood and womanhood is completely lost.

Christian parents are rarely discerning about their children's friends or media influences.

I don't blame the parents totally for this. In the 60's, the Church began to blur the lines between the Church and the world, believing that we can live with one foot in each and parents have bought into this. They send their children off to VBS and Sunday School, but ignore discipleship and mentorship in favor of entertainment. Our churches often accept children as members just because their parents are members.

The problem is not Christianity. The problem is what we've been convinced Christianity is.

Long story short, the Church has abandoned its children to the world.
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So why is raising a child with this belief system better?
a house should be built on a solid foundation. Almost every generation has a "straying" period with its young, just like the prodigal son story in the Bible. There is even a verse that talks about "raising a child up in the way he should go and when he is older he will return to it". It's childrens jobs to test what they have been taught-some "stray" futher than others, but w/o a foundation more would stay "strayed" those w/o the foundation have nothing to return to. I am one who strayed and retruned-it's the old "Mamma & Daddy were right" syndrome
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Sometimes good parents have bad kids. Sometimes bad parent have good kids. Sometimes bad parents have bad kids and sometimes good parents have good kids.

That applies to both Christian and non-Christian parents.
Actually it doesn't apply to either. There is no such thing as good/bad kids/parents, there are just people, and all people struggle. Some have the inner will and external support to reach their full potential on their own and some do not, and those who do not should be helped, not vilified.
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