I know paul said we shouldn't be unequally yoked but wasn't that more advice than commandment? Because the ten commandments do not enforce this. also what about Ester and king xerses? or Joseph marrying the Pharoah's daughter? How could God bring them to those positions of power knowing they had to marry a non believer if it was sin for them to do so? Should Ester have refused to marry the king and thus forfeit her power to sway the king to help God's people?
Also if it was sin to be married to an unbeliever wouldn't Paul have said when you become a believer you must divorce your spouse or at least separate?
But divorce is sin - or is it? God allowed it in the old testament. Then again God allowing something doesn't necessarily mean it's not sin. David married several wives and had a bunch of concubines which was against the 10 commandment law of not committing adultery/fornicating and yet God allowed him to do that without saying anything. I'm sure God did not approve but he didn't specifically address it.
It's very confusing.
Last edited by proverbswisdom; 19th October 2012 at 04:45 AM.
I cannot tell you yes or no, but I will tell you this: my wife married me when I was an unbeliever and she is a Christian. Now I have an immovable faith in the Lord. I would say be careful, marriage is a big deal, but I thought I would share my experiences.
I think the analogy of being unequally yoked implies that it's not a wise thing to do. I know nothing about horses or animal driven wagons but it's easy to imagine the consequences of a mis-matched coupling between two animals of dissimilar stride, motivation, or directional tendencies - would have on pulling the same load.
My understanding of the way divorce was explained in the new testament is that it is permitted under certain circumstances, but a divorced person isn't to remarry. I suspect that this would be a theme that many would not want to clarify.
unwise. it can damage you and your relationship with God
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As it is, marriage is not something to be taken lightly. The only way a marriage is ever going to work out is if we seek the Lord's will. Sometimes a believer marries an unbeliever, who converts, and they have a wonderful life together.
For me, the biggest danger is when children are born to a couple who are not both believers. When arguments arise as to the child's Christian upbringing, real trouble starts...
Big trouble arises when you have children and you want your children dedicated to the Lord. The unbeliever will be a roadblock. Also, even if you don't have kids, but you want more time with the Lord and don't want to live an unholy/unrighteous life your spouse may accuse you of all kinds of things like "being superstitious" or "stop being a drag" or "why do you have to be self-righteous all the time" or "you are being riduclous". I can go on.
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There is no specific commandment about this. 2 Cor 6:14 is not by either actual wording or context particularly aimed at marriage. It's a general warning that as Christians we have to be careful not to be overly influenced by non-Christians. We have marriages between Christians and non-Christians that have worked out fine, and marriages between Christians that have not. In my view it's a judgement call that is going to have to be based on the particular people involved and their attitudes. Yes, it could cause a problem. So could many other types of difference.