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14th October 2012, 12:43 AM
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Me and my husband were married for about a year and two months, a tragic accident happened and his sister was killed. He started to change up on me and found an outside friend to cope with instead of coming to me, so now its been 9 months since he has left home and we talk every now and then but we never talk about us and the marriage, he is still in a relationship with another women but he tries to play as if he is not. I dont now what to do, I am tired of being lonely and having thoughts of me and him on my mind, I love him truly but cant seem to get over him, we have a little girl together, but he barely sees her due to him having an outside relationship. I need guidance and help for this situation. |
14th October 2012, 12:18 PM
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Reps: 2,283,771,714,487,380,736 (power: 2,283,771,714,487,397) | | Originally Posted by Anonymous Voice  Me and my husband were married for about a year and two months, a tragic accident happened and his sister was killed. He started to change up on me and found an outside friend to cope with instead of coming to me, so now its been 9 months since he has left home and we talk every now and then but we never talk about us and the marriage, he is still in a relationship with another women but he tries to play as if he is not. I dont now what to do, I am tired of being lonely and having thoughts of me and him on my mind, I love him truly but cant seem to get over him, we have a little girl together, but he barely sees her due to him having an outside relationship. I need guidance and help for this situation.
What your husband is doing is not right or Biblical. I would do three things.
1. Find a professional counselor and begin getting help with how this situation is affecting you and making a decision about what to do. A licensed professional counselor or Licensed Clinical Social Worker would be good.
2. Consult an attorney to see what your legal rights are. If you divorce Him because of Adultery you need to make sure that you are protected legally as much as possible.
3. Talk with your pastor about this situation. He will try to help and advise you. But most pastors do not have time for long-term counseling and are not necessarily trained in-depth in counseling hence my recommendation that you also seek professional help. However, your pastor will advise you about Biblical and Spiritual matters.
Please write in again if you wish. I pray the very best for you.
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