Home | Be a Christian | Devotionals | Join Us! | Forums | Rules | F.A.Q.


Go Back   Christian Forums > Edification (orthodox Christians only) > Edification (orthodox Christians only) > Christian Advice
Register BlogsPrayersJobsArcade Calendar Mark Forums Read

Christian Advice A forum for requesting and giving Biblical advice.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 3rd October 2012, 01:43 PM
Newbie

Gender: Male Faith: Pentecostal Member For 1 Years
 
Join Date: 3rd October 2012
Posts: 5
Blessings: 12,138
Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,818 (power: 0)
cirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond repute
cirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond repute
Question Dealing with Unfriendly/Extremely Cold People

I've had this issue on my mind for a long while now, and I thought I could help myself by seeking the perspective of other believers.

I find myself extremely bothered and confused about how to deal with people who are unfriendly/aloof. I'm 99% sure I haven't done anything wrong to this person, but they simply ignore me when I say hi in the hallways, all the while being super friendly to the people they know.

Worldly wisdom would simply dictate to ignore the person, I know that Jesus calls us to love all people and pray for our enemies. Problem is, continually being friendly to this person is extremely difficult when they just keep being cold. And yet, to ignore them and treat them coldly isn't probably what Jesus meant by being loving.

So, I'm confused, and could use your advice as to what the Christian thing would be to do so that I could have a clear conscience. Many thanks in advance!

Last edited by cirrus999; 3rd October 2012 at 04:41 PM.
Reply With Quote
Become a CF Site Supporter Today and Make These Ads Go Away!

  #2  
Old 3rd October 2012, 02:35 PM
Girder of Loins's Avatar
Future Math Teacher

20 Gender: Male Faith: Christian Party: US-Others Country: United States Member For 3 Years Watchman
View Profile Pic
 
Join Date: 5th December 2010
Location: United States of America
Posts: 2,868
Blessings: 89,749,042
My Mood Blessed
Reps: 357,374,570,518,430,592 (power: 357,374,570,518,436)
Girder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond repute
Girder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond reputeGirder of Loins has a reputation beyond repute
You have to love them. Jesus wasn't just ignored, He was hated. We care called to love everyone equally, so just keep on persevering! You will be rewarded in life or in Heaven!
__________________
"This is our lifestyle. No its not a religion!"
-Lecrae
Ephesians 5 my generation!
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 3rd October 2012, 03:24 PM
ChrisHolland619's Avatar
Newbie

Gender: Male Faith: Baptist Member For 2 Years
 
Join Date: 8th December 2011
Posts: 1,466
Blessings: 11,104,722
My Mood Amazed
Reps: 84,282,937,901,714,480 (power: 84,282,937,901,718)
ChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond repute
ChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond repute
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering.." Galatians 5:22a

Do you know what the word "Long-suffering" means?

Long-suffering - deciding to be a living reflection of the grace of God with your own life. It is taking no account or record of others wrongdoing. It is taking no thought of vengeance or revenge in the midst of personal attack. It is showing others the love of Christ, regardless of how YOU are being treated.

The Bible says that long-suffering is a fruit of the Spirit. If we walk in the Spirit, we will have all of those attributes. Notice the grammar used by Paul in this letter, it says "But the FRUIT (singular) of the Spirit IS (singular)". That means you can't pick and choose what fruit to have, if you are truly abiding in Christ, and walking in His Spirit, these things WILL be added unto you.

So how do we react towards someone being cold to us? How do we act when someone persecutes us for seemingly no reason? We react with Christ. Our reply should be love. Show them grace, no matter what, because our standard is Christ Jesus, God, not our situation or their behavior.
__________________
‎"Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created." Revelation 4:11

We were created for the pleasure of God. Jesus Christ is our creator, not just our Savior and King.

God is not in our box, we are in His box. We don't command God, God commands us.
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 3rd October 2012, 03:59 PM
quietpraiyze's Avatar
In The Secret Place

Gender: Female Faith: Christian Member For 2 Years
 
Join Date: 18th November 2011
Posts: 606
Blessings: 50,073,811
My Mood Shh
Reps: 53,815,087,848,092,912 (power: 53,815,087,848,095)
quietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond repute
quietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond reputequietpraiyze has a reputation beyond repute
Okaaaay...Iím going to say something a little different here because of my life experience. I understand what the other posters are saying about showing love and patience etc. yeah and thatís all good until it puts you in a snare. Itís like the enemy knows how to use the Word against us and guilt/shame us into stuff. So I had to learn how to not allow that to happen. Part of the way I learned to do that was to RELEASE people to God and ask God to move them out of my emotions. So whatever they did it didnít matter. God always honored that request What I came to understand is that if they were people that ďchoseĒ (because they are choosing) to not speak to me or be friendly, I would honor that and stay away from them. I would pray for them and RELEASE.

There are people in this life who arenít going to like you (itís especially painful when itís fellow Christians). Many times it doesnít have anything to do with you. So follow peace with all men and holiness but donít get caught up into other peopleís stuff. Pray (as the Lord leads you), bless, & release people to God allowing Him to do what he does best. You're the one who's free in Christ...stay that way.
__________________
Php 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 3rd October 2012, 04:08 PM
Dragnog's Avatar
Junior Member

36 Gender: Male Married Faith: Anglican Country: United States Member For 5 Years
 
Join Date: 10th July 2006
Posts: 245
Blessings: 106,789
Reps: 10,327,914,525,838,142 (power: 10,327,914,525,847)
Dragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond repute
Dragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond repute
Originally Posted by cirrus999 View Post
I've had this issue on my mind for a long while now, and I thought I could help myself by seeking the perspective of other believers.

I find myself extremely bothered and confused about how to deal with people who are unfriendly/aloof. I'm 99% sure I haven't done anything wrong to this person, but they simply ignore me when I say hi in the hallways, all the while being super friendly to the people they know.

I work with one of these people and though worldly wisdom would simply dictate to ignore the person, I know that Jesus calls us to love all people and pray for our enemies. Problem is, continually being friendly to this person is extremely difficult when they just keep being cold. And yet, to ignore them and treat them coldly isn't probably what Jesus meant by being loving.

So, I'm confused, and could use your advice as to what the Christian thing would be to do so that I could have a clear conscience. Many thanks in advance!
Would you consider yourself a people-pleaser? Have you spoken to this persons friend in regards to it?
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 3rd October 2012, 04:36 PM
Newbie

Gender: Male Faith: Pentecostal Member For 1 Years
 
Join Date: 3rd October 2012
Posts: 5
Blessings: 12,138
Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,818 (power: 0)
cirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond repute
cirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond reputecirrus999 has a reputation beyond repute
Thank you to everyone who responded, super appreciated.

Originally Posted by Dragnog View Post
Would you consider yourself a people-pleaser? Have you spoken to this persons friend in regards to it?
I think I have that inner tendency yes. I haven't spoken to people who know this person yet because well... - it'll probably come off as gossipy and probably not good for the office environment to ask personal questions about coworkers.

Okaaaay...I’m going to say something a little different here because of my life experience. I understand what the other posters are saying about showing love and patience etc. yeah and that’s all good until it puts you in a snare. It’s like the enemy knows how to use the Word against us and guilt/shame us into stuff. So I had to learn how to not allow that to happen. Part of the way I learned to do that was to RELEASE people to God and ask God to move them out of my emotions. So whatever they did it didn’t matter. God always honored that request What I came to understand is that if they were people that “chose” (because they are choosing) to not speak to me or be friendly, I would honor that and stay away from them. I would pray for them and RELEASE.
With the highest due respect to the other posters, this strikes me as the most realistic approach to the problem.

If someone rejects you, what's the point of continuing to befriend them, thus coming off as annoying? Perhaps "to love" in this case really does mean respecting their decision and moving on... but I'm not 100% sure if that's in line with one popular Biblical image of love being a bit more saccharine, with all due respect. It does, however, sound very much like a good way to show grace to that person.

Last edited by cirrus999; 3rd October 2012 at 04:45 PM.
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 3rd October 2012, 05:12 PM
Ark100's Avatar
The Lord is my Refuge

Gender: Female Faith: Pentecostal Country: Australia Member For 2 Years
View Profile Pic
 
Join Date: 11th March 2012
Posts: 2,062
Blessings: 1,086,312
My Mood Blessed
Reps: 91,364,056,413,858,976 (power: 91,364,056,413,863)
Ark100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond repute
Ark100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond reputeArk100 has a reputation beyond repute
Originally Posted by cirrus999 View Post
I've had this issue on my mind for a long while now, and I thought I could help myself by seeking the perspective of other believers.

I find myself extremely bothered and confused about how to deal with people who are unfriendly/aloof. I'm 99% sure I haven't done anything wrong to this person, but they simply ignore me when I say hi in the hallways, all the while being super friendly to the people they know.

Worldly wisdom would simply dictate to ignore the person, I know that Jesus calls us to love all people and pray for our enemies. Problem is, continually being friendly to this person is extremely difficult when they just keep being cold. And yet, to ignore them and treat them coldly isn't probably what Jesus meant by being loving.

So, I'm confused, and could use your advice as to what the Christian thing would be to do so that I could have a clear conscience. Many thanks in advance!
You have to apply wisdom to everything you do. Even when witnessing to people, if they start to become angry, cold and unyielding, you dust your feet and move on. The Bible says so.

We should not cast our pearls to dogs lest they trample on it. Anything you are doing that starts to affect you emotionally and disturbs you should be avoided or let be for a while. You cannot say because we are called to love, then you allow yourself be run down emotionally and have your self affected.


Step back, know that you can love someone by still being distant from them. Keeping your distance or your cool or simply not saying anything to them does NOT mean you hate them, you are merely avoiding issues for yourself and maybe for the other person.

Remember whilst loving others, you gotta love yourself too which includes looking after you and making sure you are happy and contented.

I'd let that person be. There are many other people who would be happy to see you say hi to them. Jesus did not say we will be everyone's friends. As long as you do not hate anyone or harbour malice or envy and bitterness towards them.

Goodluck.
__________________
If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, wonít he also give us everything else?

Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No oneófor God himself has given us right standing with himself.
Who then will condemn us? No oneófor Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at Godís right hand, pleading for us - Romans 8

I LOVE YOU JESUS!!!!!
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 3rd October 2012, 05:17 PM
ChrisHolland619's Avatar
Newbie

Gender: Male Faith: Baptist Member For 2 Years
 
Join Date: 8th December 2011
Posts: 1,466
Blessings: 11,104,722
My Mood Amazed
Reps: 84,282,937,901,714,480 (power: 84,282,937,901,718)
ChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond repute
ChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond reputeChrisHolland619 has a reputation beyond repute
Originally Posted by cirrus999 View Post

With the highest due respect to the other posters, this strikes me as the most realistic approach to the problem.

If someone rejects you, what's the point of continuing to befriend them, thus coming off as annoying? Perhaps "to love" in this case really does mean respecting their decision and moving on... but I'm not 100% sure if that's in line with one popular Biblical image of love being a bit more saccharine, with all due respect. It does, however, sound very much like a good way to show grace to that person.
But, that's not what the Bible says to do. The Bible says to always show love, to be long suffering, and be a reflection of God's grace in the face of persecution.

Sure, you can always do what is easy and what seems "right", however:

"There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death." Proverbs 16:25

Anything you can do that isn't a reflection of the grace of God is self centered and in error. That's Bible for you.
__________________
‎"Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created." Revelation 4:11

We were created for the pleasure of God. Jesus Christ is our creator, not just our Savior and King.

God is not in our box, we are in His box. We don't command God, God commands us.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 3rd October 2012, 05:26 PM
Dragnog's Avatar
Junior Member

36 Gender: Male Married Faith: Anglican Country: United States Member For 5 Years
 
Join Date: 10th July 2006
Posts: 245
Blessings: 106,789
Reps: 10,327,914,525,838,142 (power: 10,327,914,525,847)
Dragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond repute
Dragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond reputeDragnog has a reputation beyond repute
Originally Posted by cirrus999 View Post
I think I have that inner tendency yes. I haven't spoken to people who know this person yet because well... - it'll probably come off as gossipy and probably not good for the office environment to ask personal questions about coworkers.
I think that it would depend on how you do it. It sounds like a difficult situation to be in, especially if you recognize in yourself a people-pleaser tenancy. You probably feel thoroughly confused.
If you feel that you are still called to continue be-friending this person then you should stick to your convictions. I know for a friend of mine who went into a totally hostile environment to Christians it was a little daunting, but he found that the best way was to be genuine in your faith and actions and people will respect your consistency. You may never be-friend this person but follow what you feel God is calling you to.
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 3rd October 2012, 06:51 PM
At your service....

Gender: Male Faith: Non-Denominational Party: US-Republican Country: United States Member For 2 Years
 
Join Date: 19th June 2012
Location: Northern Florida
Posts: 2,647
Blessings: 1,187,192
Reps: 48,283,437,360,629,160 (power: 48,283,437,360,634)
TheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond repute
TheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond reputeTheyCallMeDave has a reputation beyond repute
Originally Posted by cirrus999 View Post
I've had this issue on my mind for a long while now, and I thought I could help myself by seeking the perspective of other believers.

I find myself extremely bothered and confused about how to deal with people who are unfriendly/aloof. I'm 99% sure I haven't done anything wrong to this person, but they simply ignore me when I say hi in the hallways, all the while being super friendly to the people they know.

Worldly wisdom would simply dictate to ignore the person, I know that Jesus calls us to love all people and pray for our enemies. Problem is, continually being friendly to this person is extremely difficult when they just keep being cold. And yet, to ignore them and treat them coldly isn't probably what Jesus meant by being loving.

So, I'm confused, and could use your advice as to what the Christian thing would be to do so that I could have a clear conscience. Many thanks in advance!
God would have us first pray for this person who is more or less an enemy by behaviour toward you, not to act the same way back, and to (as the Bible says) 'to heap coals of love on his head' in hopes that eventually he can be brought around to ending this resentment toward you. More than likely, some kind of gossip has been told him regarding yourself and he has formed a presumptuous demeanor toward you . In time if you keep living for CHrist and like Christ, it should lesson and get to the point where he admits to himself that he was wrong about you.

So, i would try to act reasonable toward him by saying hi or giving him a nod as you walk past him. I wouldnt ignore him as you go past him. This...coupled with praying for him, will eventually bring about some degree of healing on his part .
__________________
___________________________________________

Do Not Die in Your Sins :
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
cold people, mean people, social relations, unfriendly, unfriendly people


Return to Christian Advice

Thread Tools
Display Modes


 
Become a CF Site Supporter Today and Make These Ads Go Away!


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 02:28 PM.