Hello,
I'm currently a junior in Highschool with a wonderful girlfriend of almost 7 months. I play varsity wrestling, am a member of the International Baccalaureate program, avid mechanic, and somewhat of a romantic. I have been dating a girl that is 1 year younger than me and have been quite content. We don't do anything of a sinful nature (although at times we do get carried away). We have never had sex, and so on. My deepest concern is that she doesn't have much if any faith in Jesus Christ. We have briefly discussed religion before. She is not an atheist as she believes that there is a god. Our last discussion revealed that she has some atheists in her family. Her best friend is a devout Hindu, and I, her boyfriend, am a devout Methodist.
She doesn't drink, smoke, fornicate, or any other things that might be sinful, in fact I was her first boyfriend. I had made some stupid decisions in the past and she trusted me that I knew that to fornicate was wrong. I don't believe that she is of a strong faith if any in Jesus. I don't know if I should try and help her see, or break up and remain friends. I am confused, please help.
Hello,
I'm currently a junior in Highschool with a wonderful girlfriend of almost 7 months. I play varsity wrestling, am a member of the International Baccalaureate program, avid mechanic, and somewhat of a romantic. I have been dating a girl that is 1 year younger than me and have been quite content. We don't do anything of a sinful nature (although at times we do get carried away). We have never had sex, and so on. My deepest concern is that she doesn't have much if any faith in Jesus Christ. We have briefly discussed religion before. She is not an atheist as she believes that there is a god. Our last discussion revealed that she has some atheists in her family. Her best friend is a devout Hindu, and I, her boyfriend, am a devout Methodist.
She doesn't drink, smoke, fornicate, or any other things that might be sinful, in fact I was her first boyfriend. I had made some stupid decisions in the past and she trusted me that I knew that to fornicate was wrong. I don't believe that she is of a strong faith if any in Jesus. I don't know if I should try and help her see, or break up and remain friends. I am confused, please help.
Well, are you under any pressure to make her convert? Is it affecting your relationship - is she insulting or abusive about your faith, or are you insulting or abusive about her lack of faith?
Pushing ideological views on people does nothing but push them away. You may just have to accept the fact that she simply isn't going to share your religion.
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If you want the self inflicted misery of denying yourself what appears to be a perfectly harmless relationship, then you should do it sooner rather than later, save this poor girl more pain than necessary.
Perhaps you should ask yourself why you think your omnibenevolent deity would want you to follow this pain inducing cause of action.
Well, show her the way. Nothing bad is coming out of this relationship, and as long as you don't start to diminish in the walk, then stay with it. Eventually, through your witness, she will come to Christ.
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Well, show her the way. Nothing bad is coming out of this relationship, and as long as you don't start to diminish in the walk, then stay with it. Eventually, through your witness, she will come to Christ.
If you can't handle her lack of faith then break up with her now and save her the pain later on. You've only been together seven months, you're probably going to break up anyways sooner or later so you can A) either enjoy the relationship that you have now or B) decide you want someone more religious and leave her. However it will probably be your loss.
I'm pagan, my fiance is atheist..we make it work and there are many Christian/non-Christian couples who have done the same. The question is how important is religion to you and can you or can't you make it work? It sounds like she is agnostic and open-minded towards other religions. Can you handle that? If you can't the best thing to do would be end the relationship now. I've always made it a point to not date anyone I wouldn't ultimately be willing to take it to the next level with..just a thought.
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In times like these its always best to remain friends before going into a relationship.
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If it is really bothering you, you should talk it over with her and see how she feels about it.
Clear the air. The worst thing that can happen is that you break up (which seems is on your mind already anyway).
At the very least you can understand each other better, which is the foundation of relationships in the first place.
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