Godparents

Message: I am Lutheran and chose my step-sister and her husband to be my daughter's Godparents. However, they don't contact, attempt to see her, and they often attack me. I no longer feel they are the best sponsors for her spiritual being. Can I choose different Godparents and if so how do I go about doing it?

I don't have any advice for your other than every Godparent we chose for out children (except my brother) does not really bother with our children. I would be interested in hearing replies as well.

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Originally Posted by angelsarise

Message: I am Lutheran and chose my step-sister and her husband to be my daughter's Godparents. However, they don't contact, attempt to see her, and they often attack me. I no longer feel they are the best sponsors for her spiritual being. Can I choose different Godparents and if so how do I go about doing it?

Do you have someone closer to your kids, that spend time with them? That's who I rather choose, over someone that never spends time with the family. Anyway Godparents can get the kids, if you die. Do you want a stanger or someone that has a relationship with them? But, I guess if their stangers, they might be able to turn the kids down.

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Godparents do not have rights to take the children if the parents do. They have to be willed to them. I'm sure they could try and put up a fight just like any other family member could, but if they are willed to someone else, it doesn't matter.

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Godparents are, generally, those who succeed the parents in the event of the parents' passing - to raise and take care of the children as if their own. But, as mentioned, it needs to be in writing in a Will for it to be a legal placement. It can also mean, as you mentioned, those who are responsible for the spiritual upbringing of said children. (I, personally, don't know of anyone who acts on this) However, there are people who name godparents and all that means to them is more presents or just having a baptismal ceremony when the children are babies. In my observations, one needs to have godparents named when a baby is baptized and sometimes it is just the case that that is all godparents are for, nothing more. I know someone who has 6 different godparents for all of their children. Clearly, those expectations are different than what I'd mentioned earlier in my post. When godparents are named, there really should be a conversation between birth and godparents to discuss and define expectations. I think you have every right to name new godparents whom you trust around your children and to be exactly what kind of role model you would like for them to take on.