Have been living together before getting saved, now what?

Anonymous Voice · #1 27th June 2012, 07:58 PM

My fiance and I have been living together over two years now. We have a son (16mo) together as well. He got save a couple weeks ago and I re-dedicated my life to Christ as well. There have been several things that the Holy Spirit has convicted me about changing and I have began the process of doing so. However, here is my question.....We were already living together before we got saved. We are not partaking in sexual immorality at all and have had no desire to do so. I know temptation will come, but this is one of the few things that I know will not be as dificult to overcome as other things. We have not yet had strong conviction about running and getting married. I know in my mind that it would be the ideal thing to do, but at this time, it doesn't SEEM to be something God is convicting us of. Is it possible to live Godly lives, follow Him AND live together without being married? We have been practicing abstinance for a while now, so does the fact that we live together as new christians mean we are hypocrites? I know God looks at our hearts but I have also been told that the Bible says that we should also stay away from the appearance of sin....hearing that is what has brought about this question. Any advice and scripture reference would be greatly appreciated.

sacerdote · #2 28th June 2012, 06:57 AM

Originally Posted by Anonymous Voice

My fiance and I have been living together over two years now. We have a son (16mo) together as well. He got save a couple weeks ago and I re-dedicated my life to Christ as well. There have been several things that the Holy Spirit has convicted me about changing and I have began the process of doing so. However, here is my question.....We were already living together before we got saved. We are not partaking in sexual immorality at all and have had no desire to do so. I know temptation will come, but this is one of the few things that I know will not be as dificult to overcome as other things. We have not yet had strong conviction about running and getting married. I know in my mind that it would be the ideal thing to do, but at this time, it doesn't SEEM to be something God is convicting us of. Is it possible to live Godly lives, follow Him AND live together without being married? We have been practicing abstinance for a while now, so does the fact that we live together as new christians mean we are hypocrites? I know God looks at our hearts but I have also been told that the Bible says that we should also stay away from the appearance of sin....hearing that is what has brought about this question. Any advice and scripture reference would be greatly appreciated.

Hi,

I don't understand how you can live with someone, have a child with them, be in love, and not want to get married. You mentioned not being "convicted" to get married. Being convicted is not the end all, be all in what you should do in your life. What do you believe Scripture tells you to do in this situation and what do you believe based on being a Christian is the right course of action?

God bless.

CH Sacerdote

Anonymous Voice · #3 28th June 2012, 10:10 AM

We DO WANT to get married. He, for some reason, feels it is NECESSARY to buy a ring, get on one knee and have a wedding. I have told him that I neither need or desire those things. I haven't brought it up to him yet since we got our lives right. However, I'm planning on doing so tonight. I also always thought that the Holy Spirit would convict us of the things in our lives that need changing, especially if it's something that we may not have realized was negative in our lives.
Again, I thank you for your guidance