Separated woman date christian man?

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It sounds like he was convicted in his spirit and realized how wrong he was for getting involved with you in the first place. Not because you are a bad person but because you are not divorced. He had no business being with you regardless of how you both felt. You are not necessarily in love with him, you are attached to him. What this man did was an abomination. Not only did he get involved with a woman with a husband, but he got in deep with you then flipped the switch.

My only advice is to stay away from him. I'm so so so sorry this happened.

ETA: I hope I don't sound judgemental. I just see that this man took what HE wanted while you were in a vulnerable state and then bailed when it got too complicated. That is why I called it an abomination.

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Sin is never going to prosper and like you said he is a Christian man(although talking to a married woman and helping destroy her marriage doesn't say Christ like to me) so he might really not want anything to do with the sin and you play a big role.

But then on the fleshy side why would a man be with a woman that cheats on her husband and developes deeper feelings for the person she's cheating with? It's illogical he knows what type of betral you are capable of. He had his fun so he's probably on to the next one. A lot of women don't get this but we men don't just care about looks and sex the virtue of a woman is important. If a woman lacks virtue then a man will build a relationship with her but unless he views her as virtuous he will never commit.

If I were you I'd go running to your husband and ask him to forgive you and ask God to heal your marriage.

Let's say you two don't end up together. Imagine what possible answer you can give when your on a date and asked "so what happened between your last ex?" Can we say red flag anyone???

What do you mean when you say "you got together a couple of times?"

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Was everything going well between you and your husband at the time you and this guy started being intimate?
Are you separating from you husband solely because of this guy or are there other reasons?

What you and this guy did is wrong...wrong. Its very much frowned against by God just so you know. No matter how anyone looks at it, it is wrong.
I'm not surprised you feel the way you do right now. Its called 'karma' in the real world sense, but in biblical sense, this other guy got convicted of his sins. He might have had The Holy Spirit encounter recently or heard a sermon which specifically warned against such acts.
He did something very sinful, and he would have regretted it, but I still feel he should have been very honest with you and let you know it wont and cannot work.

You can't be married to someone and then start having sexual or whatever affair with another guy. Even I know many people who are not christians who frown upon this act. Morally its wrong.

God will vindicate your husband if the sole reason you separated from him and treated him like crap was because of this other guy. God is not a partial God. He will be there for your husband.
If you were going to have intimate relationship with other people, you should have got divorced and done with before dabbling into the other mess.
I would be surprised if this other guy takes interest in you any longer. What you two did got him convicted by God and he would probably not want to have anything to do with you again.
Sorry this might all sound harsh but its the brutal truth. What goes around comes around. That's the philosophy of life.
Marriage should be taken seriously because its sacred. You defiled your marriage with what you did, and you are paying for the consequences now.
I hope this has taught you a lesson and you can turn to God and ask for His forgiveness so He can look upon you with mercy.
Believing the other guy was put on this earth for you is the enemy's manipulation...its all wrong.
I feel sorry for your husband.

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There has not been intimacy. Got together a couple times for lunch and dinner. A kiss or two, that's it. Thx

Now, I will add my two cents worth...

A kiss or two is being intimate with another man, as is fantasying about
another man who isn't your husband. Don't kid yourself, that man spun an
intimate web around you and pulled you into meeting with him. Your OP
before you erased it showed that you are emotionally attached to the other
man, who has at present, stepped out of the picture.

You know what that guy sounds like to me? the bait of Satan.
He also reminds me of a guy I know from my former church,
he did stuff just like that...he even tried it with me.

I stopped him when he came onto me one day while I was
out shopping...back then my husband worked 10-12 hr. days.
That guy knew that and he tried to lure me...I didn't fall for it.

These type of Christian men are snakes, they look for a woman
who appears to be lonely/vulnerable and they move in on her and
practically "coil" themselves around them.

Since I didn't respond the way he wanted, he walked away...that
Sunday at church he acted aloof.

I would encourage you to seek marriage counseling, even if you
have to go alone.
I would also encourage you to repent and seek out a prayer partner and
a Christian mentor at your church.

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Yes, you said it correctly. Snake. He knew what he was doing all along. I realize that, but do forgive him. I also forgive myself for being gullible and weak. Happens to the best of us. Chalk it up for experience, unfortunately my marriage was heading for disrepair for quite a while before this guy started slithering. Thx.