Do I tell the Other Man's Wife?

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feel free to pm me i will give you my opinion

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Yours Faithfully,

ck_psy.

Thank you for the offer of opinion. I tried to pm you but am unable to do so as I receive a message saying that I must have at least 15 posts in order to pm. You may be able to pm me... I don't know. I appreciate your offer.

And thank you p.......o from England for your pm this morning. I tried to reply to you by pm as well, but the 15 post minimum has stumped me again. I guess if I just reply to my own original post a lot I will get there pretty quickly.

Your recall of my situation is pretty close, though your expressed opinion covers my question very well. I am appreciative for that. And I am appreciative for your suggestion of where I might find a greater response. I will do that as well (adding further to my post count )

ck_psy - I tried to respond to another pm (noted in post above) and am unable to do so. So, I send you this reply to let you know of that and to add to my post count (gosh I hope that replying to my own original post counts towards my 15).

Blessed day to all!

hmm sorry about the PM 15 post count limit.
I think it was to stop alot of spam bots coming on here, as well as the trolls.

I can PM you but you wont be able to pm me back.
perhaps you can make a few posts in the other forums, likes the word games in the friendship/community thread.

Here http://www.christianforums.com/f15/

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Yours Faithfully,

ck_psy.

I will nail my colours to the mast poublicly.

If you have documentary evidence that is incontravertible, a confession, or a second witness that has seen this first hand, then go ahead. I have seen what was said on the other thread and I have posted there too.

You must be careful that the OM's wife might well decidse that you are lying, but if you have the proof, then go with it.

But get ready for the counterblast. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst, such as OM perhaps getting violent, or wife suing for divorce.

Sin multiplies in darkness and tries to keep away from light.

I've never been in that situation. But I'd have mixed feelings about doing it. I really like to leave people alone unless they ask me for advice in general.

just replying to the thread title--- shouldn't you be talking to the Other Man, and confronting him with his sin, rather than interjecting yourself into the situation and telling the wife>

Good point Anessa. And, yes, I agree with you. And that's just what I did two years ago when I found out the first time. Told him that any future contact, whatsoever, with my wife would likely mean that his wife would have to find out.

Apparently that had little affect as he was one of the several with whom she has cheated over the past two years (as I found out, now, a couple of weeks ago).

So, at this point, and with tremendous input/feedback, I have been wondering how to handle it currently. Now, I'm very concerned for her, their young child, the possibility that she may have more children with him when she might not have otherwise - but - most importantly that she, he, me, my "wife"... are all at risk of STD's, and serious ones, because of her behavior. ("Several others" means more than you can count on one hand in the past few months alone, including one petite man who has spent most of his adult life in prison - nice, huh?)

Having said that, I'm inclined to confront him again, but this time not with a warning about it happening again, but that if he doesn't tell her, I will - somehow. I'm now starting to feel a great deal of guilt for considering not telling her what I know (and can prove).