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Today I spent a good chunk of time googling Single Christian Forums (I just joined this one) and I noticed that there are dozens and dozens of them... So I started looking at a couple and noticed that a LOT of the single people are in their late 20's... 30's... and older. It makes me kinda sad. Why is it so hard for people to find someone?
For me, I think it's because I'm kind of a quiet girl. I don't have a bubbly, expressive, go-get-em personality. But it's also because it seems like a lot of people my age have either stopped going to church, or they are already married and having kids already. It is really hard to find a good Christian guy. I get asked out by non-Christian guys often enough, but it seems like a Christian guy is one in a million.
Welcome to CF, sister!!! I hope you enjoy your stay.
To answer the question mentioned in the thread title, I am single because I have a lot of baggage and things I need to work on. I am not ready for a relationship at all and it would be unfair to someone if I were to get in one with them.
My problem is I end up with too many guys, (Christian and non Christian), liking me but they only know the surface and not my struggles.
There are a lot of Christian guys out there, and ones who will compliment you and who like that kind of personality.
This is not a strong area for me so hopefully others will respond better!
Praying as I post.
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Welcome to CF, sister!!! I hope you enjoy your stay.
To answer the question mentioned in the thread title, I am single because I have a lot of baggage and things I need to work on. I am not ready for a relationship at all and it would be unfair to someone if I were to get in one with them.
My problem is I end up with too many guys, (Christian and non Christian), liking me but they only know the surface and not my struggles.
There are a lot of Christian guys out there, and ones who will compliment you and who like that kind of personality.
This is not a strong area for me so hopefully others will respond better!
Praying as I post.
Thanks for the welcome! I can definitely relate to what you said about having things you need to work on! I have areas I need to work on as well.
As to why I am still single I guess it's because I am not out going enough in person online , I can talk and talk and talk to every one but in person I freeze up , get real nervous ,afraid I am going to say something dumb or completely off topic that I just keep to myself most of the time . Also alot of the men seem to want perfection in looks I am far from beautiful no I'm not terribly ugly I am just average guys want more then that i'll never have long hair , be skinny , have perfect teeth or be short its just not me its not who I am but its how alot of guys seem to want things so that is it in a nut shell.Also being christian the only guys I have come into contact online well want to do non Christian things that I just refuse to do.So until he comes along I am just trying to be content and accept the fact that I might not ever meet anyone who I am good enough for or that will give me a chance.
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As to why I am still single I guess it's because I am not out going enough in person online , I can talk and talk and talk to every one but in person I freeze up , get real nervous ,afraid I am going to say something dumb or completely off topic that I just keep to myself most of the time . Also alot of the men seem to want perfection in looks I am far from beautiful no I'm not terribly ugly I am just average guys want more then that i'll never have long hair , be skinny , have perfect teeth or be short its just not me its not who I am but its how alot of guys seem to want things so that is it in a nut shell.Also being christian the only guys I have come into contact online well want to do non Christian things that I just refuse to do.So until he comes along I am just trying to be content and accept the fact that I might not ever meet anyone who I am good enough for or that will give me a chance.
Thanks for the welcome!!
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Today I spent a good chunk of time googling Single Christian Forums (I just joined this one) and I noticed that there are dozens and dozens of them... So I started looking at a couple and noticed that a LOT of the single people are in their late 20's... 30's... and older. It makes me kinda sad. Why is it so hard for people to find someone?
For me, I think it's because I'm kind of a quiet girl. I don't have a bubbly, expressive, go-get-em personality. But it's also because it seems like a lot of people my age have either stopped going to church, or they are already married and having kids already. It is really hard to find a good Christian guy. I get asked out by non-Christian guys often enough, but it seems like a Christian guy is one in a million.
disclaimer: I haven't read all of the replies.
I honestly think it is the way boys have been fathered. If done correctly (and I don't think I have), a man would find a good hearted woman at 17-20 or even before that and pursue her. That would be it. He would fight and scrape and sacrifice and work and give until all he had left was to support her.
I keep asking. The last one said "I'm not ready." Guess what? God doesn't call the qualified. He qualifies the called. Let that rattle you.
__________________ God is a warrior! Ex 15:3, Luke 22:36, Rev 19:11
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I honestly think it is the way boys have been fathered. If done correctly (and I don't think I have), a man would find a good hearted woman at 17-20 or even before that and pursue her. That would be it. He would fight and scrape and sacrifice and work and give until all he had left was to support her.
I keep asking. The last one said "I'm not ready." Guess what? God doesn't call the qualified. He qualifies the called. Let that rattle you.
I am single because I have a lot of baggage and things I need to work on. I am not ready for a relationship at all and it would be unfair to someone if I were to get in one with them.
Much love to you (I remember you giving a lot of encouragement when I was more of a reg here).
However this is a lie. Everyone has baggage. Even I do. I have things I don't want to hold with a loose hand. I have people I don't want to forgive. That's why we are encouraged to find a partner with solid foundations in God. :-J That person will call out that lie for what it is. We are loved as Gods kids! He has sacrificed more than I'd give to many of my family! He told us to go out in pairs (first as man and wife, second as the disciples).
I'm a wreck! I live with my mother and step father. I'm grossly ashamed of that. However, I'm fighting to keep on pursuing .... wow. I honestly have not been pursuing a real woman. Maybe this thread was for me.
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I tell you the truth as best I know it. :-j
I would encourage you to focus on the best. If you are a Christian, look to Jesus.
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I don't honestly know why I'm still single. The man I'm working towards is a man I believe women would dogpile and fight over for tooth and nail. I believe women would do bodily harm to be with that man.
I'm not there yet, but I hope to someday.
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