I need your help

I live in the UK.
I am a Grandmother.
My Grandson has aspergers.
He is 17 years old.
In January he had a nervous breakdown.
He is now in hospital and very unhappy.
Doctors are seeking to come to a diagnosis.
I believe that his poor communication skills are not helping.

How do I, his family, the doctors best help him?
His confidence and self esteem are at such a low point.

He also desperately needs friends.
Would anyone be prepared to become a pen friend?
He loves history.

I hope you will not mind my taking part in your forum like this.

In Christ Jesus
Winnie

That is tough.
Bring him to this sight and introduce him to us. As a broad we have not ministered to a person this way, but I'd for one would love to see that happen.

Sounds like the family is bring there for him ... I would say that's the 1st thing to do.

It can take time for a man is AS at his age to think of a response to a question. So visit him often and when you leave say, I'd like to talk to you about what you think about "insert topic, idea, etc". Then get some alone time on the next visit to talk about it. When words stop coming for him, say lets talk more about your thoughts on .. rephrase what you want to talk about next time you visit.

Try, not to put his words into how you view things, but seek to understand what his words mean to him. They will probably different in some way.

You can say when I think about ... phrase, sentence this is what it means to me. This can help him understand how no AS people see a situation, event. You don't want to be telling him the way he sees things are wrong. We come for a somewhat different world(way of seeing the world) so we can't own your way of seeing things, it doesn't work for us.

Hope that helps.

Bless your heart Dayhiker! 'Yes!' It does help a great deal.
Thank you so very much.

I will indeed introduce him to this site as soon as he is out of hospital.
He is having tests at present to determine whether there is a physical cause
for what has happened. Then hopefully there will be a diagnosis, so that the
relevant treatment can be given.

* I do feel that the Lord has led me to find this 'outlet' for him, and a source of help and encouragement for me too.

Praise His Holy Name!

In Christ Jesus
Winnie

Praise God

Also, I am not sure what constitutes a "nervous breakdown," but it might help if you can find a local Aspie group for him to attend. If he is Christian, a Christian one would be better. Regular (non-Aspie) church home groups may be a good option, too (because of their typically small size).

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Praying for you and your grandson Winifred. I feel for you and your grandson. He is blessed to have such a caring Grandma. God bless you.

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God is good all the time.

"For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain." Philippians 1:21

Dayhiker
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Thank you to each one. Thank you for your kindness and your advice, I have taken note of everything you have said, I am sure it will be a help.

I will let you know what happens to him, he is longing to come home at the moment, but needs to stay in hospital for a while yet.

With love in Christ Jesus
Our risen and glorified
Saviour, Lord and Head

Winnie

Winnie,
Do you understand the tension he was under that lead to the nervous breakdown?
Or other causes?

Dear christian grandma,
Would you please understand that from what I read people are acting as if autism is a handicap while it isn't even anything bad?

A great mind once told me: Autistic children are entities that are represent shining mirrors. They reflect people's bad sides and everyone who is around autistic children become better people. If autistic children are treated as handicapped children, they behave themselves like handicapped children.

Yes, 'modern day experts' do say that autistic children have a problem with the world around them, but they aren't autistic themselves to find out. What I hereby want to conclude and base this whole pile of pixeltext on is that if you treat him like a normal child and point out his everyday social flaws like you would do to a normal child that he would never have these problems.

I don't just blame you( excuse my rudeness ) but I blame everyone around him who doesn't help him realize that he is normal just like everyone around him.

Try acting as if nobody ever mentioned autism for a week at the minimum and notice some results.

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