is "Christian Mingle" God's will?

Obviously she does not believe it's a "match made in heaven". Something has given her pause and I believe she owes you more than a "God told me so". That in itself is a little red flag for me.

I would ask her "Honestly, if we weren't Christians, would you continue a relationship with me? Do you see anything that would make you hesitate to continue a relationship with me?". Then see how much honesty you get.

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I'm sorry bro but there's a point... ask God.
Because you know... God will never let you meet the perfect person.
Because what is God's will? To let you become more like His son.. that you be more like Jesus. Wich means Love is not finding the right person my friend.. and this is what so many christians are doing wrong.. and i don't agree with this website (my opinion). Christians does not wait upon the Lord and let the Lord show them the person... instead they go on a website deserately searching one. God will never let you meet a perfect person... because what good is that then? God will let you meet an imperfect person.. so you may learn to see that person perfectly. All tho she has flaws you forgive her and still love her. That's the will of God, unconditional love and that's what he wants to do. Not giving you a perfect person. God has an unconditional love for us.. he din't love us because we were holy or because we were perfect.. we are filthy and he still loved us. That's what he wants to do. So what happens if she is not pretty anymore? What happens if you found out that girl is not virgin cause of the tragedy in her life?

My friend... i think she is right. Wait upon the Lord.. this is not God's will.
Trust the Lord and not what you want or what others opinions. Trust God and search the bible.. talk to your parents if their christians or talk to your pastor if you don't know. But this is not God's will.

I found my girl... not of with the help of the website. But before my school-year started... ever since i was saved i was always fiathful to God and walking with him.. ofcourse i stumble and commit sins but i always stand up and keep on walking and asking forgiveness. I asked God if it was okay with him if i could make friends with someone that is a girl. Because i am not very socialise and all the friends i have is only guys and so i wanted to have a friend that was a girl.. because i never had 1 and i probably never will because i am not social type at all.

And so when school started i met a girl.. and she wasn't a christian... and i never liked her.. and she told me about her life... and how broken she was and so i talked to her and about God and so it took a while but at last she said that she wanted God and let him enter her life. And so with the time she changed and continue to have a passion for God and hunger for him.

And the more i got to know her about who she is from the inside and hwo Godly she became... i started loving her. Despite all the horrible things she's been through and she HAS COMMITED against God... i forgive her and still love her. All tho she is not perfect, everything i wanted for a christian girl to be... i still love her. All tho she has much flaws.. i still love her and see her perfect. This was God's will.... letting me meet someone imperfect and learn to love her and see her perfectly..

My friend i hope you open your eyes.
I was just on this website trying to know what it was about exactly since i have a friend that is a christian and he is on this website. So im about to explain him that this is not God's will and i ran into your problem.

Hope you open you eyes my brother.. God bless.

I'm sorry bro but there's a point... ask God.
Because you know... God will never let you meet the perfect person.
Because what is God's will? To let you become more like His son.. that you be more like Jesus. Wich means Love is not finding the right person my friend.. and this is what so many christians are doing wrong.. and i don't agree with this website (my opinion). Christians does not wait upon the Lord and let the Lord show them the person... instead they go on a website deserately searching one. God will never let you meet a perfect person... because what good is that then? God will let you meet an imperfect person.. so you may learn to see that person perfectly. All tho she has flaws you forgive her and still love her. That's the will of God, unconditional love and that's what he wants to do. Not giving you a perfect person. God has an unconditional love for us.. he din't love us because we were holy or because we were perfect.. we are filthy and he still loved us. That's what he wants to do. So what happens if she is not pretty anymore? What happens if you found out that girl is not virgin cause of the tragedy in her life?

My friend... i think she is right. Wait upon the Lord.. this is not God's will.
Trust the Lord and not what you want or what others opinions. Trust God and search the bible.. talk to your parents if their christians or talk to your pastor if you don't know. But this is not God's will.

I found my girl... not of with the help of the website. But before my school-year started... ever since i was saved i was always fiathful to God and walking with him.. ofcourse i stumble and commit sins but i always stand up and keep on walking and asking forgiveness. I asked God if it was okay with him if i could make friends with someone that is a girl. Because i am not very socialise and all the friends i have is only guys and so i wanted to have a friend that was a girl.. because i never had 1 and i probably never will because i am not social type at all.

And so when school started i met a girl.. and she wasn't a christian... and i never liked her.. and she told me about her life... and how broken she was and so i talked to her and about God and so it took a while but at last she said that she wanted God and let him enter her life. And so with the time she changed and continue to have a passion for God and hunger for him.

And the more i got to know her about who she is from the inside and hwo Godly she became... i started loving her. Despite all the horrible things she's been through and she HAS COMMITED against God... i forgive her and still love her. All tho she is not perfect, everything i wanted for a christian girl to be... i still love her. All tho she has much flaws.. i still love her and see her perfect. This was God's will.... letting me meet someone imperfect and learn to love her and see her perfectly..

My friend i hope you open your eyes.
I was just on this website trying to know what it was about exactly since i have a friend that is a christian and he is on this website. So im about to explain him that this is not God's will and i ran into your problem.

Hope you open you eyes my brother.. God bless.

Originally Posted by logjam25

She believes that God is leading her to different scriptures in the bible and the bible is opening her eyes to things. She is also talking to different people about this issue, like her father who is a preacher. She told him that she had read some things in the bible about looking for love and being patient for God's will, he told her that the bible would never steer her wrong. I then told her that I felt as though there were no positives at all coming from anyone, her and everyone else is being negative. She said, it's funny how God works, and when He speaks, you just know. I believe she is going to make the wrong decision, I just cannot convince her that this was God's will!!!! I have no clue what to do! I prayed and prayed and prayed and asked God for a great Christian girl, a few days later I saw the Christian Mingle commercial on tv, checked it out, found her, we have been happy and crazy about each other ever since!!! How would that not be God's Will?

I know you're disappointed about perhaps losing something you enjoy and were looking forward to turning into a permanent relationship, but the girl says she is at peace and believes God has spoken to her, through the Bible and through her father and friends.

Frankly, I'm not sure you can argue with that, and I wonder if you should. But that's up to you.

You might want to reconsider spending your life with a woman who needs to be 'led by the Spirit' for every little decision. I know this seems like an admirable trait, but in my experience, it just leads to a lack of accountability.

For example, this girl signed up for this website, contacted you (or replied to you), talked to you for a month and a half and then started talking about God's will? And even now that God has apparently told her that you are 'not the one for her' or whatever, she hasn't broken off contact with you.

Now it's possible, I guess, that for some reason, that any relationship between the two of you is anathema in the eyes of God, and that she is risking the flames of hell just by answering your calls, but I find it far more likely that she's just not that into you, doesn't want to 'hurt your feelings', and is using the Living God as a cover so that she won't have to be the 'bad guy'.

Let this one go, friend. She's not done growing yet.

I'm curious to know how this situation ended. Original poster please update us. Prayed over your situation and am curious to see how the Lord worked.

I would tell her this, that it isn't biblical that you cannot pursue a relationship or that God wants you to wait for him to bring someone to you or that you can only date or marry someone that God tells you to.

That's simply not biblical.

1 cor 7.39 ESV
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.

NIV
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.

KJV
The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

God gives you the liberty to date or marry whoever you want as long as they belong to him so that you are not unequally yoked. You can find a person and love them and decide for yourself "I want this to be the person I spend the rest of my life with" for yourself... you do not have to wait for God to choose a person for you. He actually gives you the liberty to do that.

You should certainly be in prayer about it but the idea that you are supposed to deny your own desires and just wait on God to bring you a mate isn't biblical or God's will. It is perfectly fine to see a Christian and be attracted to them and date them and choose to marry them as long as they are a Christian. Your purpose is not tied to any one person.

and that goes for you too... if anyone ever chooses to walk out of your life, then let them walk. They do not hold your purpose and you will find another and you will be perfectly fine. Believe in yourself, your perfectly fine all by yourself and she was not the best fish in the sea. In a month or two or 6 months you will probably see that better.

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"A life touched by God always ends up touching others. If you are annoying them, that is probably just your pride."
Mark Mobley

"If simple folk are free from care and fear, then simple they will be..."
Aragorn

I don't think going to dating sites or even going to a party to find a mate is Gods Will. I mean sure, you might find them there, but most of the time when the time is right (Gods time) the right person will come to us and us to them.

As someone who is disabled. I spent 16 years looking for "the one" anywhere I could go, even online. Then I gave it over to God and stopped worrying about it. The day after I did that I went to close my account at a relativly small christian dating site (where no one had contacted me) and I had a message in my box.

It was from my now fiance (and soon to be wife). She to had prayed and given herself to God to let her find someone. It was the next day when by Gods will my profile happen to be reccomended to her by the site.

So she contacted me and we got to talking. We were so alike when it came to how we were searching for someone, then how we gave it over to God. We prayed and fasted and really felt we were suppose to be with each other so after we got engaged. Its now been about 9 months together. We don't fight, we don't believe in divorce..etc. Doesn't mean we are perfect of course. But we do know for sure God put us together in His time and when we were meant to be together!

Not to mention both of our relationships with God has grown astronomicaly! We are very happy, down to earth and have 100% faith and patience in God!
So the spouse of your dreams could be at these sites. But you need to not worry about finding the one, because they will appear in Gods time.

Oh and on a site note being to desperate and searching yourself will lead to disaster. THe first girl years ago I found we ended up having sex while still BF/GF. The second girl cheated on me and the third left me for no real reason. Its when I realized I had to let God handle my love life.

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I've held off on posting because I've been guilty of enrolling on Christian dating sites and trying oh so hard to make a connection and failing and trying again and failing and ...

You get the picture. So, some thoughts are about to unfold here. I promise I'll fold them back up and get them out of everyone's way so nobody trips over them.

Two things I know for certain: 1) God's through His sovereign will is always in charge, and 2) how He does it, I have no clue. You can pick at the thread of your neatly woven life and unravel it all you want and, when its all unwound on the floor before you, you still won't understand how He designed it. God has used camels, pushy mothers, sailing ships, chance meetings and Adam's rib to make love connections, so it wouldn't be surprising if He used the Internet too. But that's assuming your own decisions are wise and God-inspired, as well as whether or not you employ the virtues of holiness, discernment, love and purity as a follower of Jesus Christ ought.

So, making certain we don't do the following should at least keep us on the right track.

1. Don't lie. Hoping to make ourselves more attractive, cool and "with it" might tempt us to stretch the truth a bit -- or a lot. We must remember, if this is the person we want to be "the one," eventually we're going to have to meet them, and with that comes discovery.
2. You're lonely? That's still not a mandate to find a spouse. Culture calls for the simple solution to life's problems. God's solutions are much more complex, layered and mysterious. Simply "hooking up" isn't an answer in and of itself.
3. We don't have to have a spouse to express our sexuality. It's part of who we are. Christian teaching fails miserably in getting this point across. We are men and women whose masculine and feminine traits are imprinted by God in our identity, and can be expressed without sexual contact or without being lewd, crude, rude and socially unacceptable.
4. "Internet romances" often bring with them an aura of reality that doesn't really exist. It must eventually exist beyond the ether, but in real time, in real life. Romance apart from your real life -- job, church, social contacts, family -- is one that is more imaginary than real. God-sanctioned relationships don’t operate in secret places.
5. So a friend met his/her "life partner/soulmate/love-of-their-life" online. So what? God doesn't use the same method for everyone, and anyone who says he/she knows God's mind for a friend or fellow church member doesn't necessarily know what he/she is talking about, and it is dangerous to view other success stories through the lens of our own life and assume that is also God's plan for us.
6. Relationships don't follow a script like a Drew Barrymore romantic comedy, the storyline of our grandparents' 60-year marriage or the hopes and dreams of our friends. God weaves these lives together yet separately, with His grace, mercy, love, hope and peace. Don't expect anything to go any particular way.

Would God use the Internet to bring you your dream spouse? Probably, He could, even would.

But how do you know he/she isn't the person at the local supermarket, car wash, department store -- or church? You don't. God likes surprises. Let Him surprise you.