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Old 9th February 2012, 11:28 AM
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Question Should you kiss or not before marriage?

My fiacne told me shes against kissing before marriage. I am not sure how to approach this with her. Its not a sin in the bible to kiss. I do realize it can lead to other tempting things. But it doesn't mean you should avoid it. I might go out of the house and be tempted by any number of things, but I still go out. I love being romantic, which means I love kissing.

And since she lives far in another country it could mean 7 years at the most before we marry and finally get to kiss. I am not sure how I feel about that. I respect her opinion but at the same time its not fair when your in a relationship. I could tell her no hugs, gifts or anything of that nature because it might make her happy and tempted to do other things. But obviously that would not be fair to her and have no biblical merit.

So what should I do? Should I even say anything to her about it or just let it go? I won't leave her over something so petty but it still bugs me a bit.
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You should be thrilled to have a woman agree to marry you who is virtuous enough to save even her lips for her husband at marriage, assuming that's the case. Respect her conscience. If it is a sin against her conscience to kiss you, then it is a sin against God for her to do so. You do not want to cause her to stumble into sin by pressuring her to sin against her conscience. (See Romans 14, I Corinthians 8.) Even if you consider it to be legalistic, you should still respect her conscience.

My wife and I were virgins at marriage. We did kiss, though. I wish we both could have said we hadn't had a romantic kiss before marriage. (Grandma kissing on the cheek doesn't count.) But it doesn't matter that much.

Don't expect that your wife will be a great kisser if she's never kissed before. By the time you get married, there will be all kinds of affection you can show, so that may not matter much.
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Kiss, maybe a little petting if you can stay pure.
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I knew a pentecostal woman who wouldn't let her fiance kiss her because it aroused lust. Talk about over the top. There is no way I could refrain from kissing my fiance (if I had one).
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Kiss, maybe a little petting if you can stay pure.
Petting is not pure. Stop corrupting the youth.
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Old 10th February 2012, 12:09 AM
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After thinking about it for awhile I am not going to complain about it. If anything people are right. Shes a very virtuous woman and I like that. We both have made mistakes in the past with our first loves, we had sex with them. Now we both vow to never have sex before marriage and in this case no kissing either. However if she lets me I will hold her hand and kiss it.

Also lets face it, it will make the honeymoon even better having held back such urges. Praise God for giving me a godly women like I always wanted.
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Originally Posted by xfreakazoidx View Post
Also lets face it, it will make the honeymoon even better having held back such urges. Praise God for giving me a godly women like I always wanted.
Actually, it will probably make it more awkward and difficult.

Remember that the first few times having sex really isn't all that enjoyable, especially for females. Add never having been kissed to that equation and you've got an interesting (and probably comical) situation on your hands. It would be like watching Mr. Bean.
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I think it's sweet (for u 2)
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Yeah I think the kissing part for her might be akward. SHes only been with one guy and only kissed once. We each have had sex before, er with someone else when we were young and stupid lol. THank goodness I am well studied on the subject of sex. ^.^

And anyways sex is a beautiful thing to connect two people ITs worth waiting for!
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Now we both vow to never have sex before marriage and in this case no kissing either. However if she lets me I will hold her hand and kiss it.
If she has made a vow, respect that. If you are not married, you have no authority to abrogate her vow yet.
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