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Unread 9th January 2012, 07:58 PM
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I'm ugly and worthless :(

I really do feel completely worthless, I fail everything no matter how hard I try. I'm ugly, I even saw a comment on one of my albums saying "oo someones pretty!" and the person he thought was pretty said "what sarah i know she is" and he sid "good one, u know I ment u" and I'm just sat in tears. No matter what I do to make myself pretty not even the best make up artist can do it I have no career I can possibly do, I'm ugly and I hate myself. I'd really like to just die right now I can't stand it here anymore. All I do is sit indoors anyway because I suck at everything else. why can't god just take me now
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Unread 11th January 2012, 08:01 AM
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Your only as ugly as you want yourself to be. What I mean by that is you control how you view yourself. Don't listen to other peoples opinions. Tell yourself your pretty and realize if you want someone to tell you if your pretty, think of what God would say. Not some random human.

My ex constantly, literally every few minutes would claim she was ugly, hidoues, ondateable and stuff like that. By the worlds "standards" she wasn't a super model. But then again who really is? Supermodels are people with low self esteems that need to stay skin and perfect in order feel wanted. Don't look at them as rolemodels!

Anyways.... the reason we ended up splitting was because no matter how beautiful I told her she was (inside and out), she would revert back to thinkings shes ugly. Which is why she left me, she claimed I could do better (among other things). Trust me, you don't want to be like her. We all have issues but if you want to be with someone and they feel you are beautiful accept it! If not it will drive them away or you will tell them to go away.

All that matters is what God thinks. Just remember that! In this world people will call you things, even if they aren't true, just so they can feel better about themselves!
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Just because one person made an off-comment doesn't mean you should feel that way about yourself. I know it's easy to take what people say like that seriously and apply it to our own lives, because we are such vulnerable creatures. That's just the way God made us, so that we would need Him more.

You are a princess and God finds you beautiful, because you are. I know how it feels to have low-self-esteem. In fact, it's hypocritical of me to tell you all of this because I myself feel pretty ugly and worthless sometimes. What helps me is to remember that we always see ourselves differently than how others do, and how we think they do.

The guy who made that comment was probably just a crush of your friend's or something, and didn't mean to insult you personally. If he did, on the other hand, then he's just being cruel and unfair and you shouldn't listen to that and believe it.

I hope you feel better soon. God loves you and you truly are beautiful, I know that even without seeing you because, believe it or not, we're all masterpieces.
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I want to tell you something, and I swear to you it is true. I can't think of the last time that I have seen someone and thought, "They are ugly." That is the absolute truth. Not everyone sees people as ugly. Only very vain people do. I am 100% more concerned with kindness. You'd be very surprised at the people that just don't see "ugly." I mean that. Even the most "beautiful" lose their physical beauty with age. True, beautiful people have an advantage, but this is also true: They only have the advantage with people that esteem beauty over kindness, and therefore, they become slaves to superficial people if they focus on it. Focus on your soul. Look outward. And a word about failure: Have you ever read about all of Abraham Lincoln's failures? He failed at everything he tried, Until one day. Success is just persistence. God bless you, Rob
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Unread 20th January 2012, 08:31 PM
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agapegrace, i would start by deleting facebook or whatever social networking you have. Start going out and enjoying your life and meeting real people. Sometimes people think they can say things over the internet and get away with it. I will be honest here when i was maybe 13 or 14 i had a social networking site i used and i said things to people i would never say to them in real life.

You are not ugly, don`t worry about all these celbritys that take 28 hours to get ready for a night out, magazines and Tv can make models look too good to be true. Anyway it actually doesn`t matter what you look like, it`s what inside that counts!

You have a soul that is filled with precious holy spirit. Please remain positive and do good things in your life.

And don`t listen to anyone`s opinon of you..here is a song that fits my mood for you right now...

Christian Aguilera - Beautiful

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Unread 20th January 2012, 11:07 PM
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I also tell people "Ugly" is by far a human word we made up to insult others. Just like those who call someone Emo or Ginger. So don't worry about some word that people want to assign you. No human can ever tell you who/what you are. Because God knows what you are. And that is you are a daughter of God. Someone who was made beautiful in God eyes!
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I really do feel completely worthless, I fail everything no matter how hard I try. I'm ugly, I even saw a comment on one of my albums saying "oo someones pretty!" and the person he thought was pretty said "what sarah i know she is" and he sid "good one, u know I ment u" and I'm just sat in tears. No matter what I do to make myself pretty not even the best make up artist can do it I have no career I can possibly do, I'm ugly and I hate myself. I'd really like to just die right now I can't stand it here anymore. All I do is sit indoors anyway because I suck at everything else. why can't god just take me now
Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.
Samuel Beckett

This quote stick with me on a range of issues, insecurities, self doubt included.

Of course its easier to give advise and prognosticate than live it, but your value is equal to those who by all appearances are successful, cool, in the "in"crowd, use whatever adjective you like. Whether your rich or poor, intoverted or extroverted or "attractive" or "unattractive" its not what defines you. The only other advice I can think off, is stay away from the media, namely TV/Movies/Magazines stay away from the "cool" people (run from them), if you can meet some "salt of the earth" folks, be it at church or maybe volunteering at senior centre or food bank etc. Went through a period where I had minimal media exposure, it was great, lots reading done, drawing, volunteering, nature walks, learned a instrument etc. Just my thoughts

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Excuse me?????-----Are you aware that the Son of God almighty died for you? Do you not understand that He is what gives us our value?? Elizabeth Taylor got old and died---name any screen goddess that has not gotten old, wrinkled and died (well, some died before they got to the wrinkled part)--God did not give me the beauty of a Liz or Sophia--I am (was) at best--passable by the worlds standards--so what--I am 61 now and how cares??? What are you doing with whatever talents God gave you? We will be held accountable for our time, our money, our talents---no where does God say He is going to judge us by how good looking we are!! Even Jesus was no Brad Pitt---the bible says He was "not comely, that non should desire Him."--He attracted people by His soul---If we live long enough--we all get old, wrinkled, and downright homely!! We end up loosing body parts--and after 40 everything goes south, east and west---I had one old woman crying on my shoulder sobbing her heart out because she was no longer a beauty--"You don't know what it's like to loose your beauty!!!"---Thanks, I didn't know I was chopped liver!!---She had so much makeup on she looked like a clown, a cheap old hooker!! When God comes, we will all be changed--and we will all be beautiful---till then, be thankful you have all your body parts and get started on working on your souls beauty--that's all we take with us!
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