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Is my husband saved?

I married my second husband just over 2 years ago. I had only known him 2 years before that time.

I believed that he was a born again Christian. He is very knowledgable about Scripture and has studied theology, however, there is no Spiritual fruit in his life. He is a good and loving husband, but acts and thinks carnally. He doesn't even try to defend his canal beliefs and actions. It's as if he really doesn't care what God or His word says.

This is grieving me terribly and I can only imagine how it must be grieving God. I am really concerned about his eternal savalation and I don't know what to do other than pray.

Can anyone glean any thoughts on this?
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Originally Posted by Lyn1955 View Post
I married my second husband just over 2 years ago. I had only known him 2 years before that time.

I believed that he was a born again Christian. He is very knowledgable about Scripture and has studied theology, however, there is no Spiritual fruit in his life. He is a good and loving husband, but acts and thinks carnally. He doesn't even try to defend his canal beliefs and actions. It's as if he really doesn't care what God or His word says.

This is grieving me terribly and I can only imagine how it must be grieving God. I am really concerned about his eternal savalation and I don't know what to do other than pray.

Can anyone glean any thoughts on this?
You are giving us such a vague and general description that it
would be very difficult to give good advice.

What specifically is your husband carnal about?

You say he is a good and loving husband and we know that
love is a fruit of the spirit so what are you saying when
you say he has no fruit?
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You ask what he is carnal about. I wrote above: 'It's as if he really doesn't care what God or His word says.' He has a worldly perspective on everything and doesn't want to live as a Christian.

Yes, I understand that love is a fruit of the Spirit, but the love that is talked about in Galations is the agape love of God. The love my husband has is conditional as many 'loves' in the world are.
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Originally Posted by Lyn1955 View Post
I married my second husband just over 2 years ago. I had only known him 2 years before that time.

I believed that he was a born again Christian. He is very knowledgable about Scripture and has studied theology, however, there is no Spiritual fruit in his life. He is a good and loving husband, but acts and thinks carnally. He doesn't even try to defend his canal beliefs and actions. It's as if he really doesn't care what God or His word says.

This is grieving me terribly and I can only imagine how it must be grieving God. I am really concerned about his eternal savalation and I don't know what to do other than pray.

Can anyone glean any thoughts on this?




If you knew him for 3 years; and thought he was Christian: Then he may be;-You may have met him at a time of his life when he was in a continues state of backsliding: It happened to me; I back slid so hard; that I can see myself in his shoes; BUT: I was alone; and i wasnt making someone else carry my weight; so God could deal with me without hurting someone else:
With me; I came to the Lord strong; Sought Him hard; loved His Word and i new it well; BUT when you get to that place in God; and a person continues to sin against the conviction of the Spirit; then they can become hard hearted; and they wont feel the Spirit convicting them of the things they do as someone that was holding on to their faith more; so you seem to have become unevenly yoked due to his lack of faith; and he has hurt his mind by continuing to live life on his terms; because he is not feeling the conviction of the Spirit right now:

I think thats important in regards to how you pray for him; and the things you may say around him; hinting to him that the Spirit is not convicting him as it convicts you;

I dont think you should worry about judging the end now:
Dont worry yourself about something that God has to do. If God has to finish a work in Him, then we trust God now for that work being done; and when we rejoice with a person, and when we tell them when they are pleasing God. Loving them in spite; showing them the mercy God shows us, BUT not just by keeping silent and taking the pain; but rather by focusing on the good for a time; and speaking on the good; and in his heart he will see it as a light of mercy. He will see it as a void of judgment, he will see that you are loving him in spite of himself when you speak to him the good things that he does for God. Or reminding him out of the blue of the good things he has done for Christ: Not really focusing on the bad for a time; just trying to lift him in the Lord; or at least lift the bit of the Lord you still see in Him. And to him this will be reflected as the mercy and love of God. And he will remember that light and come home. thats what i pray for you and him; God bless you; in Jesus Name: Amen

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And just on another note; not really directed at you; because you may be living for God at the moment:
But for me; when with a person that has allowed things ungodly to enter his heart; the other person with them must live HOLY in the Lord; or the enemy will hurt both: I think we know this; the Spirit lets us feel this: And we can see the changes in the relationship according to how WE are living; BUT: It can help both if even one holds on TIGHT to faith; SO when we love; we ask ourselves what Jesus asked peter:

Do you love me? Feed my sheep:
Sometimes loving Jesus is loving others so much that we live for them. Since love is following Gods command; and we know that when we live in the Spirit we have power in our prayers and all around and within us; then we love Jesus by living in Him so that we can have the power to help those around us. Gives you a high calling; I am sure you know this: There is no male or female in Christ Jesus: Keep holding on to your good faith; and break down the walls in your life; and watch the glory of God lift your house: Its what we WANT: God puts us in situations that brings about what we desire for the good: AMEN
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I married my second husband just over 2 years ago. I had only known him 2 years before that time.

I believed that he was a born again Christian. He is very knowledgable about Scripture and has studied theology, however, there is no Spiritual fruit in his life. He is a good and loving husband, but acts and thinks carnally. He doesn't even try to defend his canal beliefs and actions. It's as if he really doesn't care what God or His word says.

This is grieving me terribly and I can only imagine how it must be grieving God. I am really concerned about his eternal savalation and I don't know what to do other than pray.

Can anyone glean any thoughts on this?
I'm sorry but if your asking this question, you already know the answer, he has a head knowledge of God but has never made spiritual contact, he's never been spiritually born again
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Thank you FTM. Your seem to understand completely what I have (poorly) been trying to say.

I concur with everything you say and yes, I try to live my life according to 1Pet3, that he would be 'won over' as a non-believer. (Whether he is or not!)
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Johnny, I know it looks that way, but as FTM said, she went though a serious period of back sliding, so it is possible that my husband is too.
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On the contrary Aib, I much prefer folks to be frank, but I can't see where you have posted before!

I am new to this, so I may have missed your reply somewhere.
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