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Reps: 93,746,158,409,629,664 (power: 93,746,158,409,631) | | Originally Posted by Colleen1  Oh I feel for you. It must be very difficult and I'm glad that you are managing better. It takes time and effort but it does get better each healthy step we take. You are so very right, experiencing issues like this is exhausting. So important we take care of ourselves not just emotionally but physically. I am chronically ill and the two issues can affect one another. My health issues can be discouraging and vice versa, healing from abuse etc. can take it's toll on my body. Today is a very heavy day for me for both areas so I know that I will need to pay attention to 'me' today and take it easy. 
I am managing it better, but it can still happen, and it did a few nights ago. It's still a horrible feeling, but I can get over it without meds. I just wish they wouldn't even start anymore |
29th February 2012, 04:06 PM
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29th February 2012, 04:26 PM
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Hi, sorry to hear you're having a tough week. Not much fun to feel such intense feelings. Pain can be a heavy burden. I'm glad God loves us but it's nice to feel connection with others who care during these times. However, it seems that during these times we feel alone and some times I think the loneliness is a big part of the pain. I understand and care. I will be praying and I'm glad you're posting here I don't mind listening. I will be praying. 
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1st March 2012, 01:14 PM
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But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him. For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. (Romans 5:8-10) |
1st March 2012, 01:37 PM
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Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,775,808 (power: 9,223,372,036,854,804) | | Originally Posted by TomCS I have had the message that I am not worth anything driven into me by other people since I was a young child. People went out of their way to entertain themselves by making me feel as bad as possible about myself. I have been called the following names countless times: nerd, geek, freak, loser, r*e*t*a*r*d, zombie, and other names I can't think of right now. Those names sunk in, and made me feel ashamed of myself. That shame poisons me to this very day. I'm trying to let God's estimation of me, as stated in the Bible, displace the world's estimation of me; but it seems like a slow process.
I understand what you are saying. Although I've heard different names and experienced different emotional games, it's still the same trash that unfortunately can affect us deeply. Leaves no bruises but cuts deep to the soul. It does get better as we practice different thinking and healthy choices. Yes, it can seem slow especially when we are constantly reminded of these things and when we are in a negative environment. It's like we never have a chance to heal or like we just start healing and BAM!!!! We're smacked down again! Believe me this is something I get all too well. Not an easy way to live. I just want to remind you that you are not alone, we understand and God loves you so dearly. Something that helps me at times is to have practical reminders. E.G. card in my wallet, printed posters around my home, music, scriptures marked on waiting, etc. It also helps to have a good place to be where people remind us of how much we are loved. Glad you post here.  Take care; God bless!
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2nd March 2012, 05:17 PM
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Reps: 41,102,747,329,570,832 (power: 41,102,747,329,572) | | Hope you all have a good weekend! I'm in the Chicago area and it has been raining and hailing all day. I went downstairs to get something to eat, got upstairs 20 minutes later, and the ground is covered in snow. 
You all are loved greatly by our Lord and Savior. He allowed your circumstances, but will bring you through them in such a way to bless you and others. Cry out to God, and may the cracks in your heart show Jesus amidst your suffering and pain. He is close to the brokenhearted. I've learned don't keep your story to yourself. There may be someone in your life that is going through something similar you are, lost. When you are real and honest with others in your life, it gives them permission to do the same. We heal in community. God will bless your honesty and openness. God has impressed this on my heart today. It took an excruciatingly painful week to learn that, but it was worth it. People need to hear you've made it through and are victorious. It may not feel like victory, but in Christ, we are all victors and free! Amen.
God bless, my friends! 
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Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,775,808 (power: 9,223,372,036,854,804) | | Originally Posted by LovedSparrow Hope you all have a good weekend! I'm in the Chicago area and it has been raining and hailing all day. I went downstairs to get something to eat, got upstairs 20 minutes later, and the ground is covered in snow.
You all are loved greatly by our Lord and Savior. He allowed your circumstances, but will bring you through them in such a way to bless you and others. Cry out to God, and may the cracks in your heart show Jesus amidst your suffering and pain. He is close to the brokenhearted. I've learned don't keep your story to yourself. There may be someone in your life that is going through something similar you are, lost. When you are real and honest with others in your life, it gives them permission to do the same. We heal in community. God will bless your honesty and openness. God has impressed this on my heart today. It took an excruciatingly painful week to learn that, but it was worth it. People need to hear you've made it through and are victorious. It may not feel like victory, but in Christ, we are all victors and free! Amen.
God bless, my friends!
LovedSparrow
Wow! What weather. So very true. I agree with what you said. Some times we just need to say things without editing. Despite the risk to sharing and talking about these issues, I think the benefits far outweigh the risks. God bless you. Thank you for posting.
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