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Unread 27th July 2011, 08:39 PM
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Why does God hate porn?

I understand the lust factor, but does He really expect for a single 21 year old college male that is full of testosterone(myself) to not look? Why would he create such a strong urge if he knew it would be so completely hard to overcome?

Also, I have had such a strong conviction when watching porn lately that I actually feel like I have difficulty breathing at times. It's like something is choking me and I have a hard time believing that it's a demon because that's a bit over the top for me.
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Its up to you if you want to stop. If you want to stop doing this, its only through God that it is possible, since it can be extremely addictive, and i believe mans will is not strong enough without God. . Learn about Gods grace, he loves us regardless, if you have given yourself to christ, nothing you can do, no sin you commit, can change that. So why do you continue if you know that He tells us not to lust, and thus not to look at porn? Do you actually want to stop? If you want to stop, it is your choice to seek God with your heart, and God will take it away. At any time you feel temptation, hand it over to God, and he will guide you away from it. But you must be willing.
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Why would he create such a strong urge if he knew it would be so completely hard to overcome?
He created that urge for your wife.

There is a Pornography Addiction Support thread located here: http://www.christianforums.com/f214/
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just wanted to add, a little yeast works its way through the dough. You have to be very careful, at some point you may be faced with worse situations then porn, like premarital sex, visiting prostitutes/strip clubs, or any other perverse situation, and if you lack the willpower to avoid sexual temptation, you can get yourself into a big mess that you will regret later. I know from experience. I have found its really only through God. You can try to stop by yourself all you want, but for me, i found it to be pretty much impossible. Until i turned to God, seeked his grace, and let Him take it away. You will always face temptation, but through God you can become much stronger, and remove porn from your life, if you are willing to. Remember, don't worry or stress, it is a problem so many of us face, but God is stronger than any temptation.
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God hates porn because it can and will destroy peoples lives. It starts out as harmless fun and then it spirals out of control consuming people. I'm speaking from personal experience of seeing it destroy a family member. My best advice would be to turn to God and pray for him to help you quit. Pray hard my friend. You have to acknowledge it is wrong and want to stop it. Looking for advice about it on here is fine but the desire to quit has to come from inside you. I think when you see it is wrong and want to stop God will know of your desire to turn from it and help you. Good luck and God Bless
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I don't know if He does. But...

I think He dislikes the harm it does to people's marriages, their homes, their careers, their mental stability (by creating addictions) and the damage it does to the actors in it. It tends to debase women and make them objects rather than images of the divine, which they were made to be. God hates seeing His kids hurt themselves and one another - much as He hates seeing those caught up in drug addiction and alcohol abuse.

God is love.
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It ruins your mind and your ability to have a real marriage when the times comes. Once you do get married everything you have seen in porn can ruin your chances for fulfilling intimacy. It makes men have very unrealistic expectation for women their looks, their bodies, and sex itself. It makes men think that all women perform sexually just like a porn star in a movie and that is sooooo not realistic. Young men go into their wedding night expecting the behavior they have seen in porn and then get very different results and often times it can cause intimacy issues within the marriage and depression. Porn can lead to adultery trading up your wife for a younger model to fit the porn star image. The person you marry should be your ideal image of beauty one that you can grow old with together until the day you die porn does nothing but go against that reality.
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It ruins your mind and your ability to have a real marriage when the times comes. Once you do get married everything you have seen in porn can ruin your chances for fulfilling intimacy. It makes men have very unrealistic expectation for women their looks, their bodies, and sex itself. It makes men think that all women perform sexually just like a porn star in a movie and that is sooooo not realistic. Young men go into their wedding night expecting the behavior they have seen in porn and then get very different results and often times it can cause intimacy issues within the marriage and depression. Porn can lead to adultery trading up your wife for a younger model to fit the porn star image. The person you marry should be your ideal image of beauty one that you can grow old with together until the day you die porn does nothing but go against that reality.
Contrary-wise though, you can learn some things from it. I've learned some positions and things I would never have even thought of it from seeing it.

The church tends to have an extremely negative attitude (especially towards sex) so it does not teach people anything at all when it comes time for some lovin'. That's a problem, since the church expects believers to remain pure until marriage, then get together on their honeymoon and thereafter, and blindly bungle around until they might find something that works. I can't imagine too many women are impressed with that. (Of course, most probably never know what they are missing in the first place, unfortunately.)
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*God doesn't like porn because it leads to lust/sin and unfortunately not all
people resist lustful urges. The more you view porn especially if you are male it will
"imprint" images in your memory...this tends to be harder on men since the vast majority of them are visually stimulated.




Originally Posted by Blueforest View Post
Contrary-wise though, you can learn some things from it. I've learned some positions and things I would never have even thought of it from seeing it.
*WOW!!!
I thought married folks have imaginations as "untamed" as mine. I didn't need porn to spark my "interest"--that came as I matured into a woman and from there it just came out more in the "bridal chamber.
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The church tends to have an extremely negative attitude (especially towards sex) so it does not teach people anything at all when it comes time for some lovin'. That's a problem, since the church expects believers to remain pure until marriage, then get together on their honeymoon and thereafter, and blindly bungle around until they might find something that works. I can't imagine too many women are impressed with that. (Of course, most probably never know what they are missing in the first place, unfortunately.)
*Again I say WOW!!!
I didn't look to my church to teach me about sex etc. I just asked my mom about things...since I "matured" real early--I was taught the facts of life early also.

Questions...
What I couldn't get answered from mom I'd ask my granny...well to be honest...granny was actually pretty
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Contrary-wise though, you can learn some things from it. I've learned some positions and things I would never have even thought of it from seeing it.

The church tends to have an extremely negative attitude (especially towards sex) so it does not teach people anything at all when it comes time for some lovin'. That's a problem, since the church expects believers to remain pure until marriage, then get together on their honeymoon and thereafter, and blindly bungle around until they might find something that works. I can't imagine too many women are impressed with that. (Of course, most probably never know what they are missing in the first place, unfortunately.)
Couples can read books about sex and anatomy to find pleasure spots, learn techniques, and positions. They also can do sex therapy together that teaches different ways of stimulation, pleasure, find out each others fantasies ect. There is nothing wrong with exploring these things as long as they are with your spouse. Porn crosses the line because it is no longer just you and your spouse you are now watching other people have sex looking at their bodies and finding them attractive ect.. A couple can learn about sex and each others bodies together without the visual negatives and lust of others found through using porn.

Sex is an amazing thing for love and passion and sometimes just for fun and pleasure. But learning about it or doing it is only blessed by God when it stays within the marriage just the two of you. Once you bring others into your bedroom literally or in a movie it is no longer blessed.
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