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8th May 2012, 11:43 PM
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12th May 2012, 08:26 AM
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Reps: 9,047,064,542,020,464 (power: 9,047,064,542,022) | | Originally Posted by cakeman  ok so, my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 6 months and i just have a couple questions about what is right and not in God's eyes for a relationship.
1. what is appropriate and what isn't? (please explain a lot on your answer)
like is kissing or making out right or wrong stuff like that.
2. how to talk to her about saying like, "I can not kiss like that because it really turns me on" so basically setting up more boundaries and how i come about that.
Kisses are all different.
The bible talks about 'greet each other with a holy kiss' and that should tell you some other kisses ain't holy.
A peck on the cheek is fine,anything else is definitely a no no no.
Also 'it is good for a man not to touch a woman'.
These things are not exactly sins but weights that can make your Christian journey a very rough one. The bible talks about laying away the sin and the weight that trips us down.These lead to lust and lust leads to sin and sin leads to death.This is why in Songs of Songs the writer is asking the women of Jerusalem not to arise his love before it pleases. You will start operating in the flesh which is the devil's dominion and there you have no match with him,it will be defeat after defeat.Basically just be Holy.Many people try to be in the world as much as they can while still being in church.It doesn't work that way.
Put it this way,the body is not for fornication.Your girlfriend's body is not yours but God's.As such don't start enjoying her yet.When you get married,her body belongs to you and yours to her but till then keep your hands to yourself.
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12th May 2012, 02:29 PM
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Reps: 27,733,933,009,374,648 (power: 27,733,933,009,387) | | Originally Posted by Moonshiner Kisses are all different.
The bible talks about 'greet each other with a holy kiss' and that should tell you some other kisses ain't holy.
A peck on the cheek is fine,anything else is definitely a no no no.
Also 'it is good for a man not to touch a woman'.
These things are not exactly sins but weights that can make your Christian journey a very rough one. The bible talks about laying away the sin and the weight that trips us down.These lead to lust and lust leads to sin and sin leads to death.This is why in Songs of Songs the writer is asking the women of Jerusalem not to arise his love before it pleases. You will start operating in the flesh which is the devil's dominion and there you have no match with him,it will be defeat after defeat.Basically just be Holy.Many people try to be in the world as much as they can while still being in church.It doesn't work that way.
Put it this way,the body is not for fornication.Your girlfriend's body is not yours but God's.As such don't start enjoying her yet.When you get married,her body belongs to you and yours to her but till then keep your hands to yourself.
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12th May 2012, 02:48 PM
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Reps: 9,047,064,542,020,464 (power: 9,047,064,542,022) | | Originally Posted by The Nihilist You give terrible relationship advice
I'm not really bothered about what non believers think. I'm sure there are many circular forums where people can give each other advice on how to fornicate and you are free to go and get that 'good advice'.
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13th May 2012, 12:26 PM
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Reps: 27,733,933,009,374,648 (power: 27,733,933,009,387) | | Originally Posted by Moonshiner I'm not really bothered about what non believers think. I'm sure there are many circular forums where people can give each other advice on how to fornicate and you are free to go and get that 'good advice'.
Circular? Hahaha, did you mean secular?
But the reason your advice is terrible is that a lot of those magical things that happen when people fall in love have to do with kissing. Here, have a study: Pucker Up! What Science Is Discovering About Why We Kiss - US News and World Report
If you're at least progressive enough to think that marriages should be about love and shouldn't simply be arranged by the families, then things like this are going to be important for a long lasting relationship. Of course, ignoring these kinds of things may be why evangelicals have a higher divorce rate than we circular atheists.
Source: U.S. divorce rates: for various faith groups, age groups and geographical areas |
13th May 2012, 12:27 PM
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Reps: 27,733,933,009,374,648 (power: 27,733,933,009,387) | | Originally Posted by ChildofGod19 what if my boyfriend is opinionated on everything?
Then you will get tired of him and probably get a different one | | |
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