Marrying Someone That Is Not Saved

SharonL · #51 18th June 2011, 08:08 PM

Why don't you just go visit a church in the other town and see what you find.

Being Lutheran and non-denomination will not be the problem. She does not sound like she is unreasonable. Don't put pressure on her - that will turn her away - just handle it like you will be true to your faith. I would be willing to bet she will come around when she sees how happy you are - so you be the light that will bring her back.

You have awhile yet - so don't let this dominate each outing you have - laugh, love and let her see the joy in your heart. She will want that joy also - but if you are down and always bringing it up to her - she will feel forced into doing something.

Get some of the pressure off and you may see God moving in your life. You will get the answer - the way the Holy Spirit works is if you are going down the wrong path you will find this tug on your heart - Just go on with your life at the moment, making your plans, praying and talking about your future - you will feel the Holy Spirit telling you if it is wrong. The Holy Spirit will not lead you down the wrong path.

If your girlfriend was a Lutheran and accepted Jesus into her heart - she may just need to get back on track - if she has not denounced Jesus, it does not mean that she is not Christian. I was a Lutheran for many, many years - there is nothing wrong with their beliefs. This is not the time to just disgard a woman you love and may be the choice for you. Just walk through it and don't make any hasty decisions. Even though you are non-denominational, you could go talk to her pastor with her, that may help her. Look at this poem that God gave me regarding denominations - it will bless you and help you. The Angels Dilemma

Sorry - I just now saw that this is for singles only - won't post any more.

peacechild4 · #52 19th June 2011, 12:17 AM

I think its ok for you to post if it is helpful to someone single..

miss-a · #53 19th June 2011, 07:19 PM

and here's the other thing if someone is not saved, the enemy can use them against you at any time. They may be a very nice person, but they are still under the sway of the evil one. they have nothing to fight or resist him with, because Jesus is the only way to fight and resist him.

MacFall · #54 19th June 2011, 11:34 PM

Not everything that Paul said to the early Church constitutes a moral law. Much of it was more along the lines of advice, and some of it was opinion. Nowhere in the Bible does God say "thou shalt not marry an unbeliever". The reasons why a Christian ought to consider not marrying a non-Christian ought to be clear, but it is by no means a commandment.

It may be the right thing to do to end your relationship with this person - but not because it is a sin to continue it. Rather, because the possibility to be led into sin will be stronger and the difficulty greater with them than it would be with a fellow Christian. Take that into account when praying and making your decision. You need wisdom in this, but don't be led into self-condemnation.

Sketcher · #55 20th June 2011, 02:25 AM

Blind post:

First of all, you should talk to her about your recent decision to become a Christian, and why you did so. Bring her to Jesus too, if you can. If you can't, then the relationship may not last, because you would be unequally yoked.

You shouldn't be concerned about Hell. You should be concerned about what your life together will look like. Marrying a non-Christian brings a lot more potential for strife in your home - different values and not being able to relate on a spiritual level are two big reasons to only marry another Christian. What if you want to tithe as the Lord commands you to, but she doesn't believe in it? Most of all the divorces that happen in the US are chiefly caused by differences over finances, and consequences of financial choices. What if God pushes you down the road into some sort of ministry, and she doesn't have the Holy Spirit and is against that?

m0rdecai89 · #56 20th June 2011, 01:00 PM

Praise God, she came to him and is really making progress daily in moticeable ways. Now I am in turmoil though as I am not sire if this is who God has for me and if now is the time for me to this or if he wants me to get stronger and seek him by myself before bringing another in. Been listening for his voice and in prayer but so far have nothing. Any suggestions on what to do to hear his voice or what to ask him?

Sketcher · #57 20th June 2011, 01:17 PM

This needs some mature Christian input. Pre-marital counseling from a mature and wise Christian couple is what you need.

Amber.ly · #58 20th June 2011, 01:57 PM

Originally Posted by Sketcher

This needs some mature Christian input. Pre-marital counseling from a mature and wise Christian couple is what you need.

I came into this thread to say the above.

Contact your pastor and ask for him to either point you to another mature Christian couple for mentoring or ask your pastor himself to do premarital counseling with you both.

Start doing weekly devotions with her. Pray together, discuss your new faith and what it means for you each individually and as a couple.

This could be the best thing for you as its hard to be a baby Christian if you don't have a support system behind you. You can encourage her and vice versa.

m0rdecai89 · #59 20th June 2011, 02:15 PM

That is especially difficult as she lives on the east coast and I on the west coast which is why I am at a semi loss and listening for God and his will.

Sketcher · #60 20th June 2011, 02:23 PM

Originally Posted by m0rdecai89

That is especially difficult as she lives on the east coast and I on the west coast which is why I am at a semi loss and listening for God and his will.

Find a way to get it done. This is as important as finding a way to be together once you would marry, which I'm sure you'll do. So find some time to be together with her and do pre-marital counseling with her.

You're new. My guess is you haven't learned discernment yet. So you need the input of someone who has been walking with the Lord many years who has to talk to you and her both separately and together. Optimally, this would be a married couple that has only been married to each other, and who has been together for years, and is presently strong as a couple and strong in the Lord.