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Old 16th June 2011, 04:54 AM
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Defeating Lust

As a normal, healthy, red-blooded member of the male tribe, I have a strong sex drive. Perhaps too strong. I am seeking input into how to defeat this dragon in my life called lust. Some say, read the Bible, pray, memorize scripture, get accountability, etc. All noble suggestions. I've done all that; I'm a super Christian - I can quote the Bible right and left, pray to God like nobody's business and I have had accountability buddies before. None of that worked.

I'm naturally a very strong-willed person so I'm not apt to fall into any addiction, unless it is by choice. I admit, when struggling with lust, I often times, do not see it as "sinful" or wrong, but there is another part of me that says that it IS wrong, and I am only harming myself, upsetting God, and possibly even doing damage to my own spirit and future. Obviously I wish to avoid the above ramifications, but I often find myself believing the lie that it's not so bad, or it's okay. That is my Achilles' Heel. If not for that, I could easily overcome the lust issue, as I am a strong-willed person.

But I am open to thoughts about how to defeat this ugly, vicious dragon in my life called Lust.
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Old 16th June 2011, 05:01 AM
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"I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl."
Job 31:1

...an agreement with yourself, like Job had, is in order.

You can do it! Anything is possible, with Christ Jesus as our Lord and Savior!
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Old 16th June 2011, 05:29 AM
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Look for a nice Christian Girlfriend, then go through it together, two wills are stronger than one, and at least then if you split up, it wont be so bad because at least you are in a commited relationship
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Old 16th June 2011, 05:36 AM
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What do you consider lust, blueforest?
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Originally Posted by Blueforest View Post
As a normal, healthy, red-blooded member of the male tribe, I have a strong sex drive. Perhaps too strong. I am seeking input into how to defeat this dragon in my life called lust. Some say, read the Bible, pray, memorize scripture, get accountability, etc. All noble suggestions. I've done all that; I'm a super Christian - I can quote the Bible right and left, pray to God like nobody's business and I have had accountability buddies before. None of that worked.

I'm naturally a very strong-willed person so I'm not apt to fall into any addiction, unless it is by choice. I admit, when struggling with lust, I often times, do not see it as "sinful" or wrong, but there is another part of me that says that it IS wrong, and I am only harming myself, upsetting God, and possibly even doing damage to my own spirit and future. Obviously I wish to avoid the above ramifications, but I often find myself believing the lie that it's not so bad, or it's okay. That is my Achilles' Heel. If not for that, I could easily overcome the lust issue, as I am a strong-willed person.

But I am open to thoughts about how to defeat this ugly, vicious dragon in my life called Lust.
Twice in your post you say you are a strong-willed person. How about this: Surrrender your will to Jesus. From what little I glean from you short post, you are attempting to overcome something that humans are created to do, procreate, on your own strong will. Can't be done. You are setting yourself up for failure. The ONLY ONE, that can overcome your natural sex drive is Jesus, especially if you are a male between the ages of 16 and 30.

Stop trying and turn it over to Jesus.

I know, sounds pretty arrogant. But, it is the only real solution.

Paul said that if you cannot live without sex, get married.

Be blessed,
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I suffer from the same problem, though I am not as strong willed as you are, I can quote scripture right and left, a lot of church members and friends rely upon my opinion or scriptural thoughts. I teach the teen church meetings as well.

As much as I try to fight it the dragon of lust continues to defeat me, I continue to pray and give it up to God asking him to help me deal with it, however it still haunts me today. I also believe it is a real problem for christian's especially with the current state of the world.

Often I fall and take matters into my own hands, Im still a virgin, I don't do porn, but I resist until I cannot function any longer, I get shaky, hard to swallow cant focus... I wish that God would show me some direction or bring a woman into my life to help me deal with this.

If I keep resisting.. I end up walking around and having everyone else notice my problem, embarrassingly. Which is not a good idea in my book, but its something that I cannot control unless I'm carrying an ice pack.

If just one girl bumps into me or brushes up against me I will have a problem... Its not lust for the sake of lust, its procreation. If I am dating a girl and she mentions "Id love to have kids one day, would you?, maybe with someone like me?". That's the one thing that really triggers me into a lust spiral.

The world itself has become a very sinful place, perhaps God has become more and more distant because of that, He still loves us but because of the dirty state around us He has become more withdrawn.
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I am seeking input into how to defeat this dragon in my life called lust
You may want to differentiate between "lust" and the biological sex drive. There is a natural drive males have. On a farm the difference between a ewe and a ram or a cow and a bull is obvious. Paul addresses this with his admonition it is better to marry than to burn. God created us to function in certain ways. His institution of marriage and family fits in with that design. Satan has created a society where just at the time people would normally marry (18-22), they are in college. This serves his purpose in a number of ways.

The forced separation or segregation during this time creates what Johnny Cash called a fever "hotter than a pepper sprout". In this unnatural state, people are more inclined to not only view abortion and birth control as OK, but as necessary tools. The concepts of marriage and family do not fit as well as thinking in terms of relationships and "hooking up".

Jesus expands the concept of adultery to include looking at a woman to lust after her. The word lust is epithumeō which means to long for, desire, or set the heart upon. The case can be made that this is distinct from the normal sexual drive of males. Feelings of attraction are distinct from the self-stimulation of selecting a "target" to be the object of inflamed desire.

If your problem is a strong sex-drive, you should find a good Christian girl and get married and start a family.

If your problem really is lust, you need to apply truth to what you are doing. For example, if you look at a woman to derive pleasure from the contemplation of pursuit and conquest, you may want to counter with thinking about her as someone's daughter. Truth is like a bucket of cold water, it can extinguish the hottest flame.
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" For example, if you look at a woman to derive pleasure from the contemplation of pursuit and conquest"

Now that is the one thing that will actually kill my sex drive, my mind rarely goes there if it ever does at all, that is the one thing that kills me.

If I'm dating a girl who wants that I immediately lose any sexual attraction to her she becomes dirty rags to me.

There are times however when a girl only wanted that from me and I almost gave in due to the fact that I loved her so much however I thank God that I was able to resist instead of continuing to think that if i compromised and had relations that she would cave into me and get married.
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when struggling with lust, I often times, do not see it as "sinful" or wrong, but there is another part of me that says that it IS wrong,
Lust and especially pornography is evil.

"Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never!" (1 Cor. 6:15)

"Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." (1 Cor. 6:16)

Sexual relations with a prostitute/harlot is sin and considered fornication (sex outside of marriage) and it is evil, a transgression of God's law.

"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matt. 5:28)

Jesus made the point that the physical act itself did not need to be committed in order for sin to manifest, the look and intent is considered sin in the eyes of God.
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