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Do any of you guys/girls out there have friends of the opposite sex while you are in a relationship?
I am married and have a couple friends that are girls. My wife knows them well and trusts me, and likewise I do trust her around other guys and am not jealous in any way if she is around other guys.
It is hard to do this because of the potential for gossiping and jealousy. The affair thing is NOT going to happen. Me and my wife are really inseparable we are really close that's how come its allowable with us.
Does anyone else in a relationship successfully have friends of the opposite sex, or wish they could? How do you guys successfully do it? it is even harder if your friend is in a relationship too.
Don't get me wrong I have both male and female friends though lots more guy friends.
I relate to both guys and girls equally well but it always feels so limiting, If you are outgoing and meet lots of people to only be friends with guys.
Do any of you people out there wish that in a perfect world without risk of infidelity that you could be friends with all the wonderful people of the opposite sex there are as well?
i find talking with girls enriching both spiritually and mentally.
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Well for me, I usually end up with more male friends just due to my interests. I am kind of touchy on this topic due to my past. I think if I am with a man it is okay if they have female friends. I do not think hanging out with them alone is acceptable though. And I wouldn't hang out with a male one on one either. Also I would not have myself as the only female in a group of men hanging out without my spouse present.
I think the couple should discuss and try to agree on this kind of thing. Some women can get jealous and some are more sensitive. I suppose it varies. That is just my opinion.
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it is touchy but then again not all of us are slaves to our sexual passions. Some people just genuinely care about others and are not interested in sex but are interested in someones mind and personality. I like those people.
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Most of my friends are women. Way we deal with it is that there is an understanding between me and my gf that we are to respect each others decisions and privacy.
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My husband is perfectly fine with me having male and female friends. He trusts me, and I go out of my way to be trustworthy, in fact AND in the eyes of others.
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friends you had before your current relationship should be acceptable by both parties. It's simply a matter if there is mutual true trust from both towards the other. If it's an ex, there's of course some more ground to be cleared and sometimes a connection just needs to be cut off for sake of the current relationship. Basically trust in your spouse in this area makes all else irrelevant.
friends made during the marriage- I think it's a respect thing to try and make them friends of your family unit as well as their S.O as well. (If you're friends with me I want you to be friends with my spouse, and vice versa. Respect thing.) Again, trust settles alot of this.
Overall, if you even have a little bit of worry if you being friends with someone will offend your spouse/SO, then there's already a problem somewhere. If in doubt, say no.
I think it's gross to think that you could not hang out with people because of their gender. Come on, hanging out with someone won't make you have sex with them or even think of it and if my SO were to believe that I did have those feelings based on me hanging out with them I think I would need to talk about some trust issues with him.
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This is not really applicable in our relationship; we hang out with other couples. That is what has been modeled for us with our parents' relationships -- I never saw my parents hang around one on one with the opposite sex. I don't think it had anything to do with being insecure. My parents will have been married for 36 years this summer. My husband's parents have been married for 29 or 30 years, if I remember correctly. Both couples have great relationships with each other and are each other's best friend.
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