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Christian dating an Atheist?

So, there is this girl that I have just recently started dating. She is an awesome woman but there is that one thing that I just have a hard time even thinking about. She states that she is atheist and she knows im a Christian and how important it is to me. I'm not sure what to do... I have been praying about it like crazy and have God's will revealed. I know this may also be a chance to plant that seed but I think she has had a bad experience with Christianity when growing up in the religious home that she did. I know only God can make this right, otherwise I'm not sure what to do. Any spirtual advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Don't go into a relationship hoping you can save her. She's going to have to listen to the Holy Spirit rather than rejecting. God does the saving.
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Originally Posted by andrew8806 View Post
I know only God can make this right, otherwise I'm not sure what to do.
Yes only God can make it right. So the question is: are you the tool/vessel God is using to make it right? Maybe. The only problem that will arise is if you guys fall in love and get married while she is still an unbeliever. Don't get too attached to this relationship unless a miracle takes place. Keep witnessing to her and be yourself.
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I know of an atheist guy who really "understood" how important his girlfriend's Christianity was. So, he pretended to be a Christian to marry her.....three kids later, he is long gone. The story of the whole thing is long and sad. There is no harmony in a relationship like that.
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Changing course a little here...

There is a term being tossed around called 'christian athesism' and
I believe it explains lots out there.

Smith Wigglesworth used the term 'unbelieving believer' in many of his writings.

It doesn't surprise me that your girl friend has thoughts away from GOD
when she has 'grown up' with traditional church teachings.

She probably believes in some ways and is not the 100% athesist that
she may profess.

There is some lie she heard, that has her blinded to Truth (JESUS).
But, there is some Truth (JESUS) that she has heard, that makes her
want more of HIM and she can't find it (rather HIM).

You can't save her, and have to be careful in your relationship.
But she is probably closer than you may think.

They want LOVE and that really comes from the SOURCE - JESUS HIMSELF.


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Thanks guys and gals. I'm definitely gonna take things slow and see what God does and let him work or wait for him to tell me to get out. God is control of me in a relationship or not, I answer to Him first!
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I think you should not be more than really good friends with her.

She says she is an Atheist, take it from me if you will. Most christians I know don't understand much about Atheism and many younger Atheists don't understand it either. Alot of Atheists are simply the sum of rejecting God and Atheism is actually much more than that.

In the end, be loving, be caring, commit to the long haul (a person who has accepted Atheism has some pretty good or strong reasons to do so and that wont change overnight) be respectful of her reasons, listen to them, accept them and through such love and acceptance she may begin to value what you think or believe and express those beliefs in love.
Pray for her, you cannot change her heart but the Lord can. Pray that she be saved, that God meet with her and she come to know Christ. Pray Pray Pray and never cease to pray for. If you truly truly care... commit to it, it may take a few years, seriosly but there is no small diffrence between you two. It hasn't blown up in your face yet but your actually very diffrent.
Pray and never cease to pray, prayer changes lives. If you begin to pray now and a year from now you are still praying even if you have gone seperate ways she may and can be saved. Seriously, it takes a while.

It took 7 years of love and prayer for me to saved from my Atheism and I am not a fluke case.
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Thanks guys and gals. I'm definitely gonna take things slow and see what God does and let him work or wait for him to tell me to get out. God is control of me in a relationship or not, I answer to Him first!
You can't get anymore clear than reading scripture- you are just emotionally attached and don't want to see it. You're not supposed to be yoked together with a non-believer- end of discussion. It's not as if you were both unbelievers who are married and then you have seen the light and she hasn't- and then she gets to decide if she's okay with that. You are willingly dating someone whom you know isn't a believer. It's not okay- you don't need a special sign from heaven- you've already been told to avoid such a situation in the first place- IN SCRIPTURE. I know Tradition doesn't mean much to most people around here- but you can't argue with a huge part of Tradition, which is scripture. It's clear. There's nothing more annoying than missionary dating anyway.
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You'll have to judge for yourself whether it's good or bad to date a non-Christian, but I'll advise against planting a seed; missionary dating produces lukewarm Christians, thoroughly mediocre in their orientation.
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The only purpose of dating someone is to see if you want to marry them. You can't (Biblically) marry an Atheist.
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