Prodigal Son

NuRelic · #11 11th April 2011, 10:24 PM

Oh, then we both missunderstood. I hold no ill will towards him and but even if I heard that he'd turned his life around and dedicated his life to Christ I'd be happy on the one hand but I'd hold a jaundice eye, just the same. That's a con that's well within the realm of his playbook. But I don't wish for him to go to Hell. What he did is in the past and it shall always remain there. My focus is on the future; my kids future, my wifes future and mine.

Nu

FriendlyJosh · #12 11th April 2011, 11:48 PM

as someone who was kicked out of his house by his step dad, after my step dad blew up and we got into a fight. personally it was both depressing and fantastic. It was depressing because I had no place to go,and slept in my car a few nights. After that my amazing mother helped me find an apartment with a romanian couple, and helped me with money, but I struggled to keep my Job at the time,which I later loss and became even further depressed. and even today i'm struggling financially. My mom at one point told me my stepdad was "jealous" of me I believe, that's why he never really liked me. I don't know what he was jealous of, but while i'm an emotional guy and the whole experience definitely wasn't easy, I was still really happy to not live in that house anymore, and have a feeling of freedom. Throughtout highschool, and before I got kicked out, aswell as after I was really depressed, but my mom continued to help me financially until my step dad forced her not to, and I managed to survive another day. The Lord blessed me with an amazing woman, who i'm so greatful for and want to marry and spend forever with, for eternity, and who helped me move to a house where I have my own room, and the roommates are friendly. She helps me financially, as I still struggle, and the landlord plans on knockin this house down for a hotel pretty soon, so not sure where i'm gonna go, but I trust in the Lord. My misses has done so much for me, these last 3 years, and I despertly want the project I been workin on to do well, so that I can take care of her forever. I also want to pay my mom, and even my roommate back. Ugh writing all this makes me really realize how much of a loser I really am :\ I love my mom, love my gf and I have no hard feelings towards my step dad. I'm also so greatful to the Lord for answering my prayers and never abandoning me, i'm 24 now, and i'm tired of being a loser, I want to succeed for all these amazing people,I want to succeed for myself, and be able to give back the same kindness they've give me, and more. I want to make them proud.

Inregards to your post, all I can say is, please don't abandon your son,you may not get along,and he might not be yours via dna, but he is your son. Lifes too short, and I guarentee you he loves you, and I can tell you love him. I love my real dad, but he did some really horrible things to my mother,that I don't want to go into, so I choose not to see him, and I hope the Lord has mercy on me for that. I thankyou for your post because it really made me reflect on my own life, and how I need to do better. God bless you sir.

NuRelic · #13 12th April 2011, 09:25 AM

Hey Josh. I'm glad you responded as well as to hear that my post might have been a positive for you. I've had my own troubles growing up and many of my stories would parallel what you've written here. Although I never had a step-father, my parents separated when I was very young and after almost ten years of not knowing my father, I move in with him when the relationship with my mother went south. It was nice at first, but after a few months my step-mother passed away suddenly and everything changed. My step-mother was a truly wonderful and beautiful woman and largely responsible for my accepting Jesus into my heart and although it hit me hard, it devastated my father on multiple levels and our relationship deteriorated rapidly
as well.

I was forced back with my mother and the relation was fine for awhile, but it went bad again in less than a year (I'll prolly write more on that later). When I moved out, the freedom was exhilarating but I wasn't prepared for that freedom and spent a fair amount of time making bad choices. I too was homeless for a time and have struggled with family ever since. Some of its of my own doing, some of it not so much. I too found a woman (Andrea) who would become my rock but it took time there too.

I've been married for 21 years and as much as I'd like to say that it'll all work itself out, the truth is you have to be ready to work for your future every day. It gets easier at time but don't get it into your head that at some point you finally be able to coast. Just know that its definitely worth the ride and while your on that ride make it count and most important take pictures. Looking back I have a lot of memories that are all fading because I've forgotten people and places. Pictures take you back and help you remember.

As far as Stephen is concerned, I haven't abandoned him. I've tried talking to him a few time with little success. There's much more that has transpired in Stephen's life than what I've written here. I haven't gone into it because it is not flattering of him. As much as it may sound like I don't like Stephen that is not the case. I believe Stephen was put in a very difficult situation and trusted in people who manipulated him for their own purpose. I believe he can find his way back but only time will tell. The door will always be open to him, but in so much as I have forgiven him he will have to prove that he's changed and I intend to give him as many chances as he needs to provide that proof.

Nu