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15th June 2011, 07:58 PM
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Reps: 2,490,143,887,621,713 (power: 2,490,143,887,624) | | | I have struggled with years of emotional abuse. Eventually I just moved on, and the pain went away. You'll get through this, I promise. <3
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15th June 2011, 08:20 PM
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Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,775,808 (power: 9,223,372,036,854,806) | | Originally Posted by justageek  I have struggled with years of emotional abuse. Eventually I just moved on, and the pain went away. You'll get through this, I promise. <3
If you need to talk, PM me, okay? =)
Thanks for your kindness and understanding. I'm going through processes to create awareness and proper treatment of the abused (and chronically ill.. that's another story) in my community, church, etc. while being chronically ill. It's not easy and some days it's incredibly invalidating and difficult and brings up a lot of those old difficult feelings. On a day like today I try to keep in mind the the times I've seen God move mountains concerning some of these seemingly impossible things in my life. ...but yeah...
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16th June 2011, 02:22 AM
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Reps: 93,746,158,409,629,664 (power: 93,746,158,409,632) | | Originally Posted by Colleen1
I'm glad you had a good day. I'm sorry for replying late. I'm not getting my email notices. Any way. It feels great to be able to say I'm having a good day. I'm happy for you. I'm feeling the strain but holding up.
I was NOT having a good day, but when I do it is great. |
19th June 2011, 12:48 AM
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Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,775,808 (power: 9,223,372,036,854,806) | | Originally Posted by cweinstein That's a good idea, I may try that today. I am not having a good day.
Sorry about the misunderstanding. Wasn't meaning to be invalidating. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome etc. some times mind registers numbers back ward and I have some cognitive issues. But all excuses aside, last thing I wanted to do was be insensitive. Thanks for pointing it out. I appreciate it. Good communication make good relationships. Take care. 
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19th June 2011, 09:12 PM
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As many have mentioned, the process takes time and there isn't a fix-it answer ... but if you haven't read these books, they were instrumental in my healing process.
Books: The Wounded Heart, Victory Over Darkness, Search for Significance, and Telling Yourself the Truth (sorry I didn't hyperlink the books, but I haven't made 50 posts yet).
God Bless!
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21st June 2011, 03:58 PM
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Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,775,808 (power: 9,223,372,036,854,806) | | Originally Posted by 633woman My heart aches for all who have been through abuse. I've been there and by God's grace I have found healing.
As many have mentioned, the process takes time and there isn't a fix-it answer ... but if you haven't read these books, they were instrumental in my healing process.
Books: The Wounded Heart, Victory Over Darkness, Search for Significance, and Telling Yourself the Truth (sorry I didn't hyperlink the books, but I haven't made 50 posts yet).
God Bless!
Welcome and thanks for your kindness. Right now I'm needing to deal with a few situations where the 'band aid' gets ripped off at times. I think you know what I mean. When those issues are done with it'll be easier. No problem about the links. Take care and thanks for sharing.
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25th June 2011, 06:01 PM
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Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,775,808 (power: 9,223,372,036,854,806) | | | I know a lot of the frustration, anger and discouragement is because I'm not taking care of myself so I get rather annoyed cleaning up other people's messes when I should be focusing on my health. I've been spending too much time and energy trying to live up to others unrealistic expectations of myself. Others who are dealing with the issues of the abuse I reported being handled badly, etc. I have a whole lot of rather serious stuff on my plate and it's all important. ...but I can't keep up physically with illness and it's taking it's toll emotionally as well. So I'm having to set some better limitations and let's just say, it isn't going very smoothly in some regard. Not having reliable medical help right now seems to be making the situation impossible. (my doctor moved away) ... I'm trying to do practicle things to deal with all the situations but it's not easy and I'm rather stumped in some regards. I can only do what I can do and whether or not these other people accept this I need to still be confident in myself despite their resistance to my new more limited boundaries. Thanks for listening. Take care and I'm praying for you all.
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27th June 2011, 09:36 AM
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Reps: 93,746,158,409,629,664 (power: 93,746,158,409,632) | | Originally Posted by Colleen1
Sorry about the misunderstanding. Wasn't meaning to be invalidating. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome etc. some times mind registers numbers back ward and I have some cognitive issues. But all excuses aside, last thing I wanted to do was be insensitive. Thanks for pointing it out. I appreciate it. Good communication make good relationships. Take care.
No need to apologize. I understand.
Communication with my ex eroded over time, his idea of communication was he was right and I was always wrong, or at fault. If I tried to speak my mind I was getting defensive, according to him.
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27th June 2011, 09:58 AM
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Reps: 93,746,158,409,629,664 (power: 93,746,158,409,632) | | Originally Posted by Colleen1 I know a lot of the frustration, anger and discouragement is because I'm not taking care of myself so I get rather annoyed cleaning up other people's messes when I should be focusing on my health. I've been spending too much time and energy trying to live up to others unrealistic expectations of myself. Others who are dealing with the issues of the abuse I reported being handled badly, etc. I have a whole lot of rather serious stuff on my plate and it's all important. ...but I can't keep up physically with illness and it's taking it's toll emotionally as well. So I'm having to set some better limitations and let's just say, it isn't going very smoothly in some regard. Not having reliable medical help right now seems to be making the situation impossible. (my doctor moved away) ... I'm trying to do practicle things to deal with all the situations but it's not easy and I'm rather stumped in some regards. I can only do what I can do and whether or not these other people accept this I need to still be confident in myself despite their resistance to my new more limited boundaries. Thanks for listening. Take care and I'm praying for you all.
I completely understand, and relate to that. I am going through something similar. Frustration, discouragement, anxiety, stress, they all take their toll emotionally, and physically. My physical health has vastly improved in the 2 yrs since I left my abuser (I was weeks away from dying when I left). He was denying me access to medical and dental care. Once I left and sought medical care I ended up needing 2 surgeries just 7 months apart, plus extensive emergency dental treatment before I could have surgery, etc.
Now my physical health is much improved, but the divorce left me without health insurance, which was not supposed to happen. Also, I fix computers for a living and when I am not working on a computer for a client I seem to be working on computers for friends and family. That's one area where I need to set new boundaries.
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27th June 2011, 01:42 PM
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Reps: 9,223,372,036,854,775,808 (power: 9,223,372,036,854,806) | | Originally Posted by cweinstein No need to apologize. I understand.
Communication with my ex eroded over time, his idea of communication was he was right and I was always wrong, or at fault. If I tried to speak my mind I was getting defensive, according to him.
Take care
Yeah, I hear you. You are not alone. So many of us have had these struggles and I don't mind praying.
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