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Old 19th January 2011, 04:59 PM
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Help on staying pure

I am an 18 year old man in a loving, God-centered relationship with a 19 year old woman. I am in College, living alone, and responsible for myself. Now, i've had a checkered past. I had no control over my lusts at all, and would frequently ogle and lust after women I didn't even know. I masturbated constantly, and was absorbed in pornography. I recommitted myself in my faith, and decided I would place God at the forefront. Immediately after, He brought along the woman I'm currently courting.
I just want a little guidance from people who have been through this, or even just people who have a strong opinion on the subject. How do I divert my attention? How do I deal with it when it's so overbearing that it's getting in the way of my schoolwork? Does it get easier?
Thanks in advance, God bless!
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Old 21st January 2011, 09:01 AM
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ya, it gets easier when your old and your hormones slow down.
Other than that you can find lists of ways to deal with it on the web. I'm somewhat suspicious of them personally.
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Old 21st January 2011, 09:20 AM
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you need to have quality thought in order to be pure.
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Old 21st January 2011, 09:37 AM
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Accountability is something I find helps. If I know that I'm not going to hide it, that puts me off. But it also gives me someone to pray with and talk stuff through.
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Old 21st January 2011, 09:42 AM
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that is good. But, need to clean internally. Visualize that light of god is cleaning inside out. Do meditation and have quality thought. Inner richness is another thing you can have.

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You need accountability and a sense of spiritual urgency. A trusted other person to keep you accountable with a filter that has such an option for the other to check on you from any other computer would be helpful. Also, you need to have purpose in life bigger than yourself. Find a person willing to "keep the password" and check on where you have been on the internet. See fightingthebattle.com for more information on this.
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Old 25th January 2011, 08:06 PM
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The Bible's answer is to get married, better to marry than to burn. Realize,however, that getting married doesn't remove the drive entirely. You will still have to practice self control when that cute secretary flirts with you, wife gets a headache, baby keeps you up at nights and it's been a good while since you've had some.

I agree with the poster that drive lessons with age but for me it was in the 40s. Long time to wait....good luck.
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Ask Father to take away the temptation. When you notice someone hot, just simply look away and think about Yeshua. If you're at home and get the urge to masturbate, read your Bible and ask God to deliver you from the temptation.
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Masturbated constantly, you say? Glad I didn't go to thanksgiving at your house.
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