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More than I can handle

I thought God would not give you more than you can handle. I think I am there. I want to thank all those who have prayed for me in the past. I am so blessed that God directed me to this forum. It is such a blessing to be able to come to the prayer warriors in this forum. I have never been in a postion that I cannot count on my faith in God to change the outcome. For those who may not know my trial, my wife and my sisters husband are involved in an affair.They have both filed for a divorce. My wife and sister and I are christians. I do not think my sisters husband is. What has made it tuff today is I seen him drop my wife off after they went to church. How can they be going to church and carrying on an affair. How can you listen to God's word an be doing what they are. I found out he is at my house everyday for supper. I sit alone everynight eating TV dinners.I have kept my vows and it seems like I am the one being punished. I cry out to God every night and nothing chages. Now she has turned two of the kids against me with lies. My son who is studying to be a missionary has been a true man of GOD and he sees the lies his mother has spread.If it were not for him I would be so alone. I love my wife so much. I cannot believe what is happening and it seems like GOD is not doing anything. Then I wonder how I could take her back depending how far they have gone. My pastor told me to read Hosea. That is going to be so hard. GOD GIVE ME THE STRENGTH TO GO ON.PLEASE RESTORE MY MARRIAGE AND MY SISTERS.CAUSE A RIFT BETWEEN THEM.PUT THEM IN THE BELLY OF THE WHALE AND TURN THEM AROUND. IN JESUS NAME AMEN. Thankyou for your prayers and allowing me a place to come in my time of need.
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Old 2nd January 2011, 07:46 PM
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You can only be responsible for yourself before God, the others have to answer to God for themselves. Seems you are trying to be an upright man and God will honor that - maybe just not in the way you want but in a way that will be 10 times better than you can possibly imagine. Its one of those situations that is a terrible tribulation to go through but that as long as you remain faithful and keep your eyes focused on him, he will carry you through, you will not be abandoned.

I've gone through situations where I too cried out "Lord I can't take any more" - and things would get worse and I'd wonder why? but over time I've learned that he was showing me to lean completely on him and that through the experience my faith grew and I've become even stronger. And even more interesting is the way he resolved things were ways I couldn't have imagined - and I'm in a better place because of it.

Just keep hanging on and remain prayerful and obedient, he'll get you through this, just be open to all he has for you through this.
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The words I hold on tightly to during times of trouble: James 1; 2-4
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
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God doesn't give you more than you can handle with His help.

If God never ever gave you more than you could handle by yourself ... your faith in Him wouldn't grow & you'd begin to think you didn't need God.
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Your wife is turning away from God and all the church service in the world cannot cover that up. I ask you to cling to Him, the Almighty and let him give you peace and contentedness. If your wife belongs to you, truly, she will come back to you. If she doesn't, she never belonged to you anways and probably led a double life you have no idea about. One of the hardest things to accept is that people who have affairs of this nature (when there is no remorse) clock out of the marriage years before you realize it.
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There was a gentleman in the Old Testament who's name was Job (rhymes with "lobe"). This man was the richest man in the eastern territories. He worshipped the true God,and was very careful to obey God in every way. He even went to the extreme of offering sacrifices to God just in case any of his children had commited some kind of sin that they did not know was sin.
One day Satan presented himself before God and accused Job, saying that if everything went wrong in Job's life, Job would give up and curse God. God allowed Satan to attack Job with every trick in the book. Job lost his family, his cattle, and all his property. All he had left was a disgruntled wife that told him to "curse God and die".
And then things got bad! Satan was allowed to bring grevious sickness on Job, but was not allowed to kill him.
Now...at what point did God stop loving Job? At what point did God promise Job that He would allow nothing that Job could not bear? We know,behind the scenes, that the devil was not allowed to kill him, but everything else was fair game.
Try convincing Job that " all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose."
All he was guarenteed of was his eternal soul. And he wanted to die,too.
What did he do?
Read the last chapter of the book of Job in your Bible. See what happened!

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This is a lot of good advice . I do not understand it all. I know there is no promise of how things go. Just that GOD will be with us. I do know that I trust GOD, I am very frustrated about the whole thing. Life can be so frustrating. I am use to praying for something and believing for the answer. I have proved GOD over and over. Thankyou everyone for your thoughts and prayers, To God be the glory
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I've been feeling the same way for quite some time.

Your wife reminds me of someone in my life. We weren't married, but we were dating. She claimed to love me, and to love God, but she was nothing but a two-faced liar. People like them come to church to feel good about themselves. They put a veil over their own eyes so they can't see they're own sin, but they will find fault in the ones who really love God.

There's no people worse than the religious. They memorize and recite scripture like pharisees, but they live as the enemies of God in sheep's clothing.
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I've been feeling the same way for quite some time....

There's no people worse than the religious. They memorize and recite scripture like pharisees, but they live as the enemies of God in sheep's clothing.
It's not the "religious", it's the pseudo-religious that Christ sharply rebuked. ( See Matthew Chapter 23 )

If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridles not his tongue, but deceives his own heart, this man's religion is vain.
Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.
<-----> James 1:26+27

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Thankyou for your responses. This is a mess. I really believe my wife loves the Lord. At least at one time she did. I think somehow in a twisted and a confused way she still does. I do not understand it. I try and speak to her about divorce and what God tells about it and she refuses to listen. Her response is " I do not think God would send me to hell because of it ". She was ver flipped when she said it. I do not understand, she reads the bible every morning and goes to church and a weekly bible study her father teaches. Yet she still wants a divorce and has my brother-in-law over to the house for dinner almost everyday. She claims they are just friends. I tried to believe it as long as I could but it is so obvious. You would not do it just because of the appearence of evil. I am so confused I love this woman more than I could ever say. Yet I feel so betrayed. My family does not understand why I do not hate her. She broke up not only my marriage but my sisters too. I believe God says to hate the sin and not the sinner. My son and minister told me to read Hosea, which I have over and over. It is not going to be easy but I know I have to. God never promised us it would be easy. Just that he would be with us. Sorry if I seem to be rambling. I do not mean to. I am just a poor sinner saved by grace and trying to do Gods will for my life. I love my wife with all my heart and do not want the devil to pull apart that which God has put together. PLEASE PRAY AND THANKYOU
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She claims they are just friends. I tried to believe it as long as I could but it is so obvious.
I find it heartbreaking that she is saying they are just friends. She's so ashamed she can't even come right out and admit it. Because she knows she's dead wrong. This battle belongs to the Lord. Trust me when I tell you, your wife and the other man are headed for disaster.
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