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Old 6th October 2010, 08:00 PM
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What's The Top Reason For Divorce?

WHAT'S THE BIGGEST REASON FOR DIVORCE? I would really like to know this, I'm trying to learn about marriage, the do's and don'ts. I'm at that age, and would like to know these things now before I get to that stage in my life.
My reason for putting this up here is because, I don't ever want to divorce no matter what. Please Help Me. Divorce is not an option for me. I am also a Christian writer, and I include my train a thought on this subject, more on the minor reasons why people may divorce. But I need you, to tell me why people do it.

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Old 6th October 2010, 09:27 PM
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1) People forget that love is a verb.
2) People let something other than their spouse become the most important earthly thing to them. Sometimes the kids. Sometimes work. Sometimes someone else.

That's really it, IMHO. Combine that with divorce being so rampant that people feel it's an option when things are bad, and it becomes a cycle.
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Old 6th October 2010, 10:59 PM
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Saying divorce is not an option before you get married is like saying 'defeat is not an option' before you go into battle. It's a fine pep talk but defeat is always possible and divorce is always possible, even if you are in one of those areas where you need mutual consent.

Other than that WolfGate is right, and I would add that a good marriage takes work, humility and focus like anything else you want to succeed in. A final thing I would add is that many people but especially for some reason christians seem to be more embarrassed about the idea of having emotional difficulties than they are embarrassed about the idea of getting a divorce. So they avoid focusing on the difficulties, they avoid emotional honesty, they avoid dealing with issues until it gets so bad that divorce seems like the only option.
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Old 7th October 2010, 12:36 AM
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This may seem like a sort of smart alek answer but the number one reason for divorce is one or both people deciding they don't want to be married anymore. And yes I absolutely believe that in the huge majority of cases it is a willful choice. All this garbage we hear about just not being compatable is just that, garbage. Except for abuse, and even in many abuse cases, ANY two people can be married and be happy and have a great marriage. ALL great marriages require work, just some more than others.
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McScribe - point taken, and I agree my "not an option" comment is a bit of a hyperbole. Of course it's an option, even biblcially in some cases. Perhaps a more accurate statement would be people go into marriage with at least the subconcious feeling that divorce is not an option of last resort, but rather firmly on the table of possible paths their marriage may take. It's hard not to when so much divorce is around, among friends and families.
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All studies show that the #1 cause of divorce is money fights.

It makes sense. Jesus told us that our treasure is where our heart is. When two people can't agree on hopes, dreams, and goals it takes itself out most often as a money fight. Because a fight about money really is at its core a fight about our hopes, dreams, and goals.
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Old 7th October 2010, 10:45 AM
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Reasons cited for the divorce of people I know:

Case 1: Serious verbal abuse with relatively minor physical abuse (long term-20 years.)

Case 2: Serious physical abuse leading to a miscarriage and subsequently fear for their own life.

Case 3: Infidelity

Case 4: Serious, long term physical abuse.

In the below case, reason I list is from my observations rather the reason cited:

Case 5 : Mental illness leading to paranoia, and nervous breakdown of the wife. Wife filed for divorce.

Most of these do stem from the reasons Wolfgate listed except the mental illness which preceded the marriage but was unknown to the husband at the time of marriage.
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Old 7th October 2010, 10:58 AM
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Wat does..

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Wat does this mean excatly?
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Originally Posted by Luther073082 View Post
All studies show that the #1 cause of divorce is money fights.

It makes sense. Jesus told us that our treasure is where our heart is. When two people can't agree on hopes, dreams, and goals it takes itself out most often as a money fight. Because a fight about money really is at its core a fight about our hopes, dreams, and goals.
I have heard of this one. This makes sense too! This one I wouldn't so much about. Aren't you married?
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