Christian girls, would you date someone who is where I am spiritually?

This is for those who feel a real conviction about being "equally yolked."

I grew up Christian, but a couple of years ago I realized my faith wasn't really my own, that I'd embraced a religion without asking the questions I as an individual needed to ask. Right now I don't know whether or not I'd call myself a Christian. Probably not, although I haven't officially renounced or rebelled in any particular way. I feel that I still need some time to flush out Christianity as I knew it before I can reapproach it for a personal experience.

Whether I return to Christianity or end up an atheist I really don't know. But I'm definitely not walking with God right now. However, I like a girl and she's a Christian. I'm wondering how many Christian girls would immediately classify us as incompatible. Should I make a move toward a wholesome and genuinely loving relationship or will the spiritual side of things bring too much crap down the road? Thoughts?

While I'm not a Christian girl, I'd say that it if she's really walking with God, that type of thing would come up too much...

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It depends on her walk right now too. Anyone can call themselves a Christian.

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I hate to say it, but I don't think any girl who's really walking with Christ would see you as a potential mate. The reason is she's (hopefully) looking for someone who is totally sold out to Christ. I would encourage you to get to know Christ, and he'll totally rock your world. If you don't believe me, ask the other Christian dudes on this site.

Do you think you would pull her the wrong way if her heart was sold out to GOD??

I wish it was that those with strong faith could help the weaker ones.. but in my marriage my husband was walking with GOD but then turned off him and now hates GOD and it made so much trouble between us and although because of the trials my faith grew.. my faith has really taken a beating when things got really bad...

It isn't anything personal towards you or him.. but it does affect us when one is not walking the same road we are.. how can two people have a true and working connection if they are not both of the same mind?

I am sorry you are struggling so.. that is horrid.. I would love to tell you it would work.. but I think it would be too hard.. and may hurt you both...

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Yeah, definitely, I'm always up for a PM or IM conversation if you ever have questions or need some encouragement or anything like that.

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Hi ColdTurkey I think the most important thing right now is to examine your faith, and somehow get back to Christ. It's OK if you're struggling as a Christian, but please don't give up the fight. This is more important than wooing a girl

To answer the question about the girl - I think she would date a struggling Christian, but she wouldn't date a guy who's not sure if he wants to be a Christian or not.

This.

I would honestly recommend to seek Christ first, figure out where you truly are spiritually, and then based on that outcome (which hopefully would be coming to know Christ); pursue her. If you want to hang out with her and seek answers with her I'd encourage that, but to pursue a potential long term relationship while you try to figure out what you really believe, that could just add a whole other level to the roller coaster that is relationships haha.

God bless man, I hope you find the answers you seek.

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Originally Posted by lostaquarium

Hi ColdTurkey I think the most important thing right now is to examine your faith, and somehow get back to Christ. It's OK if you're struggling as a Christian, but please don't give up the fight. This is more important than wooing a girl

To answer the question about the girl - I think she would date a struggling Christian, but she wouldn't date a guy who's not sure if he wants to be a Christian or not.

I agree. For now, maybe it's better you focus on Christianity and your place in it before you pursue a Christian girl. She might date you as a struggling Christian, but likely wouldn't want to if you are no longer a Christian.

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Ugh. All the answers I'd feared. You know, I never asked to fall away from Christianity, to end up in this limbo between faith and atheism. But it's where I am and it sucks. I can't fully connect with Christians because of where I am spiritually and I can't fully connect with non-christians because who I am is so shaped by years of Christianity. I'm lonely. I'd like a girlfriend and I think one would be good for me. I have a lot of love to give. But I guess I'm inhibited by my spiritual uncertainty and I honestly don't see that changing anytime soon. Blech.