Joyce Meyer comes on CBN daily but is also on other stations (like WGN in Chicago) as well. She came from an abusive childhood and (first) marriage. She's a wonderful speaker and got great ministry.
During my childhood, I was abused sexually, emotionally, verbally, and physically.
Many of you reading this article have also been abused, or you deal with someone in your life who comes from an abusive, dysfunctional background.
What is abuse? It means to misuse, to use improperly, to use up, or to injure by maltreatment. Let me give you a brief definition of the four types of abuse.
Sexual abuse: considered to be the most degrading and offensive. It consists of molestation, rape, incest, exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls, etc.
Emotional abuse: withholding of love, attention, loving touches, or words of acceptance. Love is only given based on acceptable performance, etc.
Abandonment: would fall under the category of emotional abuse and can occur when one or both parents leave the child physically or mentally. Adults can also experience the devastating effects of abandonment if important people in their lives leave suddenly or violently.
Verbal abuse: People must hear loving words of acceptance to develop properly. Verbal abuse can be overt or covert. Overt: aggressive, angry words which tell you that you are flawed or unacceptable Covert: loving words withheld
Physical abuse: beatings, unfair discipline, locked in closets or dark rooms, food withheld, etc.
The effects of abuse can be devastating and long lasting. Many people never recover from abuse.
Although I functioned as what appeared to be "normal" in society, I had multiple inward problems and complicated personality disorders. I will name a few of the things going on in me at that time that prevented me from righteousness, peace, and joy that Romans 14:17 declares is the kingdom. God the Father sent Jesus so we could have and enjoy "the kingdom."
I was bitter about my past and had a chip on my shoulder, which caused me to have the attitude that everyone owed me preferential treatment. I was full of self-pity, especially if things did not go my way. I was controlling, manipulative, fearful, insecure, and harsh. I was just plain hard to get along with and often downright obnoxious. I was judgmental, suspicious, and very negative.
I experienced a lot of guilt and condemnation. I had a shame-based nature; therefore, everything I attempted was poisoned. Since I did not like who I was, I spent many years trying to be like someone else—I am sure you are getting the picture that I was quite a mess.
Now, what I am getting ready to say is important. I WAS BORN AGAIN AND ACTIVELY INVOLVED IN CHURCH LIFE. We attended church regularly and did church work. Our lives revolved around the church, but I was not getting victory over my problems. In fact, the really sad part was that I did not even understand that I had a problem. I thought everyone else had a problem; and if they would change, I would be happy.
In 1976 1 received the Baptism of the Holy Spirit. Acts 1:8 speaks of receiving the power to be witnesses. Notice it does not say to do witnessing, but to be witnesses. The Bible says we are to be living epistles read of all men, light in a dark world, and the salt of the earth. Doing is a different thing than being. I had my outside polished up, but my inner life was a wreck. Quite often the inner turmoil exploded, and then everybody could see I was not quite what I appeared to be.
The outpouring of the Holy Spirit in my life gave me a real love for God's Word and an ability to understand the Word like never before. Second Corinthians 3:18 (paraphrased) says that as we look into the Word of God, it is like looking into a mirror; and we are transformed into His image from glory to glory.
I have been changing ever since. I have changed, and changed, and changed; and I am still changing. Most of those problems are completely gone and the rest only flare up occasionally. I even look differently—I look younger, happier, and more peaceful.
Second Corinthians 5:17 (paraphrased) says if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things have passed away; behold, all things are made new. But that really does not mean everything from the past just vanishes. The Amplified Bible brings it out this way, "Behold, the fresh and new has come!" In other words, without Jesus there is no hope of newness of life; the past always affects the future without the power of God to overcome it. But even with Jesus, it is not automatic. When the fresh and new comes, there is opportunity; but we must give the Word of God an exalted place in our lives. We must face the truth as revealed to us in His Word, and then the truth will set us free if it is acted upon.
I want to encourage you! Keep pressing on. You will keep changing if you stay in the Word. Philippians 1:6 (paraphrased) says He that has begun a good work in you is well able to bring it to completion. Hebrews 12:2 (paraphrased) says look to Jesus who is the author and the finisher of our faith.
Now I am enjoying kingdom living: "Righteousness, peace, and joy." And no matter what your past has been or how many problems you have, God will do a miracle for you. He will change you into the image of Jesus Christ and give you a new life worth living.
When we are in the trial or tribulation it is hard. Very hard. I have found the quicker I seek Him and surrender to His will, the quicker the trial seems to end. I have had my terrible trials but the key was always to keep my eyes on Jesus regardless of what was happening around me. This is the lesson we must learn from Peter. The storm was blowing all about him, but he WAS WALKING on the water until he took his eyes off of Jesus and began to worry about the 'real world' around him!
God is not moved by need, HE is moved by faith. Trusting Him is what will stir Him up to intercede in your behalf. Please remember though, God does not send nor make our trouble. He allows the enemy to attack us under certain circumstances (ex. maybe if we are getting slack about our faith or if it's time for us to come into a deeper level with Him) However do not forget we have an enemy, satan and his fallen angels are the ones that are out to do us harm. They are always seeking to destroy us. God may allow these things to occur but it is up to us whether we 'go around the mountain one more time' or not. We will take the same test again and again if we fail. Sandy is right, Joyce Meyer is a spectacular teacher especially for those of us that have issues and struggles to deal with.
Having thrown pots, I love the parallel of this to our lives as followers of Jesus. We are the clay, HE is the potter. There is a reason they call it 'throwing' pots, because you must throw the raw clay hard, REALLY hard! Over and over again, against the hard surface to send all the air bubbles and impurities out of the clay. (If you don't, the pot will tear on the wheel or explode in the kiln fire!)
I have cried out, like the 'pot' would in the kiln if it could talk.... "The fire is hot, it burns!!! Please take me out of this I can't stand it.... if I don't get relief soon, I am sure I will die!" Then when it comes out of the fire it is stronger, more beautiful than when it went in.... It must undergo this process over and over until it survives the first firing.... Then it gets a glaze coating and goes BACK into an even HOTTER fire! Then it comes out a finished product that is useful to the creator.....
There are more parallels to the throwing of pots and the Christian walk but I think you see my point. Also when we are feeling weak, down-trodden by the trials and tribulations, that is when our Christian Brothers and Sisters are to help us. That entails my 'eagle story' which many of you know already. If you wish to read it, PM me or you can read on Whitehorse's thread.
We are to help others when they are down. Then when it is our turn to be in the valley, God will have others there for us.
{{{HUGS}}} for each of you, you are all so very dear! Jesus, help us keep our eyes on YOU!!!
~Cyberwing
"During my childhood, I was abused sexually, emotionally, verbally, and physically.
Many of you reading this article have also been abused, or you deal with someone in your life who comes from an abusive, dysfunctional background.
What is abuse? It means to misuse, to use improperly, to use up, or to injure by maltreatment. Let me give you a brief definition of the four types of abuse.
Sexual abuse: considered to be the most degrading and offensive. It consists of molestation, rape, incest, exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls, etc.
Emotional abuse: withholding of love, attention, loving touches, or words of acceptance. Love is only given based on acceptable performance, etc.
Abandonment: would fall under the category of emotional abuse and can occur when one or both parents leave the child physically or mentally. Adults can also experience the devastating effects of abandonment if important people in their lives leave suddenly or violently.
Verbal abuse: People must hear loving words of acceptance to develop properly. Verbal abuse can be overt or covert. Overt: aggressive, angry words which tell you that you are flawed or unacceptable Covert: loving words withheld
Physical abuse: beatings, unfair discipline, locked in closets or dark rooms, food withheld, etc."
all of that stuff has/is happening to me. as a matter of fact..i just picked the lock on the closet i was being locked in. i havent eaten in the past 3 days and my father does stuff to me then beats me when hes done. i know about the damages of child abuse. the physiacal and mental damage. its alot harder than most people thik to stay alive when i know that nobody wants me to be here.
"During my childhood, I was abused sexually, emotionally, verbally, and physically.
Many of you reading this article have also been abused, or you deal with someone in your life who comes from an abusive, dysfunctional background.
What is abuse? It means to misuse, to use improperly, to use up, or to injure by maltreatment. Let me give you a brief definition of the four types of abuse.
Sexual abuse: considered to be the most degrading and offensive. It consists of molestation, rape, incest, exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls, etc.
Emotional abuse: withholding of love, attention, loving touches, or words of acceptance. Love is only given based on acceptable performance, etc.
Abandonment: would fall under the category of emotional abuse and can occur when one or both parents leave the child physically or mentally. Adults can also experience the devastating effects of abandonment if important people in their lives leave suddenly or violently.
Verbal abuse: People must hear loving words of acceptance to develop properly. Verbal abuse can be overt or covert. Overt: aggressive, angry words which tell you that you are flawed or unacceptable Covert: loving words withheld
Physical abuse: beatings, unfair discipline, locked in closets or dark rooms, food withheld, etc."
all of that stuff has/is happening to me. as a matter of fact..i just picked the lock on the closet i was being locked in. i havent eaten in the past 3 days and my father does stuff to me then beats me when hes done. i know about the damages of child abuse. the physiacal and mental damage. its alot harder than most people thik to stay alive when i know that nobody wants me to be here.
First let me assure you that you are wanted. Second, let me ask you if you are able to get help out of this situation and into a home where Love exists and is freely given? If not, how can we help get you someplace safe?
you shouldnt love me..its a waste of energy.but who am i to stop you?
Though my words will not convince you, you have given me great hope this day and I have found great worth in you. You are a great person and someday I pray that you will see the worth that is within you. The worth that others are not seeing, the worth that only you possess. I do love you.
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