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Unread 30th June 2010, 02:49 PM
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Would you date a convicted felon?

OK, first, a little disclaimer. I am not a convicted felon. I was thinking of another "would you marry a..." topic and this popped into my head. A felony crime can be somewhat "minor" like killing an officially protected animal (bald eagle for example) or it can be pretty serious, like armed robbery, assault, rape, etc.
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Unread 30th June 2010, 03:02 PM
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Unread 30th June 2010, 03:16 PM
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hmm
we have to look at many things
was the conviction a correct ruleing or not? a lot of innocent people get sent to jail
if the conviction was just then
how much time since the conviction?
what was the crime?
what was the motivation?
how has this person developed mentally, spiritualy and socialy since the felony?

really you can not say yes or no one way
it has to be a case by case thing
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Unread 30th June 2010, 03:19 PM
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Originally Posted by b.hopeful View Post
Yes...if I truly believe that they had changed. Wise as a serpent, harmless as a dove

this.
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Unread 30th June 2010, 03:24 PM
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Yes..... Like you said there are several factors to consider, not just oh my they went to jail.
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Unread 30th June 2010, 03:38 PM
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What if I've... I mean. . . they heh...heh... have killed people. . .

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Having worked on the mission field with a christan charity that rehabilitates ex prisoners, I have met many men who have been saved and completly turned there lives around. If this person was now a comitted christian man I would hve no pproblem marrying. If God has forgiven them, forgotten their sin and washed then white as snow in the blood of Jesus, who am I too judge.

For example there wass one Pastor of our church. Hes an ex high security prisoner, but you would never know when you met him! Hes a very Godly man, happily married with two children. Do you know what his crime was?...8 counts of murder of the peeople who murdered his family!
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Depends what they had done. If it was fraud, no. Dating a known scammer would be in my case, just asking for trouble.
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Certainly. I have one non-negotiable criterion: that she be a Christian, or saved, or regenerated, or... whatever you want to call it these days. Is she? Great. Oh, a convicted felon as well? Thanks for telling me, but the choice to love is mine alone and if it were true, Christlike love it cannot be effected by anything about that person.

Will it be something to be mindful of in the future in that marriage? Yes, but so will anything else so that seems to be a non-issue. Everyone is different and anyone I get invovled with will have their own shortcomings that I will need to rise to and fill in my own shortcomings for.

Originally Posted by Beauty4Ashes View Post
What if I've... I mean. . . they heh...heh... have killed people. . .

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I'd take a murderer. David was a premeditated murderer. Moses committed murder, but of the "Voluntary Manslaughter" kind (still murder, of course).

If Christ forgives and holds fellowship with them, can I be holier than Him? Can I turn her down on spiritual grounds?

What if she isn't quite rehabilitated? None of us left on earth are rehabilitated from sin. Christ maintains fellowship and love for us, his bride, in spite of that. Can I deny my bride what Christ gives to me in greater quantities? Oh, I can. But I'd be the more wicked of the two of us for it.

"Ah!" some might say, "fellowship with the Lord is broken when you are still struggling with active sin!" Christ, even in the midst of sin while fellowship isn't sweet or close, does not abandon nor does he get angry and sulk or nag or make personal accusations or say "You need to get your walk together. I'm leaving and when you get it together I'll be back." He says "You need to get your walk together and I will give you the energizing, the love, the kindness and even the punishment necessary to bring you back to me because left to your own you never would."

Not that I advocate punishing spouses in Christ's name (There is a sect that believes in spanking wives. ).


Would I date/marry a felon? Yes. Even if she was still struggling? If I believed I could be a bolster, an edifying force for her... sure. Not to "fix" her, because only the Lord can with her cooperation. But to be a stepping stone to Him?

I ought to be ready and willing. I imagine I could wimp out if faced with it, but I'd still be wrong for it.
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