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Sad I can't feel God anymore

I used to have such a strong relationship with him about 2 years ago and it was amazing. Then later I began dating they guy who claimed to also be a christian but one thing led to anyother and we ended up having sex and I moved in with him.

Then, since about January I started feeling God talking to me. Like he really wanted to have a relationship with me again and he wanted to help me. So I told my boyfriend and since then we have been trying to have sex less. Now I can't feel God at all. I pray and ask him to help me stay away from temptation and ask for a relationship with him and to let me feel him again, but I get nothing. I know that God doesn't always answer our prays with what we want, but it's really starting to hurt me, I'm feeling very abandond.

I try to read and pray everyday and not have sex. My boyfriend is planning on proposing to me very soon and we even talk about getting married emediatly after so we're not living in sin anymore. I know my boyfriend wants a better relationship with Christ too. He says he can feel God with him though, and since I can't that kind of hurts. I don't understand why he can feel christ yet he doesn't read the bible or pray, but I do and I can't feel him.

I feel like God can't hear me anymore or doesn't want me. I'm so lost
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Originally Posted by Megann* View Post

Then, since about January I started feeling God talking to me. Like he really wanted to have a relationship with me again and he wanted to help me. So I told my boyfriend and since then we have been trying to have sex less. Now I can't feel God at all.

Ephesians 4:30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.

How do we grieve the Spirit of God? by living in willfull sin and not obeying his promptings. How can you expect to feel Gods presence if you are grieving his spirit? He is likely hiding his face from you because you have grieved him, God does this in extreme cases to get us to pull out of sin and turn back to him.

Hebrews 12:6 FOR THOSE WHOM THE LORD LOVES HE DISCIPLINES, AND HE SCOURGES EVERY SON WHOM HE RECEIVES."

Revelation 3:19 I correct and discipline everyone I love. So be diligent and turn from your indifference.


Be glad that God is making you miserable right now for its evidence that you truly do belong to him. If you were able to go on in sin and feel no remorse over it then that would be a bad sign.

Hebrews 12:8 If God doesn't discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all.

Originally Posted by Megann* View Post
I pray and ask him to help me stay away from temptation and ask for a relationship with him and to let me feel him again, but I get nothing. I know that God doesn't always answer our prays with what we want, but it's really starting to hurt me, I'm feeling very abandond.
Its starting to hurt you? how do you think God feels about you doing things that he doesnt agree with? Trust me I speak from experience when I tell you that as long as you are going against his will you can expect to feel abandoned.

Originally Posted by Megann* View Post

He says he can feel God with him though, and since I can't that kind of hurts. I don't understand why he can feel christ yet he doesn't read the bible or pray, but I do and I can't feel him.
Satan can also appear as an angle of Light (2 Corinthians 11:14), im not saying your boyfriend is not saved but you need to be aware of this and so does he.



Satan never presents sin as it really is. He never presents both sides of the story, pro and con. He presents only what he wants us to see, something that appears fun and exciting. He wants us to focus on pleasure, on what feels or looks good at the moment. He wants long-term consequences to be the last thing on our minds while he entices us to sin.


Satan wants us to be comfortable in our sins, the last thing he wants us to do is for us to really look at our standing with God as God commands us to do.

2 Cor 13:5 Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves.



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Its not about feelings because they change no matter what we do but about action. Praying daily and reading the bible is how one gets closer to God.

Your boyfriend doesn't pray? How can one have a friend and not talk to them? So, how can one not pray and know God? This isn't possible.

We can't keep sinning. God wants us to be in this world but not of it.

I would take one day at a time and when u have a relationship with God then u can spiritually hear his voice.
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Originally Posted by salida View Post
Its not about feelings because they change no matter what we do but about action. Praying daily and reading the bible is how one gets closer to God.

Your boyfriend doesn't pray? How can one have a friend and not talk to them? So, how can one not pray and know God? This isn't possible.

We can't keep sinning. God wants us to be in this world but not of it.

I would take one day at a time and when u have a relationship with God then u can spiritually hear his voice.

Yes and Amen.
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Thanks guys for your help. I'll definitly take your advice and just try to take it one day at a time
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Hi Megann,
I'd suggest you read the Bible and pray with your boyfriend everyday, and make a promise to each other to get closer to Christ as you get closer to each other. Doing this will strengthen your relationship to the Lord AND your boyfriend, and put you both on the right track in wanting to live a life together that glorifies God. Blessings to you!
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Very interesting what everyone has said.
Remember, God should always be our priority.
'The person who fritters away the early morning in other pursuits than seeking God will make poor headway seeking Him the rest of the day.' E.M. Bounds
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God should be your main desire, by your post it seems that letting go of your boyfriend is not an option. Perhaps that is where you need to start since it is making you sin. If you truly belong to the Lord he will discipline you, one of those ways is conviction. I get this feeling that you want God but you don't want to sacrifice anything, you cant serve two masters.
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I used to have such a strong relationship with him about 2 years ago and it was amazing. Then later I began dating they guy who claimed to also be a christian but one thing led to anyother and we ended up having sex and I moved in with him.

Then, since about January I started feeling God talking to me. Like he really wanted to have a relationship with me again and he wanted to help me. So I told my boyfriend and since then we have been trying to have sex less. Now I can't feel God at all. I pray and ask him to help me stay away from temptation and ask for a relationship with him and to let me feel him again, but I get nothing. I know that God doesn't always answer our prays with what we want, but it's really starting to hurt me, I'm feeling very abandond.

I try to read and pray everyday and not have sex. My boyfriend is planning on proposing to me very soon and we even talk about getting married emediatly after so we're not living in sin anymore. I know my boyfriend wants a better relationship with Christ too. He says he can feel God with him though, and since I can't that kind of hurts. I don't understand why he can feel christ yet he doesn't read the bible or pray, but I do and I can't feel him.

I feel like God can't hear me anymore or doesn't want me. I'm so lost

Honestly, though a lot of people can not accept this, many people do not see marriage itself as being important in terms of a ceremony, but in the heart. They can feel married even if they have not had a ceremony and genuinely consider themselves married. No wonder there are "common law marriage" laws in place in many states.

But not everyone can accept that, and so they are effectively living in sin. It does not take long to go and get a marriage certificate. It is a very simple process. If you put it off because you want a bigger ceremony, consider this: What is more important? Your conscience and stance with God, or a ceremony? But, consider another point as well: you can still have that ceremony as a renewal of vows anytime you wish, and so please both families.

Really, if you two are committed to each other, plan to stay together for the rest of your lives, then you are doing as God intended you to do. What many couples do is live together and they keep "their options open". They do not get married because their hearts are not committed to their partner. They are essentially adulterous and impure in heart.


It doesn't seem like that is your case, so you are fortunate.

Go and get the marriage certificate, then.


You have an obligation to persuade your partner to do that.

If you really want it, make it easy for him, and do not let up... how can he refuse?
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Dear Megann ,

I believe it would be best for you to take a break from being boyfriend / girlfriend . And then seek The Lord without the conflict of interest or unholy distraction .

Then if after a few weeks , you begin to sense The Lord's Presence again , that will affirm you've done the right thing - for if getting into this uncertain relationship led to The Lord's Presence abating , getting out ( at least temporarily ) should lead to His recognizable Presence being restored .

Also get the impression that the talk of marriage is partly due to guilt + rationalization of what continues to be a questionable relationship at best .

You're still quite young , marriage suits mature individuals , because it challenges us to be unselfish , hence people who marry selfishly , in immaturity , have much difficulty , and usually don't endure for long .

After The Lord's Presence is tangibly restored , then you should sense better whether to consider dating / marriage again .

It doesn't sound like you and your bf are currently on the same spiritual wavelength , therefore , think it's better to try separating for a while , to seek The Lord individually .

May The Lord's Presence Become Clearer as we to Him draw nearer .

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