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Unread 30th March 2010, 08:10 PM
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Question Anyone here over 35 and never been in love or never married?

I am just feeling like the "odd one out" on this one. I am in my mid-thirties and I have never been in love before or never married. I have dated but that was 10 years ago. If you have never been in love before or never married please explain why, if you would like, I mean was this something that you chose or was it something that you wanted but it seems that God had something else instore for you?
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Unread 30th March 2010, 08:12 PM
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Hi there my dear sweet brother,
Thank you for your post. I will pray that God will help you find the right woman for you, IF that be of His will. God bless you and lots of love to you!
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Unread 31st March 2010, 12:41 PM
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No youa re definitely not alone, although I understand where youa re coming from.

I can honestly say I have never loved anyone enough to want to marry them.

I believe that I was called to be single. I have dated and understand enough about it to make an informed decision to remain single. I chose to stay pure and not give myself to anyone until we were married. I do not regret this. It is something deeply ingrained in me.

Being single is not easy. You have to be comfortable with yourself, like yourself because you will spend a lot of time with yourself. I have friends who are supportive and who I can go to seek advice. Sometimes it is lonely, but you can be lonely in a marriage or in a crowd.
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Unread 31st March 2010, 01:20 PM
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Originally Posted by Elisha1961 View Post
No youa re definitely not alone, although I understand where youa re coming from.

I can honestly say I have never loved anyone enough to want to marry them.

I believe that I was called to be single. I have dated and understand enough about it to make an informed decision to remain single. I chose to stay pure and not give myself to anyone until we were married. I do not regret this. It is something deeply ingrained in me.

Being single is not easy. You have to be comfortable with yourself, like yourself because you will spend a lot of time with yourself. I have friends who are supportive and who I can go to seek advice. Sometimes it is lonely, but you can be lonely in a marriage or in a crowd.
Wow this is such encouraging words my dear sweet loving sister. Beleive it or not your message has helped me to understand my best friend a bit more. She too has dated but she has made a point for many years now (she is 35) that she will not marry, that she enjoys her single life. She never complains about wanting to be with a guy and all. She has her things that she loves doing and she tells me that is what makes her happy. I hope and PRAY that if it be the will of Our loving HEAVENLY father for me to be single that I have a heart like you and my best friend about this issue. THANK YOU so much for sharing your story and encouarging words. GOD BLESS YOU and lots of love to you
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I'm about 50% in that group. I've never been married but I have fallen for someone pretty hard before. For years I thought that it was my vocation to be celibate but I realized that I had been wrong all along. I had misunderstood the reasons for why somebody takes the path of celibacy so for most of my life I had no experiences with the opposite sex unless it was completely platonic.
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I'm about 50% in that group. I've never been married but I have fallen for someone pretty hard before. For years I thought that it was my vocation to be celibate but I realized that I had been wrong all along. I had misunderstood the reasons for why somebody takes the path of celibacy so for most of my life I had no experiences with the opposite sex unless it was completely platonic.
Hi there my dear sweet loving brother. Thank you so much for sharing your story. God bless you too and lots of love to you.
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well I am 50 and have never been in love or married. I figured as long as I'm not dead yet, there is still time for either or both. No you are not the only odd one out.
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I have never been married. I sometimes question whether I've ever been in love, either. I don't think I've had that mutuality of respect. I did have an intense crush on my last bf, but I don't know at what point that becomes "in love." We were having problems from the get-go due to our values being mismatched.

There's no one I dated whom I wanted to marry. Sometimes I think God is saving me for the right man. Other times I think that God at least has been allowing me to grow closer to Him, without the distractions of a man in my life.

But I would like to meet a decent man who is a match for me and understands what it means to be committed and unselfish.
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I have never been married. I sometimes question whether I've ever been in love, either. I don't think I've had that mutuality of respect. I did have an intense crush on my last bf, but I don't know at what point that becomes "in love." We were having problems from the get-go due to our values being mismatched.

There's no one I dated whom I wanted to marry. Sometimes I think God is saving me for the right man. Other times I think that God at least has been allowing me to grow closer to Him, without the distractions of a man in my life.

But I would like to meet a decent man who is a match for me and understands what it means to be committed and unselfish.
Amen my dear sweet loving sister, I completely agree. I would like to believe that Jesus has a special man out there for me but if he does not I would HOPE that he has a very good plan for me. I do hope it is marriage cause I really want that more than anything, but I can totally understand if it is something I just hope that Jesus gives me all the strength to deal with it.
God bless you and LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU and praying for you my dear sweet loving sister.
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