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I am tired of being single.

The title says it all. People will tell you to enjoy being single while you are, and I did. For eighteen years, I did. In a few short weeks I will turn 19 and I am absolutely sick of the single life. On top of that, there is a girl that I've been hung up on singe April 8th 2009. It seems like no matter what I do, I can't get her out of my head. Sometimes I manage to fool myself into thinking I'm over her, then suddenly I'll run into her somewhere and it all rushes back. I don't even live near her. I'm at least a good thirty miles away but I still seem to run into her. I just saw her for the first time tonight in months, and as soon as I saw her, it felt like I was getting punched in the chest. Just to keep myself from breaking down crying, I somewhat avoided her. I got a text a while later after she had gone home saying that she "enjoyed seeing me again tonight, even if I barely talked to her.. at all " I don't want to seem stand-of-ish or that I'm not there for her, especially when a lot of people at her school hate her. But it just kills me to be around her. I don't know what else to do.
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Well, what is stopping you from asking her out?
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Old 25th February 2010, 04:32 AM
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^^^ that. I know the feeling, I had it for one girl all throughout high school until I finally got up the guts to ask her got. Got shot down faster than I really could blink, but then I was over her. I mean, let's face it, the worst that could really happen is she says no... then you can move on. Lookit me, I've got a worse record than normal. Every girl who's shot me down (except for the first one, who was obligated to be near me in school and wound up with me in several projects because she shared classes with me) has NEVER SPOKEN TO ME AGAIN. It shouldn't be that bad for you, and it'll let you move on.

So, yes, moral of the story, ask her out and see what happens, worst that can happen is she declines.

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The title says it all. People will tell you to enjoy being single while you are, and I did. For eighteen years, I did. .
If you can't be happy at 18 being alone, good luck later in life.
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Old 25th February 2010, 05:09 AM
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dude the average age men get married now-days is something like 27 or 28. I'm 24 and if I got married now I'd be getting married earlier than average. You. Have. Time.
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Old 25th February 2010, 05:18 AM
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^^^ that. I know the feeling, I had it for one girl all throughout high school until I finally got up the guts to ask her got. Got shot down faster than I really could blink, but then I was over her. I mean, let's face it, the worst that could really happen is she says no... then you can move on. Lookit me, I've got a worse record than normal. Every girl who's shot me down (except for the first one, who was obligated to be near me in school and wound up with me in several projects because she shared classes with me) has NEVER SPOKEN TO ME AGAIN. It shouldn't be that bad for you, and it'll let you move on.

So, yes, moral of the story, ask her out and see what happens, worst that can happen is she declines.

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^this.


Ask her out dude. You never know. I have learned the hardway that if I like someone, I ask them ASAP without dely. Why? Because if she says "yes" I don't have to speculate and I'm happy. AND if she says "no" I don't have to speculate and it's a heck of alot easier to get over her. You have no idea how quikly feelings fade away after you get a "no". Take it from me ask her and ask her now... not later. You'll feel like a free man

I also gotta add that it isn't nearly as bad as Metherion has experienced. I've had a few experiences where girls have kind of shunned me [girls who shun guys for asking them out are crazy anyways]. However the vast majority of girls who have given me a "no" have said "hi" to me the very next day and were very freindly and still were very intrested in keeping a freindship. People typically tend to be level-headed
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If you can't be happy at 18 being alone, good luck later in life.

dude show a little grace try to remember when you were 18. I know when I was 18 I certainly felt old [even though it is hard to believe now that I'm 24]. Your just getting out of high-school, and you are officially an adult.... it's only natural that you'll feel older than you really are.... it's all about perspective.
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the light is always changing, the sea does not cease to grind down rock.
Generations do not cease to be born, and we are responsible to them
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I think you should get it over with sooner rather than later. Otherwise these feelings you have will continue to linger. A crush isn't worth wasting yours or anyone else's life over.
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Good grief. You're 18. You should be single because you're not likely to be in a position to marry soon. You don't need a girlfriend.

But if you really think you're ready to date, just ask that girl out. Seriously. Just do it.
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First, I assume if there's a girl that you've been hung up on for nearly a year, who also finds your company pleasant (by the text message at least), and you are not dating her? I assume there is a reason... either you feel she is off-limits (for a valid reason, not a lame one), and you'll just have to suck it up and get over it.. or you just won't or can't ask her out, in which case the only person you have to blame is yourself. All I can tell you is to man-up and ASK her. Get it over with and see what happens. Sitting on your hands won't get you anywhere. If you want to "let her know" that you're "there for her"? Try telling her that

Next, you haven't been single for 18 years. You've been a kid for 18 years... and now you're an adult and you've barely even begun to live. Now, I happen to be the type of person who is better off in a relationship, I have never ever been content as a single person.. I've never been bitter or anything mind you, but never truly happy either. I was just born to be someone's other half, and I believe some people are just like that. It's fine, that's part of who some people are. So I'm not going to sit here and tell you "If you can't be happy at 19 and alone, you won't ever be happy." Because I'm sure you will be at some point.

However, you are intensely young, and there is a lot of time ahead of you yet to complain about being single. Let's save it for age 40+, shall we?

In the mean time, just enjoy being young. Get everything you can out of your life. Show a little confidence and self-esteem, grab life by the horns and say "I'm going to live my life and make it awesome, and when I find someone, it'll be great.. but for now I'm a young adult and I have plans to fulfill in my life." And if you don't have any plans.. I suggest making some, because you do need to keep on living, even as a single individual.

Sorry if that's all a little blunt but I've never been one for the sympathy talk.. I'm sure someone else will give you that All I can tell you is that this moping just won't get you anywhere. You are way too young to be bitter about singlehood. You've barely. even. lived. Don't waste youth complaining about a life barely even begun yet.
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