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Question Best marriage advice to a soon-to-be-married couple?

What would your best marriage advice be? As short or as long as you want.
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Unread 22nd February 2010, 02:02 PM
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Conflict is neither good or bad, it's how the conflict is handled that is good or bad. A case can be made for the idea that a complete lack of conflict is bad because it means that one of both aren't truly and openly sharing themself.
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The best advice I can give is one I wish I'd received myself. Be a good partner. Sure you may be tired... your spouse may sometimes engage in something you find to be boring. Do it with them anyway. Don't get in the habit of doing things "together but separately." Don't allow your own desires to ever overshadow your marriage. Not to be trite, but there is no "I" in team. I can guarantee you that keeping this in mind will only help mature your love for one another.
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Keep your priorities from getting out of order

1 Your relationship with God
2 Your relationship with your family

Those priorities will be challenged time and time again
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since its a female asking the question, my answer is, be sure that he treats you with love and respect, that he takes the time to understand you as a person. to know that you are both heard and validated by him, and that your feelings, desires, needs, and hurts are cared about by him.
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Both need to put God first before your spouse. Always please God before spouse. This is especially true for the man who assumes the role of leader (by example not dictate). Read the Bible about how you should be. Husband - try to understand your wife. Wife - respect your husband.
Always speak the truth "in love". The best thing my parents taught me was by their example - soon after an arguement they would cool off then confess to one another for sins, forgive then vow to try harder followed by a tender embrace. They have been married now for 60 years. Wish I could have done this in my marriage.
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I would say:- communicate. Are there things you don't talk about? can't talk about? It won't get easier or that is he won't suddenly be able to speak about things he is now silent about. Go in with your eyes open....Don't assume it will all work out...talk everything through...make talking about intimate things a cornerstone of your marriage...and also pray together regularly....learn to say sorry. Make sure he does too....(If either of you can't talk frankly about sex, can't say sorry, can't pray together then there will be trouble down the line).....You probably do all that anyway!!
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Make a committment to your marriage, rather than your spouse! Some days your partner will annoy you, misunderstand you etc etc. Some days you may not like your partner that much (but still love them). Committing to your marriage means that you understand this, as everyone is human. This helps get through the bumps in a marriage. This has worked for my husband and I (married 23 yrs happily), and keep God at the centre of your marriage. May God Bless you both
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Okay, glad this was asked.

1) Please make sure the man's food is prepared on time and the way he likes it

2) Clean the house regularly, laundry should be clean at all times

3) No back talk, when the man speaks, the woman should listen

4) Guys night out - don't even try to stop this one

5) Romance - be ready and willing at all times

Ha, ha, oops, I diverged into a little fantasy. There is one thing that helped me and my wife of 20yrs, see the marriage as an instution under God that is to be respected and fought for. The marriage is not about who is right, it is a contract, you are obligated to make it work, you will have to compromise, you will have to discuss differences. We had a rocky start, but I held fast to my convictions, I made changes so the marriage would be healthy, not just so my wife could 'win' - I think that is an effective attitude and will get you through tough spots. Finally, don't give up on your 'ideal' marriage, but at the same time be realistic - most guys are just like old dogs, they respond very similarly, we really aren't that hard to figure out or manage, we just like a simple routine mostly.
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Okay, glad this was asked.

1) Please make sure the man's food is prepared on time and the way he likes it

2) Clean the house regularly, laundry should be clean at all times

3) No back talk, when the man speaks, the woman should listen

4) Guys night out - don't even try to stop this one

5) Romance - be ready and willing at all times

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