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Why can't I repent and be saved!?!

I am so tired of hearing, "if you desire to change that's enough of a repentance and as long as you're sorry for sinning and trust Christ your saved." I know this isn't what repentance is so why do people keep comforting me and telling me I'm saved when I know I am not!

There is nothing I would love more than to serve God and to have genuine faith in Christ and be dead in my sins to bring glory to God and to serve Him in some kind of ministry and dedicate my life to Him... but I can't. I have been struggling with sin so much and I just can't repent of it. Of course I can say the words "Lord I know I'm a sinner and that Jesus Christ is Lord and died on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead. I'm sorry and I trust in you for forgiveness, it's sufficient enough for me, and I will turn away and invite your spirit in me and submit to your will so that I can bring glory to you." Yet words are only empty words. I desire this, yet my heart seems to be deceiving me because I keep on sinning and am heavily addicted to sexual immorality and pornography and self gratification. I have become lazy in my work because I am so despondent because I know I am going to hell and no matter what I do I can't repent. I say the words and I desire to AFTER I sin, but not during the sin, even though I know I should stop. I don't want to hurt the other persons feelings and I love the feeling myself so it is impossible for me just to turn from it. I'm afraid I might hurt them and then they won't want to come to Christ either. I'm so lost. These sins have consumed my life and I want to be free of them, yet I can't STOP. Every time I'm tempted I act on them, theres no fight, there's guilt but no fight. I'm come to the Lord so many times begging for forgiveness yet my heart must be deceiving itself and not truly repenting.

I no longer no what to do. In all honesty, I'm not suicidal so this isn't a threat because I'm not going to harm or kill myself, but I just feel like dying. I feel like hell would be sufficient because at least there wouldn't be this anxiety over my salvation. Or perhaps I am saved and will go to Heaven to be with Christ. I don't know what to do anymore, I can't seem to care. I just.. I've brought this up to many people and everyone just says "theres a struggle so you're saved." That's great people think this but anyone who habitual sins is an indication that they are not saved and this sexual immorality, pornography, and self gratification is more than habitual it an addiction and I cannot be freed from it and I know that freedom is in Christ but I don't know how to rely on Him for it. It feels like my soul is in the wrong body. Someone please help... I don't know what to do. I don't want comfort, I just want honesty and truth.
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Unread 14th November 2009, 05:13 PM
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Get yourself away from the opportunity to look at pornography. Cancel your internet, let a friend hold on to your computer for a while, whatever you have to do. Separate yourself from the material and fast and pray. Your will is worthless. You must act and flee from this sin. Do this for at least a few weeks and assess your situation.

God is merciful and loving and is there for you. Call on Him.
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Also say 'Lord, I can't deal with this', then just hand it over to Him and let Him into that area of your life.
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Get yourself away from the opportunity to look at pornography. Cancel your internet, let a friend hold on to your computer for a while, whatever you have to do. Separate yourself from the material and fast and pray. Your will is worthless. You must act and flee from this sin. Do this for at least a few weeks and assess your situation.

God is merciful and loving and is there for you. Call on Him.

Great advice, give up the computer and seek God with all of your heart.
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I am living at home so I guess I can ask my parents to place a password on the desktop, but I also still need it for research for school papers. But regardless is this genuinely repenting? Isn't it a change of mind that leads to a change of action... I am so lost right now.. and its not just the computer its relationships with other girls as well..
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"There is nothing I would love more than to serve God and to have genuine faith in Christ and be dead in my sins to bring glory to God and to serve Him in some kind of ministry and dedicate my life to Him..."

Paul wrote in Romans 7:
23But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
24O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?

And also:
For that which I do I allow not: for what I would , that do I not; but what I hate, that do I. Romans 7:15

Now I ask you this Brother, If Paul, who considered himself the chiefest of sinners, who are we to expect ourselves to be any better? Paul was one of the most loyal of Christians. God bless you brother. Jeff
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Wow faceofbear..I feel like we share the same life...but the advice these guys are giving is good..especially Grampajeff..being someone that struggles with almost the same stuff as you..his post and those verses have spoken to me a bit.
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You might also try an accountability software program such as X3Watch. I heard about this program a while back and basically what it does is it records whether or not you're on a porn site and it then sends a report to an accountability partner that you choose which tells whether or not you've looked at any porn. If you have, your accountability partner can talk to you about it and lead you in a prayer of repentance or something.

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There is nothing I would love more than to serve God and to have genuine faith in Christ and be dead in my sins to bring glory to God and to serve Him in some kind of ministry and dedicate my life to Him... but I can't. I have been struggling with sin so much and I just can't repent of it.
Fist step down bud you desire to follow God..your farther than most of the world in this part.

Of course I can say the words "Lord I know I'm a sinner and that Jesus Christ is Lord and died on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead. I'm sorry and I trust in you for forgiveness, it's sufficient enough for me, and I will turn away and invite your spirit in me and submit to your will so that I can bring glory to you." Yet words are only empty words. I desire this, yet my heart seems to be deceiving me because I keep on sinning and am heavily addicted to sexual immorality and pornography and self gratification.
Saying it is one part..you also need to ACT, I can tell you that I am addicted to the same things you are man. There is strength in the Cross! you pray for forgiveness and guess what? YOUR FORGIVEN! that's whats awesome about God! he is faithful and WILL forgive us! But after you ask for forgiveness you need to REPENT! now you got the first part of repentance down..feeling sorry about it and asking for forgiveness, the second part is acting on it. You need to remove yourself physically from the areas of the sin! if the computer causes you to sin my friend CHUCK IT! just as the bible says if your hand causes you to sin chop it off! its better to enter heaven with no hand than to continue sinning! You have the ability..you are probably saved just based on your desire to follow God and the distress that sinning against him causes you! its very possible to be saved and lack self control, what you need to do is ask and pray for self control! one problem I noticed with myself and self control is I was relying on MYSELF for the self control, but how helpful is your flesh anyways? stop saying how can YOU repent..its how can GOD HELP you repent. So my friend..ditch this computer of yours! tell your parents about the problem! put yourself on purpose into a situation where this porn addiction, and sexual problems are more easily controlled, and that could include an accountability partner....someone you would have to face after every screw up. You can do it man.


BTW temptation isn't a sin! its how you deal with it that will make it a sin or not! if your tempted to look at porn..thats not a sin..the second you are tempted FLEE from the source! don't coddle it or go " I can resist this" no..you RUN from it! go find something else to do! read your bible! find SOMETHING that will purposefully take you away from the area of temptation.
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