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...to tell me what you really think about me. Let me explain:
I got an e-mail today that reminds me that I have officially bottomed out. Without going into details I'll just say that this is something I've been working hard toward for a long time and every time I meet with someone they act like they can't wait to work with me and like we may be friends. However, the story always ends the same: I get a phone call or e-mail saying that they're picked someone else and apparently all I did was waste my time by spending hours talking and meeting with them. It's absolutely frustrating and all I can figure is that I'm doing something wrong, yet no one will tell me what this is or be honest. I can't fix a problem if I don't know what the problem is and the only answers family and friends give me are the typical "Wait on God's timing" or "It's not you, it's them" routine. Those are cop-out answers that dodge the question and don't tell me what I need to know.
So I'm asking all of you: what's wrong with me? Am I too arrogant, too annoying, too naive, or a little of everything? I know you may not know me in person but I'm not much different in real life so my posts here over the last year, I feel, I have been an accurate representation of who I am and what I believe. What I'm looking for is honesty, not warm fuzzy answers to make me feel good. At this point I don't think there's much anyone could say to make me feel good but honest advice would be helpful. And for those of you who hate me or find me irritating, here's your chance to let it out so take advantage of your pass while you have it.
People seem to secretly hate me and I don't know why. I NEED to know so I can fix this and stop wasting my time and everybody else's as well. So what's the problem? What am I doing wrong that makes it so hard for people to like me and give me a fair chance?
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I don't know you well enough to say this with certainty, but just as my best guess, I think it's largly do to your lack of confidence. If you go in to meet someone and you are thinking in your mind, "this is going to fail, they're going to hate me, etc" then chances are, they probably will. If you went into the same meetings with the same people, and your personality was exactly the same, only your attitude was more like "I have a lot to offer this person, I can't wait to meet them and show them what I can do for them" you will probably have much better success. Not saying every single person will love you suddenly, cuz everyone has their own agenda, but confidence can play a huge role in how you are perceived.
And don't mistake confidence with pride. You don't have to walk around thinking you're the best at everything. But what you may need, and what is healthy, is an understanding of who you are and what you DO have to offer people. If you don't feel like you have anything to offer people, you won't. But I've seen enough of your personality on here to know that you do have things to offer people. You just have to have that confidence to get out there and actually do it.
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I don't really know much about you, except that the greatest girl ever has a major crush on you.
What else matters? Really? You're a lucky guy, if you ask me.
God Bless You!
Austin, I haven't known you long but from what I've seen you're an awesome, wonderful, guy! This post bums me out. It hurts me that you think this way about yourself. I'm so blessed to have you as a friend!
Prehaps it's a lack of confidence that you're missing? Trust me I know how it is to not like yourself. I'm still working on this myself. Just remember God doesn't make junk! God never say "oops" to anything he creates! He has a wonderful plan for you my friend.
I know if you're like me you may not believe a word I'm saying right now. My advice? Get into the word and seek the TRUTH. The thoughts that "I'm not good enough," "There's something wrong with me", etc are LIES from the enemy my friend. Satan is a liar! As a child of God you can rebuke him and say to him "get lost" and he has to obey! !
I hope something I've said helps. I'll be praying for you. If you ever need a friend please know I'm always here.
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Also, the job market is tough right now. There are a lot of people going for not many jobs. It may not be that they didn't like you, just that they had a lotttt of people to choose from. Have you thought of asking for feedback as to why they didn't choose you? That way you could find out the real reason cos I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have hated you
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All this time I've been saying no, but all this time I've been meaning
Yes I'm ready to take your hand, follow you into the promise land
I'm a fool for you
In bilico tra santi e falsi dei, sorretto da un'insensata voglia di equilibrio
I don't know you super well, but from what I've seen of you on here I've always thought you seemed charming. And that's not just me trying to make you feel better...but I hope it does.
I hope you get your break soon, or if there is something that you need to change I hope it'll become clear to you.
If this is work related or concerning finding work, PM me - I have been able to coach and help people in this regard in the past. I have interviewed people in the past, and can do a "mock" interview with you over the net and then when you are done I will analysis your answers and tell you what I think, but I must caution you - I am a very blunt person. Working on this, but blunt!
I don't know you all that well, you are a very pleasant guy maybe a little lacking in confidence though. If you don't have good self esteem then that will be given off as a vibe maybe.
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