Struggles with SexualityA new forum open to ALL members who are struggling with sexuality issues (including homosexuality). All posts will be reviewed before being made public. NOTE: Only Christians are allowed to reply and offer support here.
What is it like? The very idea of it freaks me out.
I masturbate everyday and I can't imagine not doing so. The only time I went without masturbating was when I went on a two-month mission trip.
I'm afraid I'd miss it too much.
Not many Christians like to talk to me because they figure I'm just a backslider and someone who isn't really serious about getting right with God. Maybe they are right.
For me, I really cling to mastuirbation, for various reasons. Its like my one source of joy, its liek my drug. How can i give that up? I can totally see me refusing God's life line because I don't want to give up this masturbation.
I have social phobia and an awkward personality and few friends. I've never gotten serious about growing up and confronting my fears.
I used to try hard, but never got victory, and now I no longer try any more, so I guess that means I'm no longer saved, I don't know. Even the idea of losing my salvation doesn't really hit me hard enough to motivate me.
Last edited by Isaiah54; 6th November 2009 at 11:50 AM.
Reason: A bit hard? - OP may feel condemed - I want to write another post and be sure the love of God comes through to him.
No one loses their salvation over masturbation. Cross that one off. There are many posts on this topic, which prove how common it is an dhow divided Christians are about it.
To answer your question of what it is like to be celibant: It is wonderful! I struggled with masturbation for 26 years, and now that I am free from that addiction, my life is a lot better. I praise God!
You say masturbation is like your drug. It is an addiction, and like any addiction it will destroy your life. You have social phobia because you masturbate. Yes, masturbation makes people mentally unstable, even mentally ill. I know, I struggled with it and know the difference now that I am free. It also can make people physically ill. If you keep doings it long enough, you will get very sick. I know from experience.
If you don't repent of it before your condition gets worse, then perhaps the consequences of illness that come from masturbation will change your mind.
My advice to you: seek God with all of your heart and don't give up seeking Him. Let nothing stop you. Get your heart right with your Creator. Believe me: it will save you a lot of grief.
I used to do the same thing you did for a very long time, but God has brought me to a place where I no longer need to masturbate as much anymore. I do not think one would lose salvation for that, but I encourage you ask God to help you if you want to repent. God also considers the heart so if you really want to stop, ask him to help you. Trust me, it is very worth it.
I used to be like you too but God has brought me to a place where I no longer need to masturbate. I don't think you would lose your salvation but I believe it would help your walk if you repented. God knows the heart and if you want to stop, you can ask God to help you. It was hard for me but it was worth it
Last edited by BarryWestern; 7th November 2009 at 01:11 AM.
Masterbuation is one of the things, addictions if you will, that if your not 100% committed to quitting then you won't ever be victrious. It's all on you man. No one can make you stop masturbating but yourself. To give up everything for masturbation doesn't seem like the best thing to me. Think about it. What is it? About 10 minutes of self pleasure with a climax that last less than a minute. Doesn't seem worth everything to participate? If you want to stop you can and more than likely you will need help but masturbation is not "everything" and there is more to life than that.
As a social phobic who struggled with sexual sin (not just masturbation), I can tell you that the urge comes from the anxiety much more from the lust. If you truly have social phobia, the root is an excess of nervous energy. Sexual sin is immediately attractive to us because sex involves a relatively certain release of that energy and tension.
The best way to start your road away from a true masturbation addiction is, find more healthy things to devote that excessive energy to. See my response in the other "Masturbation" thread for more thoughts.
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"As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly." -Proverbs 26:11
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