Christian Family Problem

Just turned 18 year old daughter has moved out of the house, and in w/ her boyfriend. As a mother of the daughter who raised the daughter in a christian home, what should the mother do? The mother in my opinion is being way to passive about it. However she claims that she will learn from her mistakes. Should not the mother be more outspoken about putting her foot down? and in fact trying to at least confront her daughter in a more outspoken way? Advise needed and is appriciated very much.

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Originally Posted by Anonymous Voice

Just turned 18 year old daughter has moved out of the house, and in w/ her boyfriend. As a mother of the daughter who raised the daughter in a christian home, what should the mother do? The mother in my opinion is being way to passive about it. However she claims that she will learn from her mistakes. Should not the mother be more outspoken about putting her foot down? and in fact trying to at least confront her daughter in a more outspoken way? Advise needed and is appriciated very much.

If I read your post correctly, the 18 year old is not your daughter but you are asking what the mother should do in this instance?

I do not think there is a single specific answer to this question since there are a number of variable which are unknown to me, yet important.

That said, I do believe that the mother needs to communicate to her daughter and her boyfriend that their decision is spiritually wrong and not something she can or will approve of. Beyond this how she "puts her foot down" is a bit dependent on the specific situation and the relationship between the mother and her daughter.

And no mention has been made of the girl's father, so I do not know how to bring that factor in.

What is your relationship to the mother in question? Has the mother asked for your counsel?

Chaplain Steve

the entire family who was a very christian family recently changed churches from a conservative based baptist church, to a very liberal presbaterian based church, in you opinion, what effect can that have on the family, because I notice a very change in morally the way they talk and act ever since they changed churches. are presbterians considered liberal or much less traditional then other church denominations, thx for any help you could post, I'm the aunt who is also the neighbor, who is only trying to help.

There are conservative and liberal Presbyterians so one label does not fit all. Liberal churches often place less emphasis on biblical morals and that can influence behavior.

As the aunt you likely will have the most impact through prayer. Prayer can do what words can not at times.

Steve