Just got Engaged, going to talk to the priest tomarrow. have a question
Ok were going to talk to the priest tomarrow, and were both really nervous, biggest problem is we live together, have you ever heard of a priest not marry a couple because they live together?
I really have a problem with lieing and i know a lof of my friends who have lied to the priest and said they wern't but im not going to do that, i will tell him the truth im just worried he will refuse to marry us.
Ok were going to talk to the priest tomarrow, and were both really nervous, biggest problem is we live together, have you ever heard of a priest not marry a couple because they live together?
I really have a problem with lieing and i know a lof of my friends who have lied to the priest and said they wern't but im not going to do that, i will tell him the truth im just worried he will refuse to marry us.
Depends why you are living together and depends on the priest. They are given a bit of leeway. Almost everyone in my marriage class was living together. The priest could decide not to marry you but that would be on the outside edge of possible. I live in a college town and often people live together for economic reasons before any other one. They are not playing at pseudo-marriage...so often what I see is that people get an extra bit of time or an extra segment of class discussing the situation.
It is possible he will ask that you seek separate residence if financially possible until you are married.
Hopefully, the ideal situation for you in this, you get a priest who will explain why living together and marriage are different, assess your situation on it's own merits and just make sure you understand some things. But he will still marry you and take into account the financial constraints that may have caused the cohabitation.
Don't worry too much. Be honest.
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Depends why you are living together and depends on the priest. They are given a bit of leeway. Almost everyone in my marriage class was living together. The priest could decide not to marry you but that would be on the outside edge of possible. I live in a college town and often people live together for economic reasons before any other one. They are not playing at pseudo-marriage...so often what I see is that people get an extra bit of time or an extra segment of class discussing the situation.
It is possible he will ask that you seek separate residence if financially possible until you are married.
Hopefully, the ideal situation for you in this, you get a priest who will explain why living together and marriage are different, assess your situation on it's own merits and just make sure you understand some things. But he will still marry you and take into account the financial constraints that may have caused the cohabitation.
Don't worry to much. Be honest.
well i own my own home, her parents live like 5 miles from me so its not financial i just like her being there, to be honest after i got home from iraq i can't stand being alone at night, its kinda weird and that might be part of the reason i like her living with me so much now but i just hope he doesn't say he won't marry up, i could actually refrain from being sexual and i know thats wrong right now also, actually i can understand him saying the sex is a bigger deal then the living together
well i own my own home, her parents live like 5 miles from me so its not financial i just like her being there, to be honest after i got home from iraq i can't stand being alone at night, its kinda weird and that might be part of the reason i like her living with me so much now but i just hope he doesn't say he won't marry up, i could actually refrain from being sexual and i know thats wrong right now also, actually i can understand him saying the sex is a bigger deal then the living together
Given what you have described, be honest. I doubt he will refuse to marry you. Let him know how much marriage means to you and tell him you are willing to not have sex and focus the upcoming time on the impending marriage and your life together. Priests deal with this all the time.
I would honestly be shocked, given what you have said, if he refused to marry you.
Above all my congratulations. My wife and I just celebrated our 6th anniversary and had our first little girl who is 5 months old. Many blessings on your life together. Thank you for serving in Iraq and my God bless you both.
Again, just be honest. Let him know you want to marry each other and that you are willing to work with him, take the marriage classes and talk about the differences between living together and marriage.
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Given what you have described, be honest. I doubt he will refuse to marry you. Let him know how much marriage means to you and tell him you are willing to not have sex and focus the upcoming time on the impending marriage and your life together. Priests deal with this all the time.
I would honestly be shocked, given what you have said, if he refused to marry you.
Above all my congratulations. My wife and I just celebrated our 6th anniversary and had our first little girl who is 5 months old. Many blessings on your life together. Thank you for serving in Iraq and my God bless you both.
Again, just be honest. Let him know you want to marry each other and that you are willing to work with him, take the marriage classes and talk about the differences between living together and marriage.
thanks you i really hope he doesn't refuse to marry us i guess ive never actually heard of that happening but ive been nervous for a few weeks about everything
Welcome home, soldier. I think that some of your anxieties might be due to your overseas service, and that what you are experiencing upon your return to the United States might be natural.
I hope that your meeting with the priest goes well. Do you and your fiancee know the local priests? If so, your intuition will probably tell you which priest to choose. In my town, I can only think of one priest who would give you a difficult time, and people with concerns about their living situations just avoid him.
(One left the parish because of her divorce and remarriage to a non-Catholic, went to another church with a nicer priest, and lo and behold, her husband was baptized and their marriage solemnized in two years. Are you listening, priests? You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar....)
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The priest may not marry you when you tell him that you are living together. Perhaps it is best to do the right thing and live in separate residences until you are married.
The priest may not marry you when you tell him that you are living together.
thats what im worried about. guess we could always do like everyone else nowadays and just lie but we won't well tell the truth
and i really don't know the priest that great but hes basically the best priest ive ever heard, ive been going back to church for a little over 7 months and hes great so i really hope he will do this
thats what im worried about. guess we could always do like everyone else nowadays and just lie but we won't well tell the truth
and i really don't know the priest that great but hes basically the best priest ive ever heard, ive been going back to church for a little over 7 months and hes great so i really hope he will do this
I've been married so long (39 years) that my memory is a little fuzzy, but I don't recall the priest who married us asking us any questions about our living arrangements or sexual activity. I don't think you need to volunteer any information that isn't specifically asked, but I wouldn't lie, either.
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